I am reminded of the guy who visits a provider. She is naked on the bed and he goes into the restroom to clean up and get undressed. When he walks out, she looks at his equipment, laughs and says "Who are you going to please with that?". He looks straight back at her, smiles and says "me".
Don't worry about it! Go with a provider that you desire and make it work. Obviously a good attitude will be important, perhaps someone who is a little bit of a GFE to help you past the jitters. The numbers are purely subjective and I would recommend that you look at the variety of reviews by each reviewer and see if the reviewer's interests line up with yours. There are certain reviewers who share the same interest as me, so therefore, it helps for me to look at there reviews with more credence.
Good luck to you.
I have been in and out (currently out due to a SO) but I was thinking playing again. Then as I was looking at reviews and who and what I would want, I started thinking: Am I capable (performing well enough) of being with a lady that has reviews in the 9-10 range for appearance and performance. Yes, it is called intimidation and insecurity. Responses from non-professional sex has been very positive from my partner(s) but I'm an "amateur." Really would want to be with a 9-10 rated lady but, hopefully, you can see my dilemna. Should I start with a lower rated lady and work my way up? Woody Allen says he got so good by "practicing a lot by himself" but that's not what I'm getting at! Advice?
I can related to you situation but from a different perspective.
I am 52, over-weight and sometimes have problems with the plumbing working. My experience has been that with the right providers it doesn't matter.
Some of these ladies are professionals and treat us with respect, kindness and compassion. I have found that if I communicate openly with them about my concerns they are very helpful with helping me to be better at pleasing them.
Choose what is important for you in a provider and then do a search for her. Then STUDY the reviews of the providers that come back. You will be able to find the ones that are more personable and open. These are your best prospects.
Just my .02
Good Hunting!
Pheonix
I've providers fron 6-10 in appearance. Some of thr 6's performnces were better than some of 10's. If you have some chemistry going on with the provider it will help.
Just try to relax and have some fun. Most of the well review providers are very nice ladies besides being provider. That's were some of the difference comes into play.
Take the advice of PhoenixRising. Let the provider know of your apprehentions she will put you at ease.
have fun and be safe!!!!
mo414
Ziggy:
I know exactly where you are coming from.
From time to time, I too have trouble with the plumbing working. In those times where that has happened, I have found the ladies to be very understanding. I agree with Phoenix ... tell the ladies your concern up front. In most, if not all cases, they'll understand and do their best to make your session enjoyable.
Also, I suggest you not worry about your performance. The main point of a session for me is to enjoy myself. I also want to treat the lady like a real human being. However, if you focus on your performance, e.g., you've got to perform like a porn star and stay hard for 2 hours, then you'll defeat yourself before you even start. Just relax, have fun, and don't worry about your performance. Just let things happen naturally. Please don't hold yourself to a false external standard.
As far as performance goes, I'd go with the 8s and 9s. The ladies who have those ratings are not just sexual dynamos in the sack. They have a lot more going for them, such as GFE, etc. Actually, I'll bet that the higher the performance rating, the more likely that you'll have a great session, whether you have plumbing trouble or not.
By the way, if your performance is lacking in your own mind, maybe you're just not that interested in the "hobby" in the first place. That's ok too. Frankly, I wish I had a SO right now, so I kind of envy you.
Good luck!
I am reminded of the guy who visits a provider. She is naked on the bed and he goes into the restroom to clean up and get undressed. When he walks out, she looks at his equipment, laughs and says "Who are you going to please with that?". He looks straight back at her, smiles and says "me".
Don't worry about it! Go with a provider that you desire and make it work. Obviously a good attitude will be important, perhaps someone who is a little bit of a GFE to help you past the jitters. The numbers are purely subjective and I would recommend that you look at the variety of reviews by each reviewer and see if the reviewer's interests line up with yours. There are certain reviewers who share the same interest as me, so therefore, it helps for me to look at there reviews with more credence.
Good luck to you.
If you see a provider that is reputable and understanding you won't have a problem.
Your not there to put a show on just to enjoy yourself with a lovely lady. This should be an enjoyable experience and not something that is going to add pressure!
If you are really worry about it express your concerns when you book your appt. You won't have a problem if you pick a girl that has good reviews because Atlanta ladies take good care of the guys here and expect nothing but the best service possible from the girl with the higher rating reviews!
Take care always remember to just have fun!
Hugs
Loni of Atlanta
Loni is correct. The ladies here in Atlanta are the best ever! You should not worry about your performance at all. All you have to do is be yourself and enjoy. The ladies here, always make you feel comfortable and feel special. They will treat you the way you treat them, with respect.... You both are there to have fun. If you tell the special lady what you like and don't like then there should be no problem. I have always treated the ladies with kindness and recieved the same in return. Have fun!!!!
Just my .02cents. ( well .03cents with the rates rising)
MonsterJazz
If your cock is not rock hard for the entire session, then choose another way to feel pleased in your time with a provider prior to your appointment. Think about your thoughts during self induced pleasures (your fantasies perhaps), what you like to see women wear, how you prefer their demeanor to be, and what all actions (aside from grinding your cock into something) you enjoy with a female. Make an outline, turn it brief, email or phone the provider and discuss these brief items. Or, make sure these items are services offered based on reviews prior to making the initial contact.
You sound like the type of person that performance would rise the more comfortable you become with a provider. You need to feel relaxed and not rushed. I think it would be good for you to bring your favorite wine or champagne, your favorite(s) adult films, toys you may like to use in bed, and meditate a few hours before the session to clear your mind of any potential stressors. Also, make sure the simple things are in place such as the cork screw, is there a DVD or a VHS playing device available for the adult films, wine glasses (or perhaps any glasses if it matters), and maybe some of those Listerine Strips. A colleague of mine who is taking time off loves those Listerine Strips for placing on her tongue when she did her famous sucking. She also like to use it for when she would lick on clits or to have her clit licked on as well. It gives a tingling affect (or is it effect). So, if the cock is not wanting to perform, there is always oral, toys, films, conversation over a glass of wine, and if you are in good spirits all of them together the entire time and then some.
Best Wishes,
Jolie
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Those are my fave add -on in giving licking. I hope you enjoy that too. I hope to see us it on you myself coming soon.
Breath drops and Altoids have a similar effect.
I'd say that you want someone who has 9-10 reviews for performance. This means the lady really works hard to relate to her clients. You can relax and know that she will find a way of making you feel comfortable. For looks, you probably need to ask yourself how important looks are to you. You'll notice for 9-10 performances, prices generally go up as appearance ratings go up. Not universally, but there is that tendency. A lady doesn't get consitent 9s and 10s by being anything but wonderful to her partners, no matter how inexperienced or, in my case, old, they are.
Go for it when you are ready!