I don't give a damn about what music ( if any ) is playing .
I don't give a damn about the lights being dim and the candles lit.
I only see beautiful providers and like to get a good look at them.
That other stuff may be important to some of the guys, but not me.
I do appreciate the effort to try to set the mood, but it's not important( at least to me).
Maybe it's just me, I don't know. Just needed to get that off my chest. I hope nobody is offended.

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This thing is about what you want out of the encounter.

as a highly reviewed provider friend told me, ""the atmosphere is for me (her) not them (the rest of you johns )."  lol

And can appreciate it, but there have been a few times when I've been with a beautiful woman and couldn't hardly see her because it was so dark. That was frustrating. I've even asked a couple to turn the lights on.

That poor lighting with candles flickering helps the provider's appearance.

visual

Lots of women do not pass the "light of day" test. I've known a lot of strippers over the years, I once owned several dozen condos that I couldn't sell and ended up renting about thirty of them out to strippers. Seeing some of them during the daytime without their "warpaint" on was a very sobering sight. lol

I had yet another provider friend tell me that she knew the proper lighting was achieved when she couldn't "see" the customer clearly.
lol

And you'll both be happy.  Or unhappy (as the case may be).

You should embrace it and let her have something that pleases her and makes her comfortable.

I'm with you on most points, I do however, care about the candles, I can't stand them, especially the scented ones. They nauseate me. If I had my way though, I'd like the room to be well lit so I can see the lady I'm with. that's my .02

Usually there is a video camera involved and I've got the shades off the lights and widows open trying to get the room nice a blazingly bright!  I turn off all sound, no music, no tv, so I can focus on the slurp, slurp, gag, slurp.

Maybe the music drowns out your monotonous voice. Not every woman wants to hear Ben Stein talking dirty.
"Mood lighting" is a good way for her to avoid seeing you. Sure, you go for beautiful women but did you think that an obese Ben Stein without the handsomely thick wallet might look better in the darker single tea light lit apartment?

Watch, then imagine ladies that's me saying "Woww."

I must be hitting her G-spot... or maybe I'm too big for her... or maybe I've worn out a sworn nymphomaniac.. all these thoughts.... Look! Not everyone has to think about baseball to show a gal a good time.