Mandy, thanks for coming forward and explaning yourself.  All-in-All, you didn't have to come forward, but since you did, I'm glad.  You are not a familiar face around here, but your rep speaks for itself--you're welcome here anytime.  On the atlanta public board, we enjoy information and sharing information, and would have been happy to have Kristi bring this type of information.  We can all grow from each other's experiences.  But, Kristi published: a name; a phone number; and a company name;

Now you've been around Mandy (I've met Heidi and she speaks highly of you and I respect Heidi), I don't have to tell YOU or lecture YOU about the implications of publishing a person's phone number.

Mandy, I know you consider yourself a professional--said information was gathered by YOU during YOUR session!  A lot of guys complain about how quickly information moves when "the man" makes a move; or in this case, rip-off occurs and then all of a sudden our personal info is published for the world to see.  That's one thought.  

TER is a commerce site--a business.  That's another thought.

Let's say I believe you, your rep is such that I know you have no reason to lie!  What about the rip-off guy.  What if Kristi's act exposed a personal life that brings trama to his life (loses a girlfriend or wife) and he decides to come after you, Mandy!  That's another thought.

There are endless thoughts that can occur for such a foolish act--well meaning, but still pretty foolish!

I personally had Kristi un-moderated as a valued member of the atlanta community and personally feel betrayed by this move.  I can only imagine how this hits you, Mandy????

I was one that was taken aback when I saw the post and I commented immediately.

I would never pull a stunt like that guy did, but, like Joey and Lucky Dawg said, Kristi posted his real name phone # and place of employment. This could have been handled by posting something like:

ATTN: Ladies, email me for info on a RIP OFF!!!!

and then a little info in the message body. Then handle the private  info through email/backchannel.

This guy might be a lunatic, and if he saw that message may try to do something worse.

Oh, no apology needed, just be safe.

I wonder why a provider would be untruthful about being ripped off. Two things come from posting about being ripped off. I know this from posting previously about being ripped off a few months ago. One thing is other providers are made aware of the individual that is a Rip Off Artist (ROA). This is usually the only thing positive that can come from the negative experience. In the last case, another provider (unsure if I should mention her name), knew that ROA. I actually received payment from that ROA that he sent to my PO Box. So, in that case, two positive things came from the negative experience. Since I posted that info on that ROA (his first name and last four digits of his telephone number), there have been a few ROAs that have been by to visit with me. So, I wonder what motivation a provider could possibly have that would make them want to "blast" a hobbyist for ripping them off if it were not true. Do these alleged providers enjoy being ripped off so therefore they want to lure in ROAs?

This last posted ROA that I encountered last week was different from the others. If he had a girlfriend or wife to lose from such post, then that would worry me yes. This guy makes me want to get another dog with a mean bark like my last dog had. However, I think that will infect healing wounds for my last dog by having another dog in my life. I fear that this guy will surface again whether something was posted about him or not. I
hope that he does not learn the whereabouts of other incall locations. He knows that providers cannot turn to LE for help. It is sad when that gets taken advantage of. Providers that are caught providing have their name in public records for life. There is a lot of risk a provider takes when they are providing. ROAs take away from the beauty of the work itself. Aside from
not being paid for the sessions with all of my ROAs, they were good sessions. I am thankful for that and am glad I did not ask for the money up front. There have been individuals that have a ROA that also hurts them, steals from them all the money on them, and have heard of much worse cases that entail fatalities. Who would want to lure in any guy that has (in my opinion) a criminal mind in the first place and is far more likely to hurt you than a non-ROA? I guess wait a few months and see if the provider
that posted the ROA ever posts again.

I know I did not want to ever post again after the few visits I had from ROAs after I posted the first time about the ROA another provider knew. I did have an unpaid for session prior to that first ROA. I forgot to ask for the money and the guy
(whom I had seen once before) made no effort to mention it at the end of the session. I worked for an agency back then and paid the agency its share of the session. No reason for the agency to take a loss due to my being forgetful. I did tell
the person that operated the agency about it, he called the regular hobbyist to never get a response back from him. I find this to be as much my fault as it is the hobbyist. If not maybe I am more at fault since it is me being paid and should remind him. The posted guys literally ran out the door like someone
robbing a bank would do. I felt disgusting afterwards because of that. The most disturbing part to me, is that these two guys know where I work at and I fear ever seeing them again whether I would have posted anything or not in regard to them.

I asked KristiKane to do the post since she has retired and not at risk of luring in any ROAs. I am very thankful that KristiKane did the post for me and would hope that anyone who posted her real name and attacked her for my miscommunication to her, would be human enough to apologize to her. She is a most kind and sweet person to have undergone such a public attack. She did not hurt anyone, rip anyone off, bad mouth anyone,
but simply tried to keep all providers she could reach from having the same fear that I now have that makes me want to get another dog. When I posted before a different ROA, I only posted his first name and last four digits of his phone number. This recent one uses many different phones from the same company and the only way I got his cell was because he had to dial me up before getting the apartment number. I think he was too much in the mood to stop and take up more time by using a pay phone. He was quite energetic during the session is why I assume that. Even though his energy was negative, at the time I did not know it and did enjoy the energy he had, but he left a very bad and fearful feeling with me the way he darted out my door. The way he planned it makes me feel more upset. I also think that he thought that we did not have caller identification to get his cell number. I wanted the information (as much as possible) to be posted on boards where ladies go only. I emailed ladies all the information I had (for the ladies that I know well enough that the information would be cared for). I think KristiKane sensed my fear and this actually made her scared when she posted on the public boards. It was never my intention to give out all the information on the public boards. KristiKane even forewarned me that moderators would remove the post from the public boards from what I had sent to her. I then asked her to post just generic information. I thought it would be most simple to write that rather than explaining what I assumed she must already know. I kept stressing to her that I wanted to let as many providers know as we can about this guy. Maybe she thought that meant that I wanted her to post all of the information anyway. At any rate, KristiKane should not have been attacked the way I think she was. I never got to read the post(s) attacking her, but she did tell me about them. I am hurt that I put her in that predicament and would be less hurt if whomever attacked her would apologize for having done so.

Mandy O'Hara