Was checking out Dana's site now that she's independent and not with ER. Under her 'etiquitte' section, she asks that clients 'not ask her out on dates off the clock'.

Ladies, how often does this happen? 10% of the time? 25%? How do you feel about it or handle it?

I'll be the 1st to admit that I have done this to a few of you out there lol! And most have been answered in various, creative ways that eventually end up being, 'no' lol!

Just curious to anybodies thoughts on this.

Lastly, if any of you ladies have changed your minds and now want to hang (you know who you are), feel free to pm me...LOL

Sir Cumalot

and happily she said "si si Papi" lol

I was with the hottest little paisa last night, actually this morning. She is working in Panama for a couple of months and then returning to Medellin, like many chicas in Latin America. somewhere along the line I mentioned how much time I spent in Colombia and asked her if she would like to go to San Andreas after her "tour", she was just so fucking hot I couldnt' help myself.  AAR she said yes, but a lot can change in two months.

As a single guy I don't see a thing wrong with asking a provider out on a "real" date, of course real dates mean "sex optional", hey you have to take the good with the bad. Just because you've slept with a woman "on the clock" doesn't mean that she has to have sex with you "off the clock" just because she agree to go out with you.

I might be an asshole on the boards, but I do accept that "fair is fair" where it comes to off the clock dating. As a matter of fact most of the providers that I have dated wouldn't "put out" on our first couple of "real dates" I still remember what one of my first Korean provider GF's told me on our first "real date"  I tried to put the moves on her and she turned me down flat saying "friends first" She turned out to be well worth the wait. lol

I've not yet been asked for a date "off the clock".  I would give them the benefit of the doubt and take it as a compliment!  Rather than being a cynic and thinking that he's trying to "get the milk for free".  haha.

But, at least for me, I wouldn't blur the line between my providing and my personal life.

I ask her at least once a day.

On the west coast, I get her way about every six months.  I try to connect with her for dinner, play, or once we went to a Renaissance festival.  There were two times that we never ended bcd, and she did not want payment, we just had fun together.  Rules are very clear though in my mind, if bcd do occur, it is always funded, I offer the other times, it is up to her to accept.

I have had the so route, honestly I like this method better.  I do not recommend blurring the line.  But must admit to asking the question a few times waiting for my toes to uncurl

I prefer to call it the language "blessing" lol

and not to go all MP67 here, but if anyone would like advice on how to "last longer", just try taking one of those littel blue pills (that you don't even need" and washing it down with a dozen beers and a half of bottle of whiskey. Finishing can be a challenge to put it mildly. lol

We went three times last night, technically we only went once, separated three times for periods of rest since I am well past the age wher I can just go five hours straight, the last one being at about five this morning. Besides having a huge hangover, my abs feel like I did a thousand crunches. I am considering the fact that I might be "too old for this shit" lol

Oh well, time to jump back on that ho, err I mean horse. lol

Brooklyn, don't get me wrong, I love "free milk" or milk on special for special customers, and I'd ask you out off the clock, on the clock or in the clock LOL.  But Seriously, passionate time together creates a fantasy that doesn't translate to the "real world" very well. We kid ourselves if we think it does.  I prefer to keep things simple and everyone wins.  

...would you specifically not go out on a date or hang time specifically BECAUSE the man participates in the hobby?  I can see where there could be a hang up on the ladies end, as I'm sure there is on the gentleman's. Obviously, this is a case by case basis with varying degrees.

Sir Cumalot

Let's be honest. We spend compensated time with a wonderful lady, communicate well, and think "wow- there is a connection". Yep- there is, and its for the fantasy time you spend together. I always thought it is wrong to place a lady in the position ("wanna go out?"). IF she really does have some feeling for you or enjoys you, she may suggest  a lunch or dinner before hand. But face it, most of the guys are older (some of us a lot older; e.g. me) than the ladies we see, and really...they would rather be with a guy or girl their own age or closer to their age- unless the have father/grandfather issues.
and- most of the guys are married or in committed relationships- and the lady may be in same.

I usually just get "fuck you loser" as a response.  Perhaps if she didn't speak English I'd have a better shot.  Que?