but seriously, you need to learn how to write in paragraphs. A single block of text like yours is painful to read, I gave up after the first couple of sentences.

Hmmm...reminiscent of Paris Hilton?  And here we thought you were mellowing.

I wonder how our friend Leo is doing? lol

Of course I am mellowing, I've spent the last couple of weeks in Medellin, I am so fucked out I don't have a choice but to mellow at least a bit. lol

First, let me acknowledge this is an alias.  Only because I wouldn't want to offend any ladies I've seen. Nor would I want to potentially prejudice any hobbyist against a lady they might be considering.  Although, I doubt very seriously it would anyway.  These are personal feelings and observations and only mine.  As always in the hobby, YMMV.  I'm approaching a milestone in the hobby, although it's not one of particular length or note.  But, I have seen enough of a sampling of ladies over time that it has caused me to reflect somewhat.  Maybe it's that damn new years thing.  Early on, I saw a posting from a newbie that was somewhat conflicted.  A seasoned hobbyist warned him that if you cant "find em, fuck em, and forget em" you probably don't belong here.  My initial reaction was "how cynical".  After all, I have relationships with other service providers superficial though they may be.  They are still somewhat based on personal like, professional courtesy, and mutual respect.  How much more I thought, from someone willing to let you fuck em.  At the risk of sounding like a mangina I have to say though.  I have been lied to, stood up, on one occasion even made to feel like an outright fool, and a cornucopia of other experiences.  I'm sure there are plenty of providers that would say they have experienced those multiplied several  time over.  I get that.  It's just a microcosim of life itself.  But, I'm in the hobby for a brief respite from life.  Maybe that's unrealistic, I don't know?  Before you chastise me for lack of research.  I only see well reviewed ladies that are at the upper end, IMHO, of the price scale.  No 100.00 BP ladies.  Don't get me wrong, I have had some rockin' experiences with ladies that I really enjoyed their company.  But, as the over used saying goes, "it is what it is".  I don't hate feeling like I was wrong.  I hate feeling that I've found yet something else to be jaded about.  So, my apologies to the gentlemen that I once privately derided as robotically cynical.  "Find 'em, Fuck 'em, Forget 'em"?  Indeed!.  Perhaps it is I that doesn't belong here.  Just my .02.

submitted on 11/30/10 about old dogs and new tricks....sorry dont know how to include the blog as a link

hope you get to feeling better, though, sounds like you're having a bit of a spell

Find em, fuck em, forget em.  Probably a good practice for the hobby but I feel sorry for these guys who feel this way.  There is a saying that you leave a piece of yourself behind with everyone you make love to.  I think that this is true.  And, for me, a fuck load of pieces went out the door this year.  LOL

I consider myself a hopeful romantic.  As a result, I have been made into a fool at times.  I hate this.  But, I love beautiful women more.  I really do try and show respect for each lady.  You can just hope that she does the same to you.  I have the highest respect for the ladies that show me respect in return.  And, this happens quite a bit.  I think that I am lucky to have met the wonderful Ladies that have become friends.  

I did get what you were saying, PinSeeker. And I think we've all been there at one time or the other, if we are brave enough to admit it. I have found myself getting emotionally invested or attached or whatever you want to call it, to a provider with whom I felt a connection and ended up being made to feel like a fool...very recently.

But in the end it is just a business, isn't it? I mean the business is fantasy, right? For an hour, or two or three or for one night, we are looking for that fantasy escape and are willing to pay for it. For me, it is more than just a physical thing. It is the entire package. So I also have a hard time with find 'em, fuck 'em and forget 'em. I fondly remember each and every one of the beautiful women I've seen over the years. And yes, even the one who made me feel like a fool.

Just my .02.

there is nothing to take home with you.
Not a bad thing trally!  You are right about about one thing, it
is  a high personal sport.  You would be dead if you did not click
with some of these girls over time.  

My guess is the find em and fuck em guy probably had a
"relationship" of sorts that went away as most relationships do sooner or
later and that was his coping mechanism.  Nothing wrong with that.

Raw no strings sex is great but doing business with friends us great too.

Don't think about it too much, just have a good time.  Now go find one
of the ayl's finest to give you bbbjcimnqns!!!