Escorts and mistresse are completely different... it is misleading to think of a mistress as a long-term escort.
Sometimes a man falls for a woman, but isn't willing to leave his wife (or doesn't want to... its possible to love more than one person) or its something where a man and woman have a great romantic chemistry, even love, but they know it could never work as a marriage. this (in my experience) is the origin of the mistress arrangement.
I have had mistresses twice, once 8 years ago, and once about two years ago. Both lasted about a year, and in the case of the former it coincided with me having a finace at the time, and in the latter I had (and still have) a wife. These were cases where I met these girls, and while I would never leave my wife, I HAD to possess these girls... so beautiful, so intelligent and witty, sexy, but also much my junior (the first case I was 29 and she was 19, the second case I was 35 and she was 20). I supported them completely, sent the first one to school and got the other a couple of gallery showings. So, its not about "sex" per se, but about kind of taking care of someone you *might* have loved as a young man. An escort, conversely, is primarily all about recreational sex; hence our term, "provider".
Obviously, this is my experience, and I'm offering it anecdotaly, not as a definition or theory.
Just last Thursday I met a flawlessly beautiful Russian artist (20yo) who may be my next "mistress" - she is so incredible, and I want to see her succeed and have a happy life, so I'll help her connect to the art world here, go shopping with her, etc. Maybe it will happen, maybe not... if so, it lasts maybe a year, we each learn things, its good all around if its done right. Expense isn't necessarily that extreme; depends on the situation; really, its a kind of relationship.
Men by their nature want to take care of something; a mistress satisfies this. In a way, there is almost a mentor/pupil or father/daughter quality to it.
So escort vs. mistress? Apple vs. Orange, sometimes you like both, and one needn't exclude the other.
O.
Even though I still think both are two in the same I totally agree with your explaination......I only say that becasue no matter how you look at it "PROVIDER, ESCORT, MISTRESS" we all do them a service, as do they us, they have something we want, and we have something they want, be it Mental, Physical, Emotional, or even Financial. Your statment was very well put and to that you receive a standing ovation from me.
