Who had in the past outed a client to his family purposely to harm him, would you want to know?

Had I known I wouldn't have seen her. If/when I found out I would stop seeing her.

Here is that if I reviewed a provider that another guy has had an serious issue with, like outing publicly,  then I would want that guy to message me privately to inform me of the danger.  Not all guys would want to know that information because it could have been an isolated instance and have nothing to do with the providers normal operations.

Thanks

The providers warn each other about this type of behavior....

That would be a little bit late to protect yourself by disengaging unfortunately

But that exact scenario played out here a few years ago and did in fact ruin the guys marriage, family, and business (which she was also nice enough to spill the beans at)

i was outed (again) not long ago and you're fucking A right I named the bitch/es who did it.

True, but may keep me from establishing a longer relationship with the provider.  Or I may decide the guy is crazy and keep seeing the provider

That is the exact situation I would hope to avoid.... I'm not going anywhere with it..... it just crossed my mind this morning.  I know there is no way that every session ends as nicely as the reviews state and I wondered if people sat on information or shared it when it seemed appropriate

Of course everyone needs to know

Seduction.... the question really is IF you reviewed a provider as an ATF, and I knew she had outed me to my family, would you want me to message you with the details.

The guy could have more to lose if the provider decided to go further, so fear of further retribution

If she had outed you, you should have gotten her kicked off the board so she could NEVER reap the benefits that come with being a "well reviewed TER provider"  

Yep

So I dated her for a year and a half.  In the last 6 months things got weird, she was distant when we talked or were together.  I thought she was seeing someone else..... I then discovered she was seeing a lot of someone else's as a provider.  I confronted her about it and her response was to facebook message my wife (my wife knew about her as we were going through a divorce) and message friends and family that were online to let them know that I had been dating her.  Over the time that we dated I helped her with money several times, well into 6 figures.

If you were seeing that provider would you want to know that history

It sounds familiar to the previous behavior of the lady I mentioned above and without a fucking doubt we all need to know who this is BEFORE meeting her (though if this is who it sounds like I already have zero interest)

She didn't out a client, she outed an ex boyfriend, and I am sure there are two sides to the story.

I'd have to agree with you on your advice

Anything is possible at this point, when I totaled it up I had dropped just under 300k in roughly 2 years, she was hitting me up for more money and I thought something was fishy.... complete dumbass for not thinking something was fishy before, but pussy will do that to you.

I feel your pain

Fortunately with the market roaring I can make it up quickly

Was thinking the same

What would you do with the numerous PM's from other hobbyist for the providers name?  

but honestly dude, you need to get over this girl and what she did to you. It's simply not healthy to still be trying to punish her for what was in a good part your own damn fault.

I recognize my fault in this.... and I am not trying to punish her, if I were going to do that I would return the favor of introducing her provider life to her friends and family, which I won't do, even though that is what she did to me.  If I followed your advice from earlier I would out her on the boards, which I also will not do.

Based on several guys opinion that I was more of a jilted lover that I really should not warn guys about this provider.  I have answered all requests with a similar message.  I will not be sharing her name

How was it an outing?
That said, quite a few of us here would say ‘been there done that’ and truly feel your pain!  Welcome to the jilted lovers club

The outing came in facebook messages to my family..... imagine spending 2 years and 300k on a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, telling each other you love them each night and again in the morning.... then one day you run across 6 months of reviews.  Her response to that is messaging your family to tell them you are having an affair.  I would classify that as an "outing".....  others have said I was a jilted lover, I'm gonna go with that and let it be.

Your dynamic with her was not a "Hooker/John" relationship, which are the only ones that really count around here where it comes to "warning the community"  

I have not warned the FIRST guy about her.... I merely asked a question, so don't get off telling me what I'm trying to do

and your OP is if not an outright lie, it's at least VERY misleading.

Lol.... you crack me up that you know everything.... I really cannot decide whether you even believe half the shit you say.  It is entertaining though.  Have a good day

by what you say here.

GAG got me to thinking, I don't want to ruin her life or her business..... what I want and will probably never get so I have to just suck it up and move on is, an apology..... if I got a hey I don't want to get back together with you however I know I lied,  cheated, and hurt you.  It was wrong of me and I'm sorry.  

Thanks

Or maybe it was The Donald
You don't always get what you want...
You know the rest.  

Who is she?
I'd like to give her a roll to see what her skills were that fucked your head so bad.

Nope.

