....they want to see. Live with it!

why are there ? So many provider ad say no black man. What black guy spend money too. The only color that matter is green.

Why do peeps keep aksting this question?  If a chick doesn't wanna bang a brother, she doesn't want to bang a brother.  I don't bang fat broads.  Call me a fattist if you want, but there ain't enough smoke to get me hard in front of the rhino girls.

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their menu, their choice. Get over it.

How many hobbiest pick the ladies based on color, size, age....etc and stick to only those.

If it bothers you......move on. GEEZ

It's b/ they can't handle their "big" size, supposedly. They'll get sore and be done for the day.

1.  Some blacks (and some other racial groups) don't have high standards of personal hygiene.
2.  Some blacks don't treat providers with respect.
3.  Your dicks are too big!!!!

Don't shoot the messenger.  I'm just passing on what I've heard.

King Dee,

    There are several reasons why a provider might include "No black men" on her ad.

1. A negative experience with a black client might cause her to generalize and assume that all black men will behave in a similar, negative manner. As woman concerned for her safety, her financial security and (frequently) the well being of her family, she may decide to avoid the perceived risk altogether.

2. Due to decades of socio-cultural conditioning she may in fact feel uncomfortable with black men. Her level of discomfort would might very well contribute to a lackluster performance, which could in turn result in a negative review.

3. She might subscribe to common stereotypes about black men concerning penis size, criminality and aggressiveness. In order to preserve her safety (and presumably the structural integrity of her vagina) she might eschew the company of black men.

4. She might publicize her unwillingness to see black men in order to cater to a particular type of client. There are indeed white men who believe a woman's "worth"is diminished by the fact that she has had sex with a black man. I'm not sure why they would be in this hobby, but I am sure there are some around.

   Regardless of her reasoning, every provider - nay, every WOMAN has the right to decide who she has sex with. Although I might not agree with the reasons for her policy, I respect her right to have said policy.

    That said, I notice you have 10 reviews, so I assume your race hasn't been that much of an impediment to your hobby pursuits. Furthermore, for every ONE provider who won't see you because of your race, there are TWO providers who don't care what race you are, so long as you are respectful, have good hygiene, and provide the agreed upon compensation. So why sweat the handful of women who, for whatever reason, won't see you? Why waste time railing against this perceived "injustice" when there are scores of providers who would be willing to see you? Happy hobbying my friend.

P.S. For anyone who cares to label me a racist, an apologist or contest my claims about most providers not caring, I should probably point out that I'M BLACK.

Then you would know he didn't understand a word you said (typed).

I understand most of the points but you have to understand that its very unsettling to Blk men to be denied a service based on your race.  It just doesnt sit well more than anything.  This is not the same as me choosing a lady based on her race as its a fantasy.  The provider isnt there to live out their fantasy but to provide you with one.  yes it is their right to choose who that can will and want to refuse service and I will die defending their right doesnt mean it should go over well with Blackmen nor does it mean Black men shouldnt be unsettled by it.

Based on my experience , I like a variety of men.
However by me being a midwest  lady from Chicago, I like my men  to  be educated and professional.
My Atlanta experience with black men is mixed ...
I dont like some Atlanta black men for the following reasons
~cheap & haggle on my rates
~illiterate
~Ghetto
Dont get me wrong I've seen some great black guys here...However there is a percentage in which  is not my type.
In the same token , I've browsed a few of the local boards to  only discover other forms of racism such as black men not liking black women
or foriegn black women vs american black women...
Its a shame that racism/sterotypes exists but thats simply a choice that a person has to make.

... 20% of the U.S. population are black (or persons of color or what ever politically correct name you want to use).    86% of U.S. prison population is ... (you guessed it) Black.

 They call it a stereotype for a reason.

I am black as well.

as the definition of a stereotype contradicts your implication.

