That the perfect blow job involves no hands. At least IMHO. I know there will be a few that disagree. To me, it just seems like when you use a hand that you're just trying to speed things up.

I don't have a dick, so can only speak from giving/getting feedback from people with dicks, but I always thought hands were a welcome and often necessary component. I joyride in intervals sometimes, but usually like having a hand at the base to steady everything and make sure my partner only feels the pleasant, soft aspects of my oral anatomy. I think and have heard from partners that having hand action is nice as it incorporates a different sensation in tandem with the mouth. Also, if my mouth is working the tip what's going to play with the boys?

Going too deep.

I still think no hands is the sexiest. Gagging has never been a problem for any of my lovers....LOL (XLTrojan probably not a good handle for me).

it is really less about what part of the anatomy the lady is using ..
it is more about how they are using it speed, frequency, act, motions and emotions all in play .. pun intended
 

Posted By: AvaRaleigh

I don't have a dick, so can only speak from giving/getting feedback from people with dicks, but I always thought hands were a welcome and often necessary component. I joyride in intervals sometimes, but usually like having a hand at the base to steady everything and make sure my partner only feels the pleasant, soft aspects of my oral anatomy. I think and have heard from partners that having hand action is nice as it incorporates a different sensation in tandem with the mouth. Also, if my mouth is working the tip what's going to play with the boys?  
   
 As someone with a small mouth and strong gag reflex (which I hate and am trying to see if I can improve as I LOVE giving head), I really like the options a handy assist gives me and my partner as traditional DT is not an option. Also I've finally restocked my preffered lube and think that can really enhance the handsy BJ experience. Trojan, you said you dislike hands because it feels like the lady is trying to speed things up. What if she went slow/it was clear she would stay there for as long as it took to get the job done?

she should be playing with her clit with her hands or pulling my hips in for rythem.

Well "the perfect bj" I'm pretty sure is a subjective thing.  I actually like a girl that mixes it up and keeps things interesting.  Fast, slow, focus on the frenulum (tip), deepthroat (or at least the attempt thereof), eye contact, handwork with dirty talk and dfk, massaging the balls, pm (if she's into that).  I actually don't like a lot of gagging and tons of spit, a little is ok if she honestly struggling to take me all the way - a lot of gagging is over the top for me.  Kind of takes me out of the moment.

The perfect blowjob involves a finger or two on the prostate, so that definitely involves at least one of my hands.  Sometimes the dick goes soft during prostate massage (actually it's very common), and although that doesn't stop the BJ or stop me from giving someone an earth-shattering orgasm, it often is helpful to involve my other hand to help direct the cock into my mouth or hold it up in the air as though it were erect so I can reach the whole thing with my mouth...

Without proper use of hands. I do not like all mouth at all. Nothing turns me on more than a woman who can expertly combine skilled use of hands while her soft lips are going down on me. If a woman only uses her mouth, I get bored quickly and can lose interest. That being said, I like a woman to use her hands for other than just steadying the anatomy. A good twisting, sliding motion, used in conjunction with her mouth is my idea of the perfect bj. Micki at EF is the absolute best at this that I've so far experienced.

Posted By: AvaRaleigh

I don't have a dick, so can only speak from giving/getting feedback from people with dicks, but I always thought hands were a welcome and often necessary component. I joyride in intervals sometimes, but usually like having a hand at the base to steady everything and make sure my partner only feels the pleasant, soft aspects of my oral anatomy. I think and have heard from partners that having hand action is nice as it incorporates a different sensation in tandem with the mouth. Also, if my mouth is working the tip what's going to play with the boys?  
   
 As someone with a small mouth and strong gag reflex (which I hate and am trying to see if I can improve as I LOVE giving head), I really like the options a handy assist gives me and my partner as traditional DT is not an option. Also I've finally restocked my preffered lube and think that can really enhance the handsy BJ experience. Trojan, you said you dislike hands because it feels like the lady is trying to speed things up. What if she went slow/it was clear she would stay there for as long as it took to get the job done?

Teri47, good to get an opinion from an expert. You should teach classes.

