As I have gotten older I have turned more toward "soft" porn than "hard" porn especially photos of lone beautiful women.

I was just looking at one site and as I was enjoying the beauty of one young woman I thought to myself, " I wonder if she even knows what to do with what she has?"

The question caught my curiosity because I know at 18 I had no clue what to do with what I had except try to put my dick in any whole a young woman would allow. I think I may have had a bit of a headstart because from my very first GF I have always enjoyed DATY and it seems to have always been an important part of my sex life.

But when I thought about it from the woman's view point, it brought a whole array of scenarios as to what the question was even implying. Certainly at 18, and younger, a young woman knows how to have intercourse, but there is so much more that a woman can bring into a scenario with a man, from a one night stand to a committed long term relationship to an "arrangement" She has so many tools, assetts, WOSD, weapons of sexual destruction and other "tricks" to use to beguile and charm a man.

In my unlimited inability to understand women, lol, I can only imagine the thoughts, plans, preparations and yes maybe even a bit of scheming that goes into a woman getting what she wants from the men in her life.

So ladies, when did you figure out what to do with what you have and if you dare, candidly share with us what some of the process has been? I am approaching this from a very limited view of what all of you bring to the table as the best parts of a woman most of us in this hobby never see. It is purposeful, to view it this way as that is after all how most participants here limit their ratings of women.

But enough of my palaver. Ladies I look forward to your viewpoints.

Thanks,

Pheonix

Your's is a a question I have been wanting to ask for myself! Sure the younger ladies have their appeal, but a woman who knows how to use all the weapons in her arsenal are the most intriguing.

Hmmmmm, I am not a frequent poster but Im working on it and I think this is something I could give a shot!

Well for me I was always innocent when I was younger, I guess naive and even prudish you could say. As I gained "experience" in my teens I realized I had a freaky side! lol...  The 1st time was amazing then I learned quickly what I liked, actually I knew EXACTLY what I liked and how to do it but it was the challenge of getting the guy to do it without me directly saying it. As I played more and more I realized ooo this can do this or this feels good or how does this feel for him or what does this do or wow that feels amazing, you catch my drift? Its was a fun, sexy, process with sexual fantasy I could never forget ;*)....I have stories for days!!!!
To this day I learn knew things about my body, my "intellegence" just grows and grows and my experiences just keep getting better on a different level.

Hope this answered your question babe, if you have any questions ask away, hopefully 1st times a charm for me!

Much love and Kisses always,

Leslie Awnwood

Phoenix,  I am a little older (in reality) than I am in TER Land.  I just use "the age I appear to be" in my ads, which I think is fair.  Most clients think I am in the 23 to 30 range (I often ask my clients to guess my age, and I use that as a barometer for what's acceptable to say, in my ads), so I say I am 26 in my ads.  I don't do this with deceitful intentions, but I do think "my real age" is sensitive, identifying information, similar to my social security number, address, and my real name.  The same goes for photos of my face.  Privacy is something I value,s o, that's why I opt out of disclosing my real age in TER Land.

That said, my experience level is that of a woman who is around 30 years old.  

I actually think the biggest moments of "learning to use what I have, sexually" did come from sex work.  I think sex work can be really traumatic, if you don't want to be here.  However, I have always been here, on my own volition, and it's been positive for me.  When I was a stripper, years ago, that actually boosted my confidence.  If I never was a stripper, I think it would have take me a lot longer to learn that most men are sexually uncritical and have a wide sexual apparatus.  Before I actually jumped into sex work, I thought all strippers looked like Pam Anderson, and I thought I could never do it.  I was pleasantly surprised, when I was successful at stripping.  It was the first time, where I ever really saw my sexual power, at face value.  That was a life changing event for me, when my confidence changed, for the better.  There are some girls who never have that awakening, as strippers.  But, that's what happened to me, and it was a good thing for me.  Confident women are always better lovers, you know what I mean?

