I recently moved into a new place and I'm about 95% sure that my neighbor is a provider that I've seen before. We've been neighbors for a while now and only recently put two-and-two together. I do have the proof. I don't think she knows who I am since we last met in 2010 but I would like to see her again. Providers, how would you feel about this? Guys, what would you do? How would you feel about this?

Thanks. Not saying I'm going to do anything, just soliciting opinions here

could be more downside than up, even though it was a "business" arrangement.  keep it knowingly pleasant and friendly and don't be surprised to see co-workers' or clergy vehicles in the neighborhood! LOL  if you're in DeKalb county, you'll probably have at least a couple off duty cops paying an occasional visit ;->

I sure hope this link works.  Seems to me this topic is pretty close to the one that was discussed less than one month ago.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=208323&boardID=18&page=#208323

If you have no intention of acting on this, then why ask?  Why care what others think if you know your course of action, or non-action?  Sounds to me like it's one of those "It's not about me, but I have this 'friend' who..."

FIRST AND FOREMOST-Remember, anyone in a Service Industry is *ONLY* in that role while "on the clock". So whatever you do, you have to approach the conversation like feeding a squirrel.

Put another way, I grew up with a friend who's father played for the NFL (highly regarded). HIS JOB was to play football, win games *ONE DAY* a week. However, what came with it was celebrity. Sometimes we went out, he'd put on a Hat/Sunglasses, didn't want to be bothered.

Another example. Use to work for a Boss that knew everybody. We were on a Sales Trip in AZ. Got us VIP seating upstairs away from everyone. Total of 4-tables. One was occupied by John Elway and his friends. (yes, saw the ring, yes it is *HUGE*). Then again, he's not so small either.

None of the 3-circumstances "gives me the right"--to approach them (as part of what they do for a living).


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I ran into a VIP-Dancer "friend-regular" with at a gas station. Paying cashier. She was polite, but clearly didn't want to talk about the weather/chit chat.....went outside, jumped in car with some dude driving, never know...ya know? "eh, I get it all about the playing field.  
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This one is gonna be all about timing. If this is a Condo/APT situation. I'd wait out until there's a "Social" hope she shows up.

If so, walk tenderly. You look familiar, did you work at XYZ company? Hmm...later on. OH, did you use to live at XYZ Place, friend lived there, maybe that's it?

*NOW*--the Important part
1-Her face turns ASHEN WHITE as if she's seen a Ghost (ie. you "outed her" or could), quickly turn right, no that's not it, oh well, want me to get you another drink? (let her catch her breath)  
(Ashen white=probably not in the biz anymore)

She "bites" says who was your friend, etc
Chat her up.
Leave the Party Walk her home....
CLOSE THE DEAL/Business LIKE ANY GOOD MAN WOULD!

i don't think she'd be comfortable with that and i wouldn't blame her!

Our life outside the biz is our own... If she doesn't give u the unmistakable nod of "oh yeah,i remember you", then u didnt leave as lasting impression. If ya run into each other at the fitness center or mailboxes and she does acknowledge, don't ruin it by speaking...let her approach you.
  If we don't initiate, we are hoping that you forgot or have the cooth n candor to just walk away. There is a reason we dont use our real names....neighbor or not...
Do you want your neighbors to know you enlist the assistance of a provider? NO
Does your neighbor want her neighbors to know she is a provider???....NO.
Smart people dont bring work home with them (teachers are the exception), home is HOME! Work is work!
We change our names or blur our faces to keep our work n play seperate, to violate that is a douche move and quick way to land on the blacklist.
Dont shit where ya'll eat!
Make an appointment, discuss things, and watch how fast the hottie next door moves out. Dont be creepy!

 We are all your neighbors, friends wives, yoga instructors, Starbucks baristas, and local nail techs....we have lives and families outside the biz... Let us have them PLEASE!
Xoxo

As was aforementioned, I have no intentions to act on this. This was just to see what other people thought about this, that's all!

I smell an ulterior motive here and one that is not very cool of you.
Could you imagine how uncomfortable that would make her??
It would lead me to believe that you were stalking me and that u were creepy.
Leave her alone.

I don't know where most of the ladies I've met in this hobby live. If its truly a convenience and a desire to see her again the contact her like you would anyone else. Via phone or email off an old ad. If here isn't one or number isn't valid then assume she's out. Be classy and enjoy the memory in your next long soapy shower. If she answers then proceed as any other time. I don't have to tell anyone I see where I live, and I don't. If I see someone in person I don't address them (rarely happens) this would be the same with huts a much higher likelihood of running into them.

All the angst is for naught. Be mature, smart and classy.

And have fun

Did you not read my last post?!?

I'm sympathetic to the anguish you obviously seem to have over this, but to be frank, I think you're making something out of nothing.  I mean, it's just a pussy and a dick thing with your target just happening to be someone who you traded juices with in the past.  Nothing magic about that really is there?  Why not just act like "normal" people.  Using discretion, put on some game and judge her reaction.  If she reciprocates with a game of her own, then off you go to rekindle a little more juice swapping and see if the taste is as good as before.  It's really not that tough.

I love you for this post. SO WELL SAID!

Is this not a discussion board? Did you see my initial questions?