First off Corey, you have every right to see or not see whom you want to. I have been on the end of being denied service, not because of my age but because of my racial back ground. I could get mad and consider the stereotype unfair because I was being denied service because of my background and not because of who I was. I don't do well with blanket judgments on anyone. So I feel for the young guy because he presents himself as being just as respectable as the older guys, yet some ladies wont see him.
Now its easy for him to get around that because all he has to do is not give his age, but its different when I show up, I can't hide who I am and am not trying to. I feel the lady does me a favor when this happens because I would much rather spend my time and money with someone who appreciates me. Same goes for the guy. You will one day be in your 30's (and wish you were back in your 20's again LOL), so this too will pass. Just stick to those who can appreciate you now.
Back to Corey, you are in the business of not only intimate pleasure but also companionship. There may be guys who you know you wont click with. You have every right to say no. Just make sure you are doing it because of something you discovered via your screening and you determined there wasn't a match. If you just go in with the mind set that anyone under a certain age can't afford this business or doesn't know how to conduct himself as a gent, then you may miss out on a few special opportunities. Some guys are very mature at 22. Some are very immature at 42. It’s a personal growth thing. I would suggest that you screen like you normally do and if the guy passes, give him a chance. If he can't afford the rate or has any other issues that you wont compromise on, then don't book the appointment. Don't assume that all guys in their 20's are stud magnets and don't appreciate the companionship and anonymity via this service, as well as don't assume that most middle age guys have no other avenue open to them except the company of a provider.
I've had a rash of phone calls from guys that are too young this weekend. When I've ask their age, they've said 21, 23, 25, 26 and one guy even said he was 19. In the past, they've never showed up and if they did, they didn't have the money. What a waste of time on my behalf. I usually say, "you don't meet my age requirement" and hang up. I hate to be rude, but where do these young guys get off by calling someone like me. Can't they find someone their own age to see...?
To be honest, I like the guys that are 35 and older. I can relate better to guys that are closer to my age.
Can anyone share with me how you handle the younger guys?
Corey
keep in mind the following : 1. college and h/s are out of session now 2. they may have been calling you on a dare 3. i am 36 , but i am willing to bet that there are alot more providers out there (even younger ones 18-20) that only exclusively see 30+ y/o men, compared to providers that don't 4. you have every right to respectfully decline them , but remember , we ALL were once that young!!!.....and some of us wish we were still that young!!!......lmao. ciao for now!!!just my 2 cents.
I must reply to this. First off, I am 24 yrs. old and loving this hobby. I have noticed here lately that a lot of providers simply refuse to see anyone under 30. I have had trouble finding respectable ladies that will see a younger man. I had a conversation with a very nice lady that will remain nameless but she said the same thing as you (i.e. lack of respect, not showing up, and even being physically violent) and I understand completely why this happens. But I also believe that this is a case of stereo-typing us as an age group.
If any of you are wondering why I am in this "hobby" I have one answer; the same as every other man, I want to feel appreciated and made to feel king of the hill, if but only for a short time. As a married man who keeps this secretive doing this is easier than going to a club and finding a hoochie. As with my experiance, those girls usually get jealous of the spouse and come looking for trouble. With this situation it is a mutual no strings relationship where both parties leave happy.
In conclusion, I guess all I can say is that if you are a lady who has age requirements, please give me a chance and I will not let you down. Look at my reviews and call the other ladies. I will not deceive you or take advantage of you. I am simply looking for a little bit of relaxation. Sorry to ramble, It's just that I have been frustrated by this lately.
Thanks
Joe
First off Corey, you have every right to see or not see whom you want to. I have been on the end of being denied service, not because of my age but because of my racial back ground. I could get mad and consider the stereotype unfair because I was being denied service because of my background and not because of who I was. I don't do well with blanket judgments on anyone. So I feel for the young guy because he presents himself as being just as respectable as the older guys, yet some ladies wont see him.
Now its easy for him to get around that because all he has to do is not give his age, but its different when I show up, I can't hide who I am and am not trying to. I feel the lady does me a favor when this happens because I would much rather spend my time and money with someone who appreciates me. Same goes for the guy. You will one day be in your 30's (and wish you were back in your 20's again LOL), so this too will pass. Just stick to those who can appreciate you now.