The other thing that was a big learning experience for me, was more embarrassing, but as a provider, when I started out, I was really fast about sex.  I think I had this image in my head that faster was inherently more hardcore?  I don't know, but after a year of being a provider, some clients called me out on my overly fast sexual methods.  I am the type of person who strongly values courteously-delivered constructive criticism, so I did change my methods, after that.  I give slower, more sensual blowjobs, and everyone has expressed praised for my slower sexual style.  I am naturally energetic, so there are probably some things I still do in a "Wham! Bam!  Thank you, ma'am!" way, but I made sure I slowed down the parts of sex that are best done in a slow way.

XOXO,
Tattooed Asian Kim

So how old were you when you discovered that your pretty face and killer bod was something that men would pay for in more ways than one? And how old were you or are you still learning what all you can do with that knowledge?
What is your plan? Stay an escort? Take the skills learned in this biz and carry it into other career choices? Use the skills and money from this to set yourself up so that you don't need men except as tools?
I don't mean to come across as crass or demeaning, I just think that a beautiful woman who is willing to use all of her assets, has a huge opportunity to advance her place in life.

Thanks for answering Leslie!

Anything else I do, whether it seems, purposefully carnal or whatnot, is purely instinctual.

Aside from my confidence growing, and aside from learning real sexual techniques from my partners, I don't think I have ever pontificated on my own emotional or psychosexual abilities.  Anything in that realm is instinctual, for me.

You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of sex comes from the danger of sex. You can be overpowered.
Camille Paglia

As a single guy in the dating world I find that most civie ladies either don't have a clue what they like or are afraid to say it for fear of what others think... More often than not its because they have never really had a partner to take the time to explore and really see what she likes and  Most do not take matters into their own hands... LOL! Most important of all is we men have power too and most of us don't use it either or don't have a clue what that is! Mostly because we are concerned with the finish and not enjoying the race.A woman can sense this and will not mentally submitt. To those guys all I will say is you are missing out on the best part of sex (IMHO).

OOO lots of questions! hehe! I was always told I was amazing at my skills and I enjoyed it I prob realized at 16 17.... around 18 when i realized what sells... Im a college girl and i plan on having a career in medicine. I am independent I dont like to look at men necessary as a tool I really enjoy a real man!

Leslie Awnwood

I appreciate your willingness to open up and share on here. When I used the term "tool" I didn't really mean it as a negative thing. More of like an instrument to accomplish a goal. Kind of like a professional golfer uses the PGA, other golfers, the fans and sponsors all to reach goals they either have set or develop as they go along. The opportunity to make really good money is incredible in this biz. If a young woman was smart she could be in it for 5-10 years and pretty much be able to persue whatever she wanted from there. They say money can't buy happiness and that is true but it can buy some breathing room.

I really think this thing we all do is an incredible opportunity to not onnly have some of the best sexual experiences of our lives but to truely look at who we are and what is important to us.

Man I bet the guys during Rush week still talk about that long tall blond bombshell!

I think you have stated one important thing here and that is enjoy what you do. You will always do it better. And yes, we do enjoy watching a lady having a good time.

Thanks for your input.

Pheonix

HI Kim, Thanks for taking the time to answer.

I enjoy hearing about your awareness regarding being a stripper and realizing that there is a customer for every dancer. When I was younger and more taken by just physical beauty I would pass up lots of ladies who I am sure would have been as good or better than the ladies I was choosing but I was going for the fantasy.

I definitely agree that the more confident a woman is in herself the better her sex will be. Most of us don't perform well in situations where we feel out of place or uncomfortable. Put us in our environment and we become stronger and more willing to take risk.

I appreciate your insights.

LOL - in your context, I think most men would wish to have a wide sexual apparatus.   Honest typos are always the most humorous.  Which is to say, thank you for the laugh

Amen to that - the trip is such an integral part of the experience.  You finally figure out that it is all about bringing the BFE (BjoyFiendExperience) to the table everybody getr more

I completely agree with you! I love hearing it from someone else... I think its a given that providers use this as a tool for whatever their goals are. My goals are to finish my degree and this works well with my schedule, PLUS I love what I do and not everyone is blessed with that!

Leslie Awnwood