So first let me say this is probably going to get me in trouble since I've not posted any reviews. I just prefer to keep my experiences to myself which I know is a bit unfair since I do read other reviews, and make decisions based off of them. So if you can't get past that, the rest of this post doesn't matter. Now, with that out of the way...there is a local provider who has literally over 100 glowing reviews...8-10 in both looks and service. I've gone back and forth many times, but had never seen her until today. To be honest...I was SHOCKED when I walked in. She was certainly nice enough, and the place was immaculate...but I just can't see how she would rank anywhere close to an 8, much less 9 or 10. Then, she is supposed to provide world class service.but frankly it was WAY below average with no enthusiasm. Personally, I don't like to say anything bad about anyone because it's just not my style. And...to each his own...everyone has their own tastes...but another part of me thinks I should post my review becasue it may sway another like me to go another direction. I've also seen guys get blased on this board when their reviews are so out of line with everyone else's...which this would be. Again, this provider has nothing below 8 in looks or service. In my opinion, the pictures are not her, she is clearly older than advertised, and much heavier. My gut is telling me to just leave it alone and just slink back into obvilion...but another part is not so sure. Would love to hear some thoughts...
I have only posted 2 reviews, but both of them have been very good, but not totally out of line with other reviews. However, I have seen 3 other providers who frankly did get great reviews but were only mediocre in my opinion. My solution was just to not submit a review on these ladies, because others found them great. Just figured it was YMMV. Am now having 2nd thoughts since like you, I rely on reviews quite a bit.
I am a newbie and have been researching someone who I think you described. This person gets 10/10 on every review unless some dude gives her a 9. Several years ago a gentleman gave her an 8 and his online write up was still somewhat glowing. But, I emailed and asked why only 8/10, b/c I thought nearly 2 years of 10/10 reminded me of Soviet elections where the Commies always win with 99 percent of vote. He told me her looks did not live up to billing, but the lack of enthusiasm was what killed it for him because it seemed clinical. Then, she sent him 20 flaming emails trying to get him to change his review. He also said the same thing you did about the in call. He figured out if he ignored her she would go away. Fortunately, this guy lives up north.
If you would like to PM me, I would love to hear the provider name to see if it was the same one. I only post b/c it will not allow me to email your alias. Hang in there bro!
You may not want to review because if it is the same person you will no doubt feel the wrath.
This ain't a tough call Bro, the fact you posted this thread tells me you know what to do
I say post it. That's what this forum is for. It is one mans experience and opinion. I used to work with a guy who thought a singer was the most beautiful, sexy thing alive. I think she is one of the ugliest least sexual appealing women alive. bigdell
I only ask to be reviewed if in fact you had a bad experience. I've gotten enough juicy details posted IMO. With that said, if every guy only posted the glowing experiences he has then that does not represent the intended purpose of the review system and in fact destroys it. It matters not if a lady is my "friend" or not, I don't think that should automatically cause anyone to stand up for someone who is not representative of a good time to someone else. It's your experience you are relating, It is what it is. If my friend were getting bad reviews I'd do more with her personally as a friend to redirect her efforts. It's not always easy to go against the grain but life is not a politically correct party. Some shit needs to be said and someone has to have the balls enough to say it.
You may get flamed, you may get harassed by the lady or her friends, call that bs out as well. Put them all on blast for bad behavior. This is about your experience period. The system is meant to give individuals each persons personal perspective on their experience with a provider. It's not to promote the misconceptions that we are perfect beings, or to discount anyone else's experience. People are quick to discount "back page" ladies but find it nearly impossible to reveal bad TER providers. Yes it may hurt her business for a minute but it may also force her to provide with enthusiasm and reveal the real her not the fake pic, photoshopped or over airbrushed version of who she used to or wishes to be.
If it was just a matter of no chymestry between the two then maybe nothing need be said but if in fact it was as stated, give others your honest opinion and allow them to make the choice. Maybe had someone else given a review of what may possibly be the same experience you would have second thought your options. Maybe if guys stop going with the flow, man up and be honest equally with good and bad, some of the horror stories could be avoided and ladies would have to actually step up to the plate.
