I have seen a relatively well known lady in which her 1st appointment was great but her second was less than stellar. I reviewed her BOTH times accordingly. She has promised to make up for the 2nd appointment , but hasn't yet......
So just to stir things...
In scrolling around reviews of ladies with more that say 40 and high scores in performance, I notice something that seems to occur (not all the time mind you but seemingly often enough to speculate on). These ladies have 8s, mostly 9s, and some 10s in performance. Then suddenly there will be a 6 or 7. So the point of my ramble is, is it possible that maybe it was a bad day for the provider or maybe it was off day for the poster. (Everyone has them)
I have, on very rare occasions, had a lack luster visit with a provider but I don't run to my computer and put up a so so/bad review. If I have the slightest feeling that it was a off day (on either side) and I think we will enjoy each other I try one more time and if I think we just don't work together I don't return. If in the case of "trying again" things still don't work then it is that we don't "jive" but that is still no reason to post a review IMNSHO.
Now don't get me wrong, if I go to someone who has billed them selves as 5'8", toned, blued eyes, with DDs and I find Rossan Barr instead, or says they they are the ultimate GFE but won't do what I consider are the basics of GFE without a up charge if at all, or I get to meet their pimp, or feel unsafe in some manner then fire off a bad review I will.
My point (if I have one other then on top of my head) is that just because a one time encounter does not move the heaven and earth , perhaps a second chance and some discussion of the issues might be in order. You might be surprised how well that works out (or not, nothing is guaranteed in life). Providers do in fact depend on reviews for business (to a lesser or greater degree) so think before you type.
Of course there are those out there that just live to be negative, and I am sure I will be hearing from at least some of them shortly on this thread....
IMO, the review should be honest and represent what actually happens. I don't think negotiating is the best idea.
I've not submitted a review in a while but i can remember seeing a well known provider (well known at the time) and giving her a lower score than she expected. She knew who i was, sent me a PM thru TER, apologized and offered to "make it up" next time.
It's not a question of being negative but if everyone gives the benefit of the doubt, then the reviews have minimal value.
Yes a review should always be factual and I am not talking about negotiating. What I am saying is that if seeing a provider with higher then average score (over a large number of reviews) and the experience is not to that level, some consideration to circumstances and communication may be in order before leaving a review that will draw attention to itself because it is out of place. From experience so far all providers with significant numbers of reviews that maintain above average scores go out of their way to maintain them
I agree......Some go 'out of their way' in more ways than one to maintain their scores......lol.
Some......could care less
I have seen a relatively well known lady in which her 1st appointment was great but her second was less than stellar. I reviewed her BOTH times accordingly. She has promised to make up for the 2nd appointment , but hasn't yet......
reputations and performance ratings, so the odds of having a low performance experience become pretty low. The top-rated girls have game! I think that's where the due diligence pays off. I've only had one girl who was truly off her game - that was in a double and the other one more than compensated. So, I've never faced the issue you raised. If I did, then Bella's comment would be pretty much my approach. I do think that if you are comfortable that you weren't the cause, then you owe it to the rest of us to do an honest review. One thing I do when I see one of those outlier scores is to look at the rater's other reviews. Often I've found that they are just jerks who never seem to be happy.
The famed YMMV and "Off Day" coupled with we just didn't "Click" all of which are valid situations can definitely hit an average. If I have a so-so meeting with a highly ranked provider, I try to be crystal clear in the review what may have caused it. I am also open to a return if I think it was a one time thing. That said, I do write the review as fairly as I can, if it isn't positive I try to explain why (even if it is positive) and leave it to the reader to make up their mind.
As I am sure with everyone, there are those I find I agree with and trust, and those I take with a grain of salt. More than anything, a couple of reviews from reputable members of TER make me a hell of a lot more relaxed in that they aren't LEO or some other bad situation.
Finally, I generally factor out singular low scores. Trends are another thing entirely.
So much to cover. BTW thanks to all for so far keeping it a real discussion and not something else.
I guess first is this isn't about appearance scores. That is far to objective one person 10 is another 8 or 7, so this is just about performance.