Back to Corey, you are in the business of not only intimate pleasure but also companionship. There may be guys who you know you wont click with. You have every right to say no. Just make sure you are doing it because of something you discovered via your screening and you determined there wasn't a match. If you just go in with the mind set that anyone under a certain age can't afford this business or doesn't know how to conduct himself as a gent, then you may miss out on a few special opportunities. Some guys are very mature at 22. Some are very immature at 42. It’s a personal growth thing. I would suggest that you screen like you normally do and if the guy passes, give him a chance. If he can't afford the rate or has any other issues that you wont compromise on, then don't book the appointment. Don't assume that all guys in their 20's are stud magnets and don't appreciate the companionship and anonymity via this service, as well as don't assume that most middle age guys have no other avenue open to them except the company of a provider.
Joe,
Just remeber it only take one bad Apple. Even though I am older, I emphathize with your situation. All I can say is keep your chin up and keep on plugging and don't loose faith. It would be nice if there is a place for providers to post reviews of hobbysts also.
Even though I am older some times I run into this reference check problems (don't get me wrong I appreciate why the providers have to do it) and I also don't know TER does not have link to Date Check. A good business idea actually.
Thanks guys,
I appreciate the words of encouragement. I do understand why these ladies do the things that they do. They live with tons more pressure from L.E. and that has to make them apprehensive. I don't think guys understand the chances they take just to give us relaxation. That is why I respect all these ladies, even the ones who may not have top notch reviews. It is frustrating sometimes but I honestly do understand.
Also Corey,
The reason I try not to see young providers is that most of the time you can't get the experiance you get with a more seasoned provider. Also, for me, older women are kind of a turn on. Every guy has his kicks. To me, the ideal provider is different than what my ideal mate would be. I think thats why we come to this avenue in our life. As for what some young guy would see in you? How about the fact that based on your reviews you provide guys with an experiance to remember.
As for what the other guy said, I refuse to hide my age from a provider. I believe that in this enviroment honesty is the most important thing. What if she checks my id? I would rather meet with someone where all honesty is on the table so that noone is disappointed.
thanks,
joe
Joe, I have to say, you are one of the most mature, and reasonable young guys I have met. Men like you, are certainly the reason why I will continue to see men in your age group.
On the other hand, you are the exception to the rule. Many are like Corey has said, young and immature and have no idea about how to act.
One thing to remember is that more and more young men are becoming professionals, with the type of disposable income needed, and have very little time to commit to a relationship. Many will seek the kind of "convenience" we have to offer. Assumably, (I use that term loosely) if they are mature enough to have that typer of income and maturity, I will certainly give them the opportunity to develop an arrangement with them. I had over 10 friends like this when living there. Many were in the banking industry. Let's keep an open mind.
Good subject Corey!!..I usually will not see men under 27 and my reason is totally different then most...I too have a lot of youngs guys 19-25 who would like to see me one because they prefer the "mature" woman....Morally I can not see anyone that young,mainly because I have a son 23 and I would feel like, well u know what I mean....I have seen guys 24 and 25 and they have been very much a gentlemen and I have enjoyed our time together...To be honest some of them are very "HOT"...LOL
They respect my decision and I wish I could but in the end I would not feel right about it..There are alot of young men out that are very mature for their age...When I first started in the biz my reasoning for not seeing young guys was most of them wanted the barbie doll face and the tight toned body where u can serve tea on her a**....Just my 02...
Terri
You both have bodies to die for! Teri, and Corey, I totally understand your decisions.... I think that the ones who don't have a solid reason for not doing so, should give them a chance if they are suitable.
Miss you guys!!
xoxo
b
I'm 28 and from my experiences, ladies that are 35 and up are the best providers. Nonproviders as well. Not only can you speak to them, but they perform very well, too. Any chance I can get to meet a lady 35 and up, I take it. 35 seems to be a magic age.
Terri - From us "older" guys, you make us feel young...thanks for being real...
Thanks for all the wonderful input...it is frustrating when someone makes an appt and doesn't show up or call to cancel.