This may be unpopular with some ladies and that's ok with me, I'm not here for companionship and I don't believe in review manipulation in any way and if guys are afraid to write about the bad times, they should also refrain from writing the good ones as well. Fair exchange is no robbery. Everyone doesn't always have a great time with everyone else, that's expected but when your thoughts and or experience was as you described then stand up and do what's right by your comrades. Only if and when guys start to report not just the good but the bad as well regardless of how many 10/10s a person has nothing will ever change.
That's just my opinion, but like ass holes everyone has one.
It may not even affect her. But that IS what the review system is about. I think you should post it. Doesn't seem like you'd be the kind to write the review in an asshole way. You simply got domething way different than expected. 100 plus reviews? Not one low score? She shouldn't be too bothered by that.
We have our blacklist, you guys have the review system. Use it. We need a little more honesty in this biotch anyway.
Lets talk about all these fakes reviews. Girls getting their regular clients to make bs ter accounts to give them 9/10 reviews, and/ or them do it themselves. Guys who contact girls for a glowing review in exchange for a discounted session. Wonder how many girls actually took those offers on.
Im proud to say that I've earned my reviews honestly. The most I do is ask for a review PERIOD. Not a glowing one. Not one in exchange for anything. And my scores prove it. I wonder about these straight 9 & 10s that are reviewed from EVERY guy that you (a provider) just so happened to whitelist. (One actually comes to mind) Hmmmm
Remember when twitter did away with fake accounts & some celebrities' follwers count changed dramatically? Wonder what would happen if ter did the same.
BWAHAHAHA!
Good luck to you!
-Nina
You may get flamed, you may get harassed by the lady or her friends, call that bs out as well. Put them all on blast for bad behavior. This is about your experience period. The system is meant to give individuals each persons personal perspective on their experience with a provider. It's not to promote the misconceptions that we are perfect beings, or to discount anyone else's experience. People are quick to discount "back page" ladies but find it nearly impossible to reveal bad TER providers. Yes it may hurt her business for a minute but it may also force her to provide with enthusiasm and reveal the real her not the fake pic, photoshopped or over airbrushed version of who she used to or wishes to be.
If it was just a matter of no chymestry between the two then maybe nothing need be said but if in fact it was as stated, give others your honest opinion and allow them to make the choice. Maybe had someone else given a review of what may possibly be the same experience you would have second thought your options. Maybe if guys stop going with the flow, man up and be honest equally with good and bad, some of the horror stories could be avoided and ladies would have to actually step up to the plate.
This may be unpopular with some ladies and that's ok with me, I'm not here for companionship and I don't believe in review manipulation in any way and if guys are afraid to write about the bad times, they should also refrain from writing the good ones as well. Fair exchange is no robbery. Everyone doesn't always have a great time with everyone else, that's expected but when your thoughts and or experience was as you described then stand up and do what's right by your comrades. Only if and when guys start to report not just the good but the bad as well regardless of how many 10/10s a person has nothing will ever change.
That's just my opinion, but like ass holes everyone has one.
If it's your only review, regardless the the preamble, I'd discount it. Assume someone with an ax to grind. It's trends not individuals that I read. That said, there are several people I've met who have earned my trust so they could change my mind. No way a single 1st time reviewer carries any real credibility. Not flaming, just saying...
I have a lot of emails and board responses where I have sought advice and people have reached out to me for specific information or opinions. It is the MOST reliable form and in my opinion one of the best uses of this site. There are a lot of people whom I have met and not met but over the years have some trust and friendships built around the hobby...
that first review somewhere.
I must admit my first review was my first great experience not my first experience with a big girl
with sycophantic reviews. In retrospect I know noe which would have been of more value.
Even 1st time reviews can be right. I've never seen anyone who gets 10/10 all the time. ????? Doesn't it make you wonder??
I think you should post your experience period. Way to many on here that manipulate the review system. I've had some that have rated me a 10 in looks, I've had some rate me a 6 in looks. Appearance is highly subjective but if she's totally a misrepresentation of what she advertises then honestly it really fucks it up for the guys wanting to see a lady that doesn't misrepresent themselves and for the ladies that work hard to earn their reviews.