I agree, in the main, with both Ava and electr0nsrealm...what tool a lady uses is not as important as HOW she uses it..and I believe that when she uses diverse portions of her anatomy during a BJ there is immense scope for variety and experimentation.

Based on my experience with daty, I have found that every woman is different; there is not a one-style-fits-all technique. In the absence of verbal requests or instructions, paying close attention to her subtle signals can lead to an effective technique. So, by analogy, I'm guessing the same is true with blow jobs.

I like the use of hands, but lightly. Fingers gliding or tickling. Jerking while giving a BJ is cheating.

Use my hands. I love deep throating so hands just get in the way. I find that a lot of men actually like the sensation of hand & mouth, though. Which is surprising to me.  

I really like twisting my hand in one direction and rotating my tongue in the other. Again with the varied sensations thing.

Asking is really underrated, and communication of needs and desires is of paramount importance. Thanks for the reminder, I'll definitely be sure to ask more about the preferences of my suitors in the future.

So giving a blow job and being at the dentist remind me of each other, because someone is trying to talk to you while putting something in your mouth that makes the conversation one sided :P I like an organic ebb and flow feel to BJs, some intense actions followed by some light stroking/talking/kissing or vice versa. It just isn't feasible to have a large body part in your mouth constantly for 30 minutes. Often I find my dates and I move on to other activities, sometimes to come back to the blow job but sometimes not. It's one of my favorite ways to finish though (I view swallowing as the ultimate gold star ), I wish it happened more often. But I really liked your adventure description ER, I could not agree more.

Ooh, I love the tongue flicking move. It's one of my special favorites. Another is flicking against the little crevice where the head meets the shaft. See, we can find some common ground after all!

Thank you sir, and really who doesn't love a good ball licking? Another personal favorite. Goddamnit you guys, you have me all worked up about blow jobs and I don't have any appointments this weekend to satisfy my craving! Someone should remedy that...

It is all directly relative to the feedback from my partner. Hands no hands,tongue flicking or not,nibbling and head sucking,always deepthroating no other way.
Never a doubt about taking every last drop and not just letting it just flow but sucking ,draining completely every bit I am told adds  to the experience.
Hand action, that little twist and the resistance it creates in my mouth. The edging teasing playing all the while working it with mouth action just add to my experience.   OoooooMmmmmGawadd, it just gets me hot..I aime à avaler tout......suzee

Duly noted young lady, duly noted.
I have never known you to get tired, bored, or frustrated -  but I think you are an overachiever in many aspects.  

Oh, there are girls on this forum?!
I had no idea - I'm so embarrassed!
Sharing my most intimate details of how I like to be orally pleased...
What must you think of me?
I would never put such lewd and lacivious notions into an impressionable young lady's head...

Posted By: AvaRaleigh

So giving a blow job and being at the dentist remind me of each other, because someone is trying to talk to you while putting something in your mouth that makes the conversation one sided :P I like an organic ebb and flow feel to BJs, some intense actions followed by some light stroking/talking/kissing or vice versa. It just isn't feasible to have a large body part in your mouth constantly for 30 minutes. Often I find my dates and I move on to other activities, sometimes to come back to the blow job but sometimes not. It's one of my favorite ways to finish though (I view swallowing as the ultimate gold star ), I wish it happened more often. But I really liked your adventure description ER, I could not agree more.

That we can have an intelligent discussion about one of a lot of people's favorite topic.

I've had ladies who:
 wrap her arms around my waist, grab my ass, and encouraged me to face fuck her til I was bone dry;
 used BJ as a means of placing the condom so I could then please her in K9, only tp briefly give a BJ when I was ready to finish;
 did a slow HJ/BJ using my member like Mr Microphone during what should have been the "20 questions phase" of a first meeting, but luckily she encouraged multiple rounds,;
 claimed to be DT queens who couldn't do it;
 claimed to be DT queens who made it look embarassing easy;
 gave tandem BJs during threesomes;
 have stories I'll just have to keep to myself.

to discuss pros and cons of CIM ? Is that a deal breaker ? Any difference to you in swallowing or spitting ?

I'm loving this conversation!!  When I am giving a bj to my partner, I love it how I make him go crazy!!  What a turn on!!!  And then to hop on and do CG.... Amazing!!