Here's what I think: if they act mature and provide the info/references. then things may work. If they get out of hand, I'll just have to tie them up and giv'em a tongue-lashing, ummm, belt lashing...ummm that's B&D and that is BAD....maybe I should just do the first!!! LOL
Anyway, thanks!
Good morning sweetie,
I am not too young and sorry I had to cancel last week. Still thinking of those worms you had to eat ...
Wind
You all make very good points. When pre-screening someone do you check out their reviews on ter? I guess it would necessary to get their screen name. I know that I always give out my screen name. In my opinion this website is here for the providers information just as much as it is here for the guys information. Maybe that would be something to add to your screening process. Also, I think we need a way of publicly rating the guys as well. Maybe something to think about. It would cut down on stress in my opinion. It would also keep us in check and constantly on our toes. Maybe even make us a little more cautious of how we conduct ourselves.
Excuse my stupidity but what exactly does ROTFLMAO mean
Rolling On The Floor Laughing My Fucking Ass Off, Damn Near Shit My Pants!
so they do have their way of rating us
In my honest opinion a rating system like that will benefit me more than it will hurt me. Actually, it will help any guy that is a gentlemen and does not treat these ladies like meat. I'm all for it and I also think it should be public. Maybe the guys that are rude or anything else will think twice next time knowing that his actions will be publicly posted. I'm glad these ladies talk to each other. Maybe one that wouldn't see me because of my age (Keri) will see me knowing that I am a gentleman.
Thanks,
Joe
Putting all humor aside, I'm usually good when I'm good, but I'm better when I'm BAD as in B&D....And if you care for my "Other" side to come out, if you care to be tied up or partake of ANY of my "spankings"....I can do that as well. I've got the the leather straps and attitude to go right along with it upon request, But I promise, I will be easy....
Stretching my leather and hookin my chains as I post...
Corey
Corey,
I have to see I can understand where you are coming from, I had a gentelman who called today he left a messege this morning I called him back, and finally after playing a bit of phone tag, we got to talk. He did not really sound young, but then again ones voice can not always determine a age. He told Me he called cause he said "he liked My pictures on My site". I continued talking to him and then asked when he wanted to get together, he laughed and told Me he could not afford it this week, but "MAYBE" next week, then he said he just really wanted to talk to Me and get to know Me. I asked him how old he was by this point and he said "23"., I was like OMG, and then the rest of our phone conversation I made short but sweet and got rid of him as quickly as I could. Its not that I don't mind talking to My clients, i perfer that, but when they are sitting on the other end giggling, telling Me they can't afford Me right now, and telling Me that they just wanted to "talk", I just think its disrespectful, I am a busy Woman and do NOT want to waste anyones time and would hope that noone would want to waste Mine either. I know I was on the phone with him for at least 10 min before I realized that he was not going to make an appointment. I feel if someone wants to converse before making an appointment then a sweet email is recomended, from there I will email them back and then will ask them to call Me. Its not that I dislike getting phone calls from men, I lve it of course its just when someone calls knowing they are not going to be making an appointment.
I have seen younger men, I had a guy I had seen who was a virgin at 19 and just liked fetishes, I also don't mind seeing black men as well, I am not racisit, however I do not make appointments with anyone who does not have a number or anyone calling from a blocked number. Even when the persons phone number pops up on My caller ID I ask for their number again to see if they give Me the same number, if not I ask them where they are calling from, I don't really think that younger men are not a promblem, Corey, you're a proffessional and being that I am sure you can tell within 1-2 min if the person on the other line is sincere or not and if thier not its as simple as telling them you're not interested and hanging up.
There will always be young hobbiest, and I am sure with time for the ones that are not sincere will make mistakes but learn from them like we all so and the ones that are sincere we know who they are.
Kisses,
Monica
P.S.
Excuse the typos if there are any, I did not spell check.
i am a young hobbist and i love it i see my ladies often and i enjoy every minute of it i have lots of reviews and have not had very many experiances i would like to see some of the ladies that have age requirments but they say no when they see that i am 24 i have begged keri on several occasions but know luck and also some other girls so give some of a chance we like this hobby and it is safer than cheating and bar hopping??????????...............!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!