Please answer in alias if you want to answer truthfully and its not your normal board position. I'd actually like honest harsh, nice, whatever feelings.

I'm pretty honest, at times to a fault. My family knows what I do, I have no babies so I have no issues to protect. With that said, I find it very hard to say something I could say rather than something that needs to be said when dealing with people. I don't try and hurt anyone at anytime for any reason but when I'm in situations and people say something, I feel almost compelled like Jim Carey in liar liar to tell the truth rather than spare emotions and feelings. Its like I'm trying to lie but it just wont come out. I'll say nothing, smile, change subject but I will not lie to make you feel better. If you ask and I think it will hurt you, I'll ask you if you want me to tell you the truth, in a manner that will say, "you may not like my answer" but I won't start out with a lie.  

Personally, I think all the PC'ing that goes on only tends to make us a weak society full of cry babies that throw tantrums when angry, that can't take no, can't take rejections, harsh words, not being liked by everyone, let downs or things not going their way. I'd prefer to learn from what people say about me, let me know, if it is from a good place. I accept all love, whether I want to hear it or not, I should still take head. If you never know, how can you grow. We are becoming a society of I'm me, there go, I deserve!

My question is this,  

1. whould you rather have an honest or politically correct society?  

2. Honestly which are you? Why

3. Would you like to change? Why/not

I believe in telling the truth, although like you, I'll try to spare others' feelings.  

I'd really rather get the truth from someone about whatever issues they may have with me. Some things I can change, others I can't. If it's something I can change that makes something worth it, I'll change. If it's not something I can change, at least I know where I stand.

One reason I'm now divorced is that my wife would never tell me the truth about problems with me. I didn't know what to fix because I didn't know what was wrong.

I'm now in a bit of turmoil over my favorite provider because she lied to me, I don't know why, and I don't know if she's lying to me now about important things (cancellations, postponements, etc).  It's injecting drama into my life, and one reason I started seeing providers was to not have to deal with the drama that romantic relationships usually create. So I may wind up not seeing this provider anymore, even though there may not be anything wrong. It would be so much simpler (and better for her, too) if she'd  just tell the truth

Hey you,
Thanks for your response.
I know what it feels to walk out of a failed relationship and not know what the hell just happened. You cant change what you don't know and when you are left not knowing why, it's kind of hard to heal from it.
 Have you written your lady and told her to be honest with you NO MATTER WHAT IT IS?? I cant stand when someone drags me and doesn't value not only feelings but also my time.
You kinda don't know what your next move should be because you not sure what her next move is!
 I hope you get the answers you need even if they aren't the words you want to here.
Its still better knowing.
Big Kiss, sweetie!!

Honesty is always the best way to go.  
Sometimes that has gotten me in a jam or too but if you're a douche I'm gonna tell ya.  
As for me if ya think I'm an asshole then by all means tell me.
Actually has helped me in life with folks at times get all the air cleared and move on versus holding things in.  
I think that folks are generally too PC and I hate when I have to be for work or something. I don't go around looking to cause a stir but I generally speak my mind.

just let it fly as diplomatically as is deserved. It should be considered as constructive criticism.

Where is my lion's blood?

Yeah right. roflmfao

I don't go out of my way to hurt anyones feelings, but I don't suffer stupid, and I do have a habit of being a bit blunt when called for. Many people like that about me, at least as many dislike me for it. I don't lose any sleep either way.

IMO there is a difference is being mean just to be mean, but sometimes SOMEBODY has to tell it like it is, I often seem to be that person.

BTW I also have no kids, no boss and no wife to hide from. I do what I do openly and don't apologize for what I do to anyone. I may be many things, but I am not a liar or a hypocrite. When it comes right down to it, I am too lazy to lie, and there is no one's opinion of me that matters so much to me that I would lie to garner their approval. Like Popeye would always say "I am what I am" lol

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The truth because I would usually know the answer as I have been around too long and usually know when someone is giving me a line of BS.

Love this +1.  

I think there is a time and place to be brutally honest - but sometimes being honest is just brutal and serves no purpose other than to hurt someone.  In a former career, I could have told someone who had a pet they loved dearly that they were incredibly stupid to let that animal run off a leash so that it was hit by a car - but what purpose would that serve other than to further hurt the person if that pet was dying in front of us on an exam table?  On the other hand, I would likely tell someone in no uncertain terms about doing something that could give their pet killed if I thought brutal honesty would help avoid a terrible accident.

Perhaps an extreme example but I think there are many others.  

 

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Do I hear an echo?? GaG I could not agree more! I have the same habit of speaking my mind and like you, some love me for it and some don't. I believe that the truth and honesty no matter how beautiful or ugly that truth may be does set some free. I would much rather someone say "you are beautiful" and be truthful about it or Id also rather someone say "your breath is bad" if it is rather than say "oh no it's fine" if it really isn't.
Problem is, some people wouldn't know the truth if it bit them on the ass!  
BTW GaG and Joi you both are two of the most out spoken and truthful people I know and I adore you both for it!
Hugs and kisses
TL

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What do you do when you actually do meet someone truly special and you are out of adjectives to describe because you've used them all on people not worthy?

When I do say something nice to someone, they can take it to the bank that I actually mean it, because I don't say nice things to just anybody. least of all some slut, Oops, strike that, I am actually most likely to say something nice to a slut, especially my favorite slut))

Smooches back atcha babe, you nasty little devil you, lol

here is big difference between truth and saying truth when you know it is going to hurt someone. In these situations, it better not to say anything at all.

We don’t walk around telling people you are fat, you are ugly, blah…..blah….blah

When people say stupid things and someone gets hurt or when the reaction is not what the truth sayer expected, then the truth sayer try and hide behind; “it is truth and I always say the truth” or I don’t agree with “political correctness”, etc.

Has anyone ever know of anyone that doesn’t tell the truth

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