.........if one ever found the perfect blowjob it would definitely ruin the need to continue the fun of searching
kind of a Don Quixote search which should never really end.............i aime à avaler tout.........suzee

...I came to realize that you couldn't get a mouthful without swallowing and then I came to the reality that the continuous action relative to the SWALLOW only heightened the experience for us both, YUMMMMMMYYY
BIG difference, REALLY BIG.........i aime à avaler tout.....suzee

would say what I do is similar to being the conductor of a symphony orchestra, starting out slowly with a lick here, a suck there, then building up the tension a little bit by stroking your shaft while I take both of your balls into my mouth and hummmmmm. Then back to your shaft with my mouth, squeezing your head between my tongue and my palate while I suck you up and down, massaging your balls ever so gently with my magic fingers at the same time. Continuing to build the crescendo while I stroke you with my wet mouth, all the way down to the bottom and all the way back up again, sometimes pausing at the top putting you in a tiny headlock with my lips. The balls, the shaft, the head, my fingers, my tongue, my lips, all working in concert until finally, you reach the apex! I, the conductor, am loving your applause, and I drink every drop, smiling. The piece slowly winds down, then I take a bow.

Caylee, I just remembered I need to see you again.  

Holy taters that was hot.

Will you marry me ?

LMAO!

Call me crazy *YOU'RE CRAZY!* but there are few things more enjoyable than hearing women talk about their respective blowjob techniques.

If you'll marry me for 4 hours, I'll give you my credit cards and you can shop for 3.

But I agree XL that hands free is my favorite with the lady playing with herself. But a very sensual combo of hands and tease can be awesome. Wish I was having either one right now. Cheers from the Lake

and don't necessarily think that it just gets YOU BOYS going.....I REALLY DO LOVE WHAT I DO!!!!!!!!!!
...............i aime à avaler tout............suzee

I think they call it sexual telepathy??? Maybe, but I also believe communication is key to ANY experience. I do tend to do a lot of communication before I meet someone. As professional courtesans we all have they ability to give any man the BJ the want. Just communicate with the lady you want to see and tell them the technique YOU like and I guarantee the ladies can and will blow your mind...and a huge load lol if you just talk to them. After screening of coarse!  
LOVE LOVE LOVE to make a man throb in my mouth!!
Yummmmm....
Xoxo
TL

I guess more porn and popcorn tonight!

LMFAO!!!  
Now we are talking BJs, its really hard to use my hands with my hands tied! hahahaha!!

now that is a great visual with my hands behind your head !

The building crescendo is absolutely the way to express it.  And at its peak is the dilemma:  I don't want it to end but I can't wait for the explosion!  Is that what's called a horny dilemma?

controlling (face fucking), on the bed, on the floor, in the shower, in the pool/spa, fingers doing things (hers and mine), vibrators doing things - I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect BJ, but it sure has been fun trying to find it.  The most unusual so far was in a double with one lady and me in 69 with me on top while the other lady gave me some serious rimming.   Hmmmm - maybe a double with a simultaneous combination of foot job and blow job?  Ahhh, the trails not yet taken!

Won't be able to see him without thinking of you!!! ;-

'm ready when you are! I'm still anticipating that double we spoke of

That sounds like a fair pre-nup Lol!

And I'm pretty sure it's the reason edging was invented

You saw what I did there?

"Won't be able to see him without thinking of you!!!"  

Oh, I DID see what you did there!

And, I did watch the video. Mickey and the phallic mop! lol

Looking forward to the privilege of being in your present. Love the hand free technique!

agreed  
hands free is the way to go...I can let the girl control or I can take control so ultimately that puts me in control in what is happening...they also tend to be nastier which I prefer..and I enjoy giving a  nice face fucking

I agree with Ava. Sometimes there are just ceratin motions that call for the hand. Especially when it's all sloppy like a wet bar of soap.

The art of the blow job is that it is unique to the players involved. Slower with flicking? Harder with hand squeezing tight? More at the head? More at the base? Scrotum likes tickling? Balls like squeezing? Or is all of that distracting? Prostate massage? I'll be checking in frequently to paint our canvas into a masterpiece of feedback and flow. Mmmmm.