About 5 months ago, I got in a relationship and I put an end to my hobbying.  The woman I'm involved with is beautiful. She's a former dancer / model and an amazing person.  With everything going well, I have never shaken the desire to hobby.  I find myself still reading the boards, cheking out reviews, and really wanting a session with an old ATF, or some  top providers I never made it to see.  

With everything going great with a 10/10, I think "Why?" The first reason that comes to mind is "variety".  The hobby provides so many outlets to experience fantasies, body-types, personalities, ethnicities, and anything else.   The 2nd thing is "lust".  I really think sex w/ lust, vs. sex with love (for a guy) is a lot more exciting. 3rd for lack of a better term may be "danger".  That feeling of making the 1st call, the first encounter, getting in, getting out...It may not be pleasureable, but it ups the intensity of the experience.

So in a way I feel somewhat cursed.  I am happy to have experienced the hobby; I met some interesting people, I have a million stories that I'll never share, I learned to DATY like a mofo, and lived out some great fantasies... but it is a real tough habit to shake.  My hobbying years were the one period of life where I really let lust & desire run free.  I've given up many other things in life, but this is the one that seems to have stuck in my mind the most.  So what's the antidote? One last 4 Girl, 3hr session / with all the ladies dressed up as superheros?  That would probably just make it worse.  Convincing my girlfriend to let her other model/dancer friends to get freaky?  I tried, she wasn't down with it.  So I guess it is to just walk away knowing that some fantasies were fulfilled, some experiences were incredible, some were horrible, some will stay just fantasies, and it is time to leave the boards behind.

Stay smart, stay safe...

I know what you mean. I too although not an extream hobbiest was going to quit, but when I travel to Atlanta from my quiet home in Iowa something draws me to it. On my last trip I was going to quit but I was just in town this month and couldnt help myself.

I agree with you its very hard to quit, it's a lot of fun, variety is the spice of life, lust I am full of that for sure, but when it comes down to the true facts I think I am just a Ho plain and simple.
later,
ro the ho

... and/or work through your feelings with a therapist trained to deal with sex-related issues.  Check the link below, or PM/email me if you'd like more info.

Best of luck to you.

- atl_mgr

There is alot more to this than just the sex as you know.  I had a disscussion with a provider on whether it would be easier for a provider or hobbiest to retire.  Its kind of like quiting smoking...you have to be totally committed to that goal.

Good luck.