Just a question I was pondering just now as I was approving posts. A few of you (providers & hobbyists) have been stood up/canceled without notice.

How many times would you give this person a chance. I.E.
A provider is a no call/no show.
A hobbyist is a no call/no show.

Would you seem them again? Let them explain?

And, while on that topic if you have an ATF or a provider who you see often .... and one session she is off her norm; do you see her again?

And providers if you will humor me ... if a hobbyist who you have seen quite a few times is a asshole during a session but was a gentlemen the rest; do you see him again?

First time shame on you. 2nd time shame on me.

Funny that you should ask this as most of the providers on-line here expereince day-to-day setbacks which cause disruptions in their day--lord help you if you catch them during their monthly visitor!  

What I think is funny is when a new girl will comes to town, maybe even riding the the coat-tails of one of the local (hard-working girls) maybe not, but still comes to town offers specials gets clients and then blows-it!  

Shit happens and shit happens all the time, if you're a regular on someone's list, you're going to see a bad day (maybe), or more likely have an appointment that is broken with out any word or phone call.  The funny girls are the ones who are not professional and don't know how to handle life's stressful moments.  For example, what if the condom breaks and the provider throws a can of soda at you?  Would you go see her again?  Sometimes I think we hobbyist are like that puppet from that pbs children's show, "The Cookie Monster!"  Except for us it would be Pussy Monster and yes we would do anything (put up with anything) to get it!


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If a provider is no call and no show and never contacts afterwards-never again.

Never have stood up anyone.

No show, no call is pretty serious. If is was the first time, I would never go back.  With a regular, it would require a  discussion on the phone or email with an apology and reasonable explanation for me to see her again.

I have never been no show, no call.  I have had to cancel, and have always called and always apologized.  It is only common curtesy.

Off days is another story, as everybody has them.  It is a matter of how good the relationship had been, the nature and severity of the off day.  A session that is mildly off the mark can be easily forgiven.  A really disasterous session can end a relationship right there.

A no show may be for legitimate reasons (on either side.) But there is no excuse for no call on a no show. I would give a no show another chance given some effort to let me know (don't really need or want to know why - in fact, I'd rather not know wht; just say it won't work.) The courtesy to let someone know you can't make it says a lot about respect for other people. A no show with no call - no second chance.
On the other question, anyone can have an off day. No problem.

nice to see someone was paying attention.  And know I wouldn't see her again.  It was a great session up to that point but great sessions are always availabl in the ATL.

Yes, a no show without a call saying she or I  cannot make it is almost unforgivable. Also if possible, the call shoud be made hours in advance. I have never called a provider again for a total no show, with one exception, if is a very well known super provider and someone else was handling the calls that evening, so I forgave her for it and will see her again, I only lost 60-70 miles and about 2-3 hours and about 6 phone calls leaving my number to call and let me know what was happining,so it was not disasterous.  Remember , you owe me one(grin) Some other provider I would have given a bad review but that is not the norm for her to anyone. History says she is top notch and was worth the later explanation.  We all have problems one time or another,and have to change plans, but it only takes 2-3 minutes to call and explain that you cannot make it.  Bad days can happen, but if the time before was great, you shoud give it a second try unless you really get the vibes that it will be the norm again, had that just two weeks ago, I am sorry, but this time I may not try for another although we seemed to really click the first time and then it was 2-3 putoffs and delays.  Then got a call from her and she wanted to see me, the session was a little rushed and she was not the same, guess she was in need of $$ and I was it, probably will not chance it again.  Too many out here that really want to be with you to have bad or short service.   Just my 6c.
Jimmy

To funny. this is my exp so far..

Called provider 1 gave info for verification, set date time..
no show on provider  e-mail day or so later saying sorry.

provider 2 our days / times couldnt get together.

Provider 3, called set date and time.. didnt get call back at set time. called up to find out she's haveing bad day lost my number. again no go.

Thanks for asking. A VERY well known (almost legendary in ATL)provider has sttod me up TWICE.  Once I went all the way to Columbus & waited for a couple of hours, then she "apologized", then once NW of ATL.  I was furious but never wrote her up here.  I think only once will be my future cut-off. On a side note - should I have noted my experience here?

As the owner of a business, a courtesy call would always be made if a cancellation had to occur for any reason.  In over 30 years of business ownership, a client has never been left 'hanging', or left waiting for a scheduled appointment, without a telephone call from either me or one of my employees.  Disregard for professional courtesy is intolerable in any business matter.  The only time I would never return a call would be: 1) if I was run over by a truck, or 2) if I was run down (spent) by a provider!

I have been stood up by a woman I thought was an extremely reputable provider, without a return call or e-mail.  All of my correspondence to the provider, following that wasted evening was cordial and professional, and yet today I have still not heard word one, nor any form of apology.  I don't expect one.  Therefore, I will never call this provider, nor recommend her to anyone.  Time and money are too valuable!

I once made an apointment with a girl that had to have an outcall location. So, I spent 110.00 dollars on a hotel room and was looking forward to an great time. She called me twice in route, the last time saying she was five minutes away. She no showed. I don't know if she was spooked or thought I was LE. But she never called and I would never see her or her agency again. Blue balls on a Saturday night is not cool.