A stereotype is a popular belief about specific social groups or types of individuals. The concepts of "stereotype" and "prejudice" are often confused with many other different meanings. Stereotypes are standardized and simplified conceptions of groups based on some prior assumptions.

The term stereotype derives from the Greek words στερεός (stereos), "firm, solid" and τύπος (typos), "impression," hence "solid impression".

Like EvaGodiva said "I dont like some Atlanta black men for the following reasons
~cheap & haggle on my rates
~illiterate
~Ghetto"

Sounds like the stereotype that was being talked about. So I was adding that 20% of the population is making up 86% of the prison population to show that the stereotype of the "Black man" is not a well perceived stereotype. That is why a provider might not want to entertain a Black man.

Thank you for trying to set me straight.

"Simplified perceptions" being the operative phrase.  The only thing that surprises me is that you knew the definition, yet you went forward with using it in your implication anyway.

Thank you!

Good luck with that!  I hope you find your Niche.

is start of your problem. It is an attitude thing, with that kind of an arrogant attitude gets every where and everything.

On another note, people have right to decide whom they want to associte and not, it is that simple.

Why do some black women won't see black men?

I've heard several providers say, that penis size with black men is an issue.  One lady I was with told me how great I was, and that she was nervous at first.....and I don't even have a 12 incher lol.

At the end of the day, whatever the provider's reasons are, racial or not....its her preference.  Yes, in this day in age, it does bother me to have any negativity because of race, being denied a service as this, or anything else...however, it's the woman's body, time, and preference.  It's best to just let it go, as there are many other great providers who will see black men.  Just be sure that you treat her like a gentleman should, and of course have great hygiene regardless of your race, so at least that won't be the reason.

King Dee if you look back under my threads you will see that I asked the same question well over a year ago and I got a different type of responses some were bad but for the most part they were good and I got different reasons from women as of why they didnt see AA men, even got some request from those who would see me. Telling you from experience the best thing to do is to move on. Why would you want to see someone who is not interested in you anyway? I understand were you are coming from and probably just want some understanding and at the end of the day it doesnt matter, Im sure you have seen your share of ads and for some reason or another you pic and choose who you want to see whether it be price, size, race, ect, you still have the option of choosing who you want to see, and the providers (women) have that right as well.

Imagine having a confirmed appointment and being turned away - see link.  I would rather know upfront and continue looking.  So I applaud providers who have their preferences in their ads or web site!!

After all, its a hobby not a job ... Now let's have FUN!!

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What an interesting thread. The squeeze has nothing...without getting moderated...right Dirty D???

But look on the bright side, at least you get to keep your money lol. All kidding aside if you're respectful and you screen easy you shouldn't have a problem in Atlanta. And trust me the ladies do talk if you're hung like a horse, cheap or smell bad they will talk.        

Has anyone ever noticed that you never see any of the African American escorts on here complaining about how they never have any white clients?
Give it a rest Dude! Not EVERYTHING in this world is racially biased or motivated.

The way you worded your comment seemed to suggest that there were statistics that supported a stereotype; which you seemed to be implying was reasonable; which caused me to question whether you understood what a stereotype was.  If that isn't what you were driving at though, then I retract - though I would have to disagree that discrimination is much more irrational than you citing statistics would suggest.  

The stats you used weren't even close to being correct, by the way.

for a client to expect his money to be enough to obtain something that's for sale??  The logic isn't there at all.

Dee!  There are enough women out there who believe that the only color they care about is GREEN, but there are others who have a preference, for one reason or another.  

I agree that it *shouldn't* matter, but honestly, I don't want to spend my $$$ on anyone who doesn't want my company.  I'd rather she say it up front rather than have her ruin my experience by giving me a rushed or sub-par session.

btw, I noticed that your reviews are of "women of color", which leads me to believe that you either don't see or don't review Caucasian sistas  ain't hatin'...just sayin' LOL

since you happen to think everything for sale is a "sack of potatoes"! Logic is a funny thing, it can absurd like yours.