No, not THAT Plan B.

Yikes.  Good lord.  No.

Sorry about that.

I mean, "Plan B" as in what to do when you have a last minute cancellation from your lovely, willing, and (as of just a few moments ago) available ladyfriend.

I almost always set up my dates well in advance due to my hectic schedule and limited free time.  Plus it alleviates the stress of who's available when.  But, despite the best laid plans of mice and men - shit (as they are fond of saying) happens.  Cars won't start, kids get sick, traffic sucks (can I get an "Amen!"?), Aunt Flo visits at the most inconvenient times, and the very Universe itself is a quirky, ironic prankster.

A little bit of chaos now and then keeps things interesting.

It's cool, I don't take it personally because I can't.  Plus it would be silly.  The show must go on.  The question is, what is the correct and socially acceptable plan of action for a now hard-up (quite literally) date-challenged man about town?  

Even though I am a selfish, horny, impatient bastard I still try to live by the Upscale Gentleman's Code... to treat others as I would want to be treated myself.  With politeness and consideration.  Karma and all that.  Plus humans and feelings and auras and chakras and all that good stuff.

So ladies and gents - what say you?  I am interested in opinions from both sides of the bed.

Guys - do you have a list of ladies that you know are likely to be available (or at least open to the idea) on short notice?  How do you contact them?  Do you just say "sorry about the late notice but could we get nasty?"    Do you send out a text message alert to a bunch of ladies and whoever responds first "wins"?  Or do you go through your list one at a time, giving each a short window of opportunity to respond?

Gals - no one wants to feel they are a second choice, so how do you feel when a gent contacts you on short notice?  Is it cool?  Does it make things awkward?  Is there a "right" way of handling last minute booking attempts that eliminates redfacedness on both sides?

All opinions are appreciated as always.

I don't mind being someones first opinion or second or third.. as long as I'm in your opinion. I really don't mind last minute contacts and I always try to be super accommodating. I usually list my availability and am around even if I'm not booked for that day at all.. On the other side if I am contacted last minute and the client is not understanding about his last minute call or text and gets an attitude towards me ..well, that makes me angry because I can't always just be on hand for someone who MIGHT call me.  

But at the end of the day I never think of a last minute call as a second choice, more like just a crazy schedule.  

xoxo
Hallie

Thank you for your response Hallie, it is helpful.  You do bring up a good point.  We gents must be very careful and considerate to not let our need for speed turn into inconsiderate or rude behavior.  That is never an excuse for ungentlemanly actions.

There is another point in there as well.  I do exclude ladies I haven't seen before that would need to do a thorough screening as it isn't fair to them (or my references) to ask them to expedite my request.  So I usually limit my (short notice) list to ladies I've already seen before or possibly ones that do light screening.  Also maybe agencies.  Agencies seem to do well with handling short notice requests.

Option one:

  Send out a email that is essentially a "Cattle Call" !   See who responds-some will if you send a plethora of email invites that provide an explanation as to what has created this emergency.

Option two:

Have an AMP staked out - get some experience at a couple or three-and show up with money !!

Option three:   (No need for an option three if you select one or two) !

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate the feedback.

Option 1 seems viable, although a bit impersonal.  But if it gets the job done, who can argue with success?  Maybe I'll invent my own Bat signal.  Hmmm.  Just how to get it to show in the daytime?  I may just have to bring the Goodyear blimp back.  Not that I want my personal symbol to be a blimp.  My self esteem is low enough...  

Option 2 - AMPs, are they even still a thing?  I lost my hobby virginity in one quite a few years ago.  I've only been in a couple since then.  It was a bit on the mechanical side for me.  But strangely I kind of liked the table shower thingy.  It was nice.  And the stuff after that was pretty good too.  Lol

Thanks Ginger, you ladies are making me feel better.  

Well, you always make me feel better one way or another.  

But I wouldn't give junior credit for any fortuitous timing - he's always "ringing."  Most days I can't hear a damn thing he's ringing so much.

You are right that ladies shouldn't know if they were a second choice.  I guess I'm being overly transparent about my motives.  But in my defense I gave up fibbing to women a long time ago.  They have the uncanny ability to read my mind at the most inconvenient times.  Is that all guys or just me?  

I guess it goes in both directions though...  if ladies promise to not be offended if I ask them for a last minute date I promise to not be offended if they tell me their dance card is full.

Fair is fair

Life Happens. Like you, I plan well in advance. I've had cases where I contact one provider a couple of weeks out, not here from her, then make arrangements with another lady but no last minute changes for me. If she cancels on me, that's that. I don't try to find someone else last minute.

There have been cases where a provider at an agency has cancelled and the agency offered a plan B, but I usually turn those down. I know who I want, when I want, where I want, and how I want. Changing any of those last three is simple, but who I want.... that's a different issue for me. I'm odd that way.

my 2 cents,
ga_kosh

Wouldn't be that big a deal, so long as she doesn't know she's the second option. Some providers have sensitive egos, as we all know.  

I'm not as hard pressed to schedule out in advance as my schedule can generally be adjusted to an extent, so I rarely feel the need for a plan B... I always have a short list of potentials in case my first choice(s) are not available, so far I haven't needed a backup.