You are probably right..... there is just no making sense of the senseless

It wasn't pussy skills that fucked me up.... it was heart skills

Your story is not unique. Over the years I've known hookers that had an unknowing hubby at home that has no clue what she is doing for extra egg money. Heck a couple of them were married to cops. Hope that isn't you.  

Nope, I'm not  a cop... but that is funny as shit to think of a provider married to a cop

Couldn’t say it any better!  
Also, an apology is pointless... even if one came.

I have thought a lot about your comment that if there was an apology then I would want to know why..... I think that is true however I think I also know the answer to the question of why.

An apology would only serve to keep that wound open. Leave it alone and quit picking at the scab.

Thanks.... I'm working through it, just takes some time

She needed/wanted money, you provided it to her.

Fuck her! get an awesome blow job and move on!  
Things go full circle . Karma is a very loyal and dedicated mf

I'm ready when you are

Fight Club Rules--RULE!

You're going to make sure he doesn't miss the point, aren't you?

1. Quit picking at the scab
2. Get an awesome BJ
3. Spend 300000 on 1000 providers ...

You’re being passive. Contact her and schedule an appointment.

I'm working on those today

I took your advice,  I'm down to 999 and counting

This is the best piece of advice that I have seen yet!
If you want the upper hand in this situation,  schedule with her, get a blow job, pay her like the Provider she is...then leave!
As a woman, I know this would hurt the most!
In her mind, you are still wanting her back. But, by being with her but not displaying affection for her would be a complete mind fuck...like what she has done to you! Show her that you are no longer 'in love' she will die inside! My 2 cents...

Excellent idea but I think tartus was encouraging me to schedule Charlie Montana.... which I've been working on, just getting schedules straight.  

Also i doubt she would accept an appointment with me

First time posting. (Long time reader) Lol, guess this will be a helluva way to say hello to the community, but I'm calling bull on this.  

1.  She picked up, we talked,  she told me she was escorting.  So she admitted to escorting while we were dating.  I am not assuming anything.

That is not what your other post have said.  

Interesting thoughts.

I'm letting the situation go, moving on, not picking at the scab.... I appreciate your doing the same.

I believe that you have it right as does SMH below....I have been watching this train wreck in amusement from the opening suspect "what if" post..... Is it every gonna die the death it deserves?

I love people who speak their minds. I look forward to seeing more of you.

No axe to grind, just voicing my view on an issue that I believe is not only bull but dangerous.  

Too bad we have no emoji here for a standing ovation.... You are a very astute
woman......encore, please....I believe you have exposed the outer

I will answer each and every point here if that's what you desire.... while I type that up, where did I say I was 64 years old.... I think you are getting some stories mixed up  

Consider the following that you have glossed over and completely missed:

I can't follow if you fell in love with a provider and got your heart broke or if an evil provider outted you to your wife and destroyed your marriage.  Whew!  What a mess.  I would just hit reset and start all over.

just can just leave those mf'ing broken pieces on the floor and just walk away.  what if you don't have to fix it or put the pieces back together.  And just walk away.  Follow your peace dude.  Life is hard enough. Either people are with you are not aren't.

Thanks, that is what I was doing before someone came in and called BS

bless you, sounds stressful and I wish you peace this year.  Maddie

Charlie is around. Just text me. I’m around all tissues and this weekend !

BTW what are the "tissues" for? Or are you yet another victim of autocorrect?

Re: Way to go!!! (e)

998

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I'm not tracking

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On monday I decided to take GAG advice and get 1000 Blowjobs with the next 300,000 I spend.  By Friday I was down to 998 to go.....

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Oh okay that makes sense

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I don't think so but you never know.... there are some crazy people in this world

I think you can now vouch for the fact that "some" rudeness can actually be quite helpful. lol

you got that tough love that comes with age and also been there done that, that comes with age.  We all have to learn and I bet he learned a few lessons and it won't happen again.

Definitely won't happen again.... people in general are not to be trusted.  You may be surprised at some of the crap that people have messaged me.... and the guesses at who she is.

Very good counterpoints gentle

Thanks for the support guys

W

Because it is a gray area as to whether I was a jilted lover or an outed client.... I viewed our relationship as a girlfriend..... she played that role so well that I did not know she was acting until it was too late..... I'm past it and I don't want her to suffer.  Oddly enough I still love and care about her.... or at least the person she presented me with.... I really have no idea what the real person is like

That sounds good kid