Good luck on your decision
Xoxo
TL
I have yet to see you....just your pictures. Not sure how you can get only a 6 in looks
That's what this site is for.
Not to mention quite a few very well respected ladies gave you good advice to write your review and let the chips fall where they may.
I also agree that if it is your first review, don't expect it to carry much weight. Like in life, it takes a while to establish a reputation and for folks to get to know you. I also agree that networking is an important aspect of the hobby. Find some gents that seem to have similar tastes to yours and ask their advice. And sometimes asking a trusted friend - "what would you do in this situation?"... is a good sanity check. I have used that lifeline on occasion.
For both providers and clients, ultimately all we have is our reputation.
Do you present yourself fairly and accurately?
Do you have the right mind set when on your date?
Do you put your best foot forward and try to have a good time?
If there is a problem or misunderstanding, do you do your best to resolve it?
If you are fair and not mean-spirited, take all of this with a grain of salt, have fun, and most of all - trust your gut, generally speaking you will come through just fine.
In addition to electr0n and the rest of all the Review Away comments, I'd add this.
Review anyway.
1) If you review, you'll gain some measure of credibility within the TER community.
2) Many providers will say "I've had enough play by play, what didn't you like?" These ladies will take your advice to varying degrees - but most will appreciate your words.
3) On those occasions when you do need write a negative review on a Cut and Run, Bait and Switch gal - the Hobbyists are likely to believe you.
This all part of the process.
Otherwise, it looks like what Foguete said. Sure, you might be getting a long thread off this topic, but No Thread should be longer than the periodic BJ discussion - aka BJ's Rule.
ga_kosh
You are posting about a dilemma as to post your first review which would be a less then stellar one of a lady you accusing of bait and switch due to use of fake pics and misleading potential customers with fake body stats. If you choose to post something like this without names named
or a review going forward then this is a troll post leading to speculation as to who she is.
I understand your decision not to do reviews, but if your post is sincere you obviously feel like you were sold a bill of goods, no?
Also, I would not fear to much being slain by a white knight if you are truly doing the right thing. More people see through bullshit here, give the bro's and ho's some credit.
Good luck in making your decision.
It is a review, not a life sentence. Your review should be a narrative of your experience and not influenced by what you perceive others may think or do. Remember above all that this is a fee for service hobby. Yes, there are people and feelings involved so try not to be an a-hole, but by all means describe your experience and perceptions.
One think I have figured out through time is that a provider may start out like gangbusters, but eventually get tired of the business and either get disinterested or not care any more, or prefers to stick to a few regulars. I believe that it takes a great effort on the part of the ladies to remain great over time. The ones that are good and committed do, others just fade away. You also need to consider personal taste. I know that I got more enthusiastic service when I was younger, now it is just comfortable service.
Fear not and review on.
The purpose of this forum is simple- to offer guidance to others based on your experience. Call it like you see it. Post it!
It is a forum to review girls - as such it was always be subjective AND may change over time.
One mans 10 will be another mans 5
A girl that was once a 7 may perform at a 9 after time.
And finally a 9 in looks may move to an 8 or a 7 over time (getting old sux like a MoFo)
Post a review, read lots of reviews, be safe and most of all....have fun !!!
Only posting rare reviews creates a credibility gap, LS post above is spot on. Your opinion counts when it's consistent and predictable. You can be completely wrong in my opinion, but if you are consistent others can baseline and decide.
Create your own point system, and stick with it. For instance I score points on what's offered and successful in a session. I will rarely score below a seven if she has reasonable offering and tries to please, no punishing for simple personality mismatch. I will willingly give a 10 if she has this wonderful giving romantic attitude that transcends a service. Some think I give too high of score, but I don't care, it's my system and generally consistent.
Be fair in your numbers. Yes a 5 May be described as average, but everyone reads it as a horrid time. Hate to say it, but you need to ride the market curve, especially if you like the lady. I know one guy who always ranges 5-7. Reviews are in depth, I can easily translate his sessions into mine. No problem. But he has been flamed a few times in past, if you are like that, it's cool, just deal with (ignore) the flames.