Next I am not saying that poor/substandard reviews should not be posted. There is most certainly a time and place. I am just trying to say that before impacting providers overall score some consideration should be given to the reasons why. I choose the scale of high 8s to 9+ as those in general are the providers I like to see. This applies equally to providers with high 7s to 8+ who get 4 and 5 and so on. Also, I am in no way saying everyone deservers and 8, 9 or 10 in performance.
Since Bella (btw one of my favs.) was kind enough to jump in with an example, I went and read her 5:5 and personally I see an issue in the rating. Now, I am not saying the listed activities rate outstanding numbers and certain activities were not on the menu as this was a quickie session but who here say they will repeat with a 5 level experience (or perhaps I am just biased). I read another subpar review of hers and that one I don't see an issue with. It was a 6:5 and the reviewer was looking for a "PSE" experience chose Bella because of her ad at the time but got more of a "GFE" experience. I will have to take that at face value as I can't see the ad but that kind of issue would prompt a substandard review from me aslo.
Let me try this to illustrate my point (a mundane world parallel).
As an "IT guy" I will use a computer system as an example (and don't get the idea that I am comparing providers to a machine, I'm not). Let’s say there is a system that this computer system has 40 users and each of these users must send an email out to the entire company rating their experience. Of that 39 of the users say the system is easy to log into, works quickly, returns useful data in a very speedy fashion, just what every users wants. The 40th, however, report nothing but trouble at log in, can't get the application to run usually and when it does it is slow and many times the data provided is useless. Now if that user sends out their rating to the company which of these 40 emails will get the most attention? I can say from personal experience, multiple occurrences and multiple companies that it only the negative rating that is paid any significant attention (good news falls on deaf ears). Now instead blasting out bad news, if the one user works with support and figures out what the issue is and solves it (usually something in the environment or in the way an application is begin used) then you get 40 happy users.
Some of us certainly look at substandard (and I am sure we view significantly above standard number with some suspicion) review with a great deal of suspicion but many more don't I believe from mundane world experience.
Enough blather from me...
As someone who grew up in the midst of the Cold War, I remember how awkward it seemed that Olympic judges watching the same person doing the same floor exercises could rank them so differently. To be fair to the athletes, the highest and lowest scores were dismissed, and the rest were averaged.
Finally, Romanian Nadia Comaneci (sic) came along in 1976 and everyone agreed - 10! Perfection was achieved. Huzzah! Soon after 10s were being thrown around like parade candy except for the East German judge who was usually an A$$hole but at least he was consistent.
I look at reviews in much the same way. If I scan 10/9, 9/9, 8/9, 6/7, 10/10, 7/8, 9/9...I throw out 10/10 and 6/7 then think again. I also look to see if someone reputable (particularly on the Boards) is the 6/7.
If the 6/7 is from one of those guys who define my 8/9 experiences as consistently 6/7, including someone new I want to see, then I know I'll have a good time as well and am not discouraged at all to see the someone new
There is no way in hell I would do certain things for a higher score, or any amount of money so that's usually what you're looking at. Just from seeing some of the same guys that others have seen who have solid 10s, I know exactly what is up lol. No way in hell those certain men would have gotten that from me. Some providers have a script and will run the gambit of acronyms for just about anyone, and they are great actresses to boot. I am not one of them. If I don't like a guy, it will show in my performance.
BTW, I put little weight on the "Looks" ranking as that is perhaps the most subjective thing out there. I find a mature "MILF" to be incredibly exciting. Not at all linto the waifish look. Not a bad thing, just doesn't flip my switch.
I like more natural, I'm a Betty, not Veronica. MaryAnn, not Ginger. Sandra Bullock over Angelina Jolie.
make NO MISTAKE, given the chance I would spend some quality horizontal time with Veronica, Ginger and Angelina...but given the choice...
Ergo, Looks ranking means little to me. Service ranking and Services offered coupled with the credibility not being LE is the major value to TER.
I am in my mid-fifties and have been a TER member apx. 10 years. The "looks" ratings are not that important to me because that is truly "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." If I can see a pic, I can make up my own mind about the physical beauty. The performance numbers are much more tricky. I remember when a "10" was rare. Only a few were given. Now they seem to everywhere.(I am not saying they aren't deserved, but..) Times have changed and it is harder, for me, to read between the lines. Looking at providers with 10 or more reviews and the reviews are all "10-10's", just makes me wonder....