...having a civie relationship with a guy (even if you really
like them and they feel the same about you) because they
participate in the hobby?
If you did, would you ask them to quit? Vice-versa? Both quit?

I wouldn't blame any lady for not responding to this as I understand
that answering could jeapordise business for you (depending on client
fantasy). Certainly don't want that but it's a very interesting question IMHO.

Feel free to pm. Love to hear the fellas thoughts and experiences as well.

Sir Cumalot

dunno bro that's kinda hard given the circumstances of how you met.I only know one provider that has pulled it off.Truly it takes an exceptional guy to accept her and her situtation and be that secure in their feelings for each other.Virtual minefield of obstacles I should think.But they are proof to me it can happen(because of who they are).
 The very best, that I've gotten to know well, have the ability to find something about every man that allows them to connect for a period of time.A few that I have known that do 6,12 &24 or weekends , have told me that it's about falling in love with them during that time.
  To be sure we are all unique, but I would just caution anyone that is considering seeking this kind of relationship ...."EYES WIDE OPEN"
tc 2hot...

Best to stay friends and leave it at that.
if you get into relationship stage its another ball game.

Remember most relationships end in the civie world too.

So who is the lucky lady, cumalot?

over the years I have seen post like this wondering of how it could be wonderful to have a relationship with a provider or how fantastic the hobby is or how witty and charming and smart and blah blah blah such and such provider is.
Then bam 5 months later our boy is ready to retire...whatever  it happens all the time

Hey listen, if you have some great experiences in the hobby then that is great for you. I just agree
with 2hott, best to stay friends.

very strong

'Lucky' is not a word I'd use to describe any lady with me LOL!

No one in particular. Have met some very smart, witty, and striking ladies in this (that I now consider friends, at least on my part) and can see how feelings could grow (if the right chemistry).

Dan

Thanks BB

Sir Cumalot

We establish relationships with people we care about and who care about us. Less caring= more casual relationships. They exist on a continuum.

I've become friends with several ladies I've seen and I care about what's going on in their lives but not enough to bug them continually to assuage my loneliness of ego. I've also done the "Help, I've fallen for a provider and I can't get up" thing and it was a roller coaster fer sure. One of the greatest rides of my adult life!

Would I be up for that again? Probably, if the right lady came along. I'd sure manage it in a different way, though!!



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