I liked Hallie's response, as long as the lady is on your radar it shouldn't matter what position she's in, well at least not on your list..LOL

I get mentally prepared to see a specific lady on a given day and I am very selective about who I see. If something comes up, I try to reschedule for another time that's mutually convenient.

So virtually every booking I make is very similar to what the rest of you would do as a Plan B, and trust me, once you get used to it booking an appointment only a few hours out is not a big deal, especially if you are P 411 with a lot of okays.  

Atlanta also has the option of a LOT of upstanding, reliable agencies, coming up with a Plan B in a city like Atlanta should be a breeze for anyone with a little experience and a good name. Just look at our good friend Shaft, How often does he put up a last minute ISO post? and how often does that post go unanswered? Not often, I assure you.

just kidding. kinda

It's an interesting point, my Plan B is some other gent's standard mode of operation.  And I didn't mean to imply it was better or more acceptable.  I happen to be a plan ahead kind of guy (like Kosh), it just helps alleviate stress booking things in advance.  But last minute cancellations are a bit of a gamble (pun intended) as I don't know if I can make the next most favorable hookup on my list (in such a short time period).

And you're right if I used agencies in all of those cases I assume my success rate would be nearly 100% for short notice dates.

My question or concern was related more to indy's than agencies or spas.  And any etiquette thereof.  Sorry if I didn't really make that clear.

It is always interesting to me that folks like to hobby in their own ways.  Seems that everyone does it just a bit different.  Yeah, and Shaft has a way of putting out the "Calling all MILF's!" alert every once in a while.  That's pretty cool.

Touche.

PS:  I believe that was less than 2000 words.

Understood.  We are a lot alike.  Sorry, didn't mean to scare you there.  

But every once in a while when plans fall through I figure I'll give the babe roulette wheel a spin.  I think there is something in the spontaneity of it all that makes it just a touch more exciting.

You know?

Yes, I just say "sorry for the short notice, but are you available at...?"

Absolutely I wouldn't want the lady to know she wasn't my first choice.  That would not be cool.

Yes, I do that generally as well.
Sometimes however I want to give an opportunity to the next lady on my list.
Just to see what happens.

No worries, E. You don't give me heart palpitations... I like boobs not moobs.

Thing is that the numbers I pick on Lotto tend to win more often than Quick Picks. I understand the desire to play the Belle Du jour roulette game. Good luck with that.

I too have been tempted to do the Mystery Date thing some of the agencies have offered in recent years. But Tuesday I got another year older and likely more settled in my ways.

Have fun and keep it safe sane and consensual,  
ga_kosh

We never mind last minute appointments and we definitely do not mind being someone's second choice because we know by the end, we will be their first!!

Happy belated birthday my friend.

e

As long as you have been around you have some ladies you know very well who would understand and not mind a call in a pinch. Now their availability is another issue.

Very well said.  Thank you

A) Yes, I might know a friendly lady or two in this town.  Some that would even see me a second time.  
B) Like you mentioned availability is often the issue with late notice engagements
C) Stop calling me Shirley

PS: My sincere apologies for C as it's more of an auditory joke

Firstly, i want to express clearly that I intend no disrespect to the beautiful and talented independent ladies in town.
However, from my perspective, using an agency as a Plan B alleviates any possible awkwardness of the lady being considered a second or third choice.  No explanation would be required or forwarded to the lady you ultimately have the last minute rendezvous with. An agency provides that last-minute excuse buffer as well as having options available for scratching that pent-up itch.

We are extremely fortunate to have a hobby home town with so many quality agencies and professional independents.

but Atlanta has an unusual number of absolutely GREAT agencies that can make a reliable back up for you guys that only have so much play time and would have to otherwise waste a "play day" if your indy provider that you booked in advance flakes on you.

I also tend to see more indies than agency girls, but given a choice between seeing an agency girl or seeing NO ONE, especially given how many great agency girls there are in Atlanta, I think it's a pretty easy choice to make.

and isn't is amazing just how well Shaft does when making his "calling all MILF's" on a Sunday morning? Most anyone else would be tarred, feathered and run off the board, but not Shaft. You've got to admire his success rate.

END OF MESSAGE

I generally plan a few days early but hate surprises .. but it can happen to any of us ...
So here are some pointers that help me:
1. Having a list.
2. Knowing, in general, who on the list is more free than others on the list. More free
doesn't have to be that they have less demand ladies with small children, living with  
other members of the family, with a real day job ... Naturally has less flexibility. Once you have been  
with them for a while you know who would be more likely to be ready in short notice.
3. If you have a history of kindness, respect, gifting, flowers, cooperation .. that really ups the probability of success.
If you treated them nice+ they will come to your help. Social capital is a real thing!
4. If all fails, agency.

I never got to 4 for this purpose. I don't think a second or third call really makes any difference for the lady.
Frankly they don't (need to) know unless you want to use it as your sympathy chip ... oh help me! I got stood up!  
That will be the most undesirable approach for both parties I think.

I did get into a different kinda problem one time .. Problem of plenty .. if you will Lol! After the first one balked I contacted
the second no reply for a while, the third, then the fourth .. phone messages and emails .. No reply from all of them then suddenly all three replied in a span of five minutes literally. It was like they were all in a provider conference which just
broke a session! I picked the first one responded and told other two the truth and they were very professional about it I did see them soon to "thank" them personally ...

Gentlegu