Some people focus too much on the numbers, GaG has great theory on that. Ignore the numbers, understand the system. Find those you can follow.
Write enough that others can make a decision on their own.
When looking at prior reviews, especially ladies with lots of reviews, get a sense of time passage. People change. In 2 years a 10/10 may have gained 50 pounds, got burned out by too many of the worse cases, or had life changes in their real life. Big changes can happen in a few months here, so don't just rely on the trend. Read the recent reviews, does she sound like fun to you.
Sadly we have a fake review problem at times, learn to identify the bs ones. I am always amazed when I find cut and paste examples. But I also have found many sessions seem to follow identical scripts. Learn to reward ladies that can actually insert freshness to a session.
Like several have said, when in doubt, use the pm function. Especially if you find a reviewer that seems to track consistently with your opinion. I have had several update request from guys on reviews I wrote years ago, it's how the system works.
I've watched the thread today with rapt attention, you have been given very good advice from both women and gentlemen.IMHO. I know for a fact we have seen at least one lady, and yet neither of us has written the review. Why? well my reason is simple, she created a stir with her initial posts and I'd rather not have my name tied to that by default.
I would say write the review and let the chips fall where they may. I have met several ladies in person at M&G's who have 10's, that in my opinion weren't close to that in appearance...By the same token I have seen some who were 8's that were 10's..Appearance is 100000% subjective...
The only number that has to be consistent for me is the performance, I will then read the reviews and the reviewers other reviews to see if there is a consistent parallel...
You can write a review without being cruel and harsh, picturesque speach is a very good term for how to describe the way you do so...I don't think saying she's 50#'s over her stated weight is appropriate, but maybe"her pictures were taken from a very figure flattering angle" may be a way to say something like that.
I also agree that providers can change for the worse, sometimes in just a month, lack of sleep, bad habits, and personal health issues can play a huge part in scores that decline rapidly. If it's an agency girl, maybe she doesn't like the screener, or she has issues with the other girls...It would be reflected in her performance...This is a service industry, regardless of what we call it..and often times we tend to forget that we are paying for the illusion of a girlfriend. On a very rare occasion there may be real chemistry between 2 people, we are human after all, writing a review after such an appointment is going to greatly inflate the scores....
Whether you decide to write the review or not, do the guys that are PM'ing you the courtesy of naming names with some details. The girls share if they have a bad client, why shouldn't we share bad experiences as well ?
My thoughts.
A reviewer can provide an objective and informative review without making it personal. Also, to add to some of the posts above, readers will come to know your preferences by way of your reviews. Afterward, your reviews tend to be taken somewhat in that context.
When I do a critical review I do in from the role of what I found versus what I expected from prior reviews and the web site presentation. I do not make it personal to the girl (i.e. sagging tits, bad teeth, etc) as that is really quite mean spirited. I will mention that the web site and reviews present an image of a petite girl, but I found that she was not, or if the reviews mentioned DDD boobs but she had A instead. In other words, a misleading presentation.
I would encourage reviews. Also, it helps in that if someone comes to know you by your reviews then it helps toward future bookings. An example, if a Stockings69 has seen a lady and likes her, I have learned that I probably would as well, and vice versa. He and I fans a great legs on a lady.
Go ahead and write the review. Be objective and candid, but don't use this as an opportunity to bash the lady personally. Just mention your thoughts of the encounter.
Welcome and good luck.
that's the point of this site, go ahead an post
First...I want to thank everyone and let you know how much I appreciated the honest, respectful dialogue. I'll admit I was sort of expecting to receive nasty or negative comments, but in truth, everything I received was positive...even the PMs. Looking back, I probably made a bigger deal out of this than I should so please know I will try and avoid drama in the future. Based on the comments, I'll be posting an honest review of MY time with this provider. My intent will not be to tarnish her reputation or be unkind in any way. But I agree that guys should hear all sides before making a decision...so review coming. Another GREAT outcome of my post is I may have found a true DIAMOND. I had a nice conversation with Taylor Leigh, who I've not met before and believe she could be a dream come true for me...so in that sense, it was worth putting up the post.