Maybe I am out in left field......I just don't see paying a provider to perform DATY on her.

It may be because I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to that. It may be due to the fact that I've lived with a woman for 30 years that thinks oral sex is perverted. She's a great woman and I love her......just dull in the bedroom, what can I say ? I guess that is why I hobby when funds permit.

But back to the subject, is it just giving pleasure that you  guys enjoy ? Maybe I'm just too selfish, but I can't see where the guy gets a whole lot out of it. Maybe one of you can break it down for me. Again, if I knew what I was doing....maybe I'd enjoy it more.

I do love receiving BJ's. I've never had a bad one...LOL. But I mean, she gets down there, licks, slurps, sucks.....it seems pretty simple. Her mouth is hot and wet, how can you go wrong ? Maybe there's so much going on at a women's spot there, I don't know where to start?

I see posts like this and tell myself that I bet I know who he really is.  But, to answer your question, I like eating pussy.  I'm good enough at it that many women get off that way.  Others lie and tell me I'm incredible and that's an ego stroke even if it's bullshit.  Besides, I can't fuck for an hour straight so I might as well make the lady happy too.  I suppose that I could make her happy by just paying her more, but this way is easier on the wallet.

You end with "I don't know where to start?"

No offense, but you can start by not being selfish, as you stated!

Why not try to make the experience more pleasurable for HER. I mean, you're there for your pleasure, don't you think MAYBE the provider would/could be more enthusiastic if she were being pleasured also?(or at least, attempted to be)

to give DATY on a provider.  I could care less about receiving also, as I can get and do both with civies.  My foray into the hobby is to be with a certain type of woman that would take too much effort to pursue in and around Atlanta.  For example, I might want to be with a young woman so I hook up a date through an agency.  If after the second visit we may have a little fun at the Y, but I find it senseless to give and receive when I have an hour when my dick could be inside her.

She must be a gem that would make it worth my while.

and you can make her wiggle and her eyes roll back and
make her forget she is not there as business...it always comes back to your benefit!

You guys that are so good at it, did it just come natural to you or did you have a lady tell you what felt good ?

Maybe I am selfish or maybe I just don't know what the hell I'm doing.

I know this sounds stupid, but do you just try to f--k her with your tongues, do you lick all over or what ? I read one recent review that said the provider loved licking the ouside of her lips. I guess I've just never had a patient partner that tried to tell me how. Like I said in my original post, it seems a lot more complicated to me than a blow job.

I'd love to get some feedback from the ladies on the subject.

Since you're so convinced that a blowjob is easier, why don't you ask if she'd bring a guy along?  You can test the theory and use it as a springboard to working up to the big leagues.  Just a thought.

It's mostly hearing her moaning and getting O, b/c for many women it's hard to get O just through penetration.  Plus all the fluids coming out when I DATY helps when I penetrate.

True you pay for expect some core f$cking, but how do you make the entire session, for me they tend to run two hours, without one member getting bored (mentally I intend to participate in the physical)

Ever boat rocks differently on the waves.  I like daty, I am only so so on recording oral as I have limited release frequency.  Others like kissing, breast wording, dato, toe sucking, bellybutton licking, anal, dimming, and I am sure some of my favorite perverts on this board can add to the list.

You are obviously just paying to get your rocks off, the way you describe your so, probably all you are used to with a woman.  I like to try a deeper level of fantasy play.  Really does not matter I guess, bit my experience is, if I get the ladies diesel warmed up, she will keep purring the entire time I am capable of driving.

Try this out a few times.
Shave real close, giving whisker burns down there is not a classy thing to do.
Shower, brush teeth, be clean
Start slow, slowly find the clit on the upper end of track, use slow gentle strokes
Take tip of your tongue and slowly tease the outer lips
Try to use your tongue to open her inner channels
Straight up and down strokes or figure eight patters work great
DO NOT BITE, until you are good, I would not even lip down there
Ask your partner to guide youbto maximizing effect

Higher skill items may try fingering but have clean nails and smooth manicure
Chin popping can bring interesting results
Toe fucking her prepared nether region while recording oral can be quite fun if you have properly prepared her in advanc
Often inspiring o release can make a level easier for both parties, but remember to have permission before trying to bust open a new door

Here is the thing, daty can be incredible way to connect with your bed partner, sounds like you have received bad training for a woman with strong inclinations.  Use the hobby to broaden your skill portfolio for sex, or not,it's all up to what play you want to pay.  But if you want to ignore so much of the experience, save your cash and hit the amps for regular rock release

You're really asking this?  Really?

As others have said, and same is true for me, I can't fuck for an hour, so having an activity that pleases the lady keeps our time together sexually active, and if I'm any good at all hopefully makes me a welcome client on a return visit ("oh, that guy...he was pretty good with his tongue, yeah, that would be fun").  And yes, the excitement of it, well, that helps me get hard in case its one of those days, or get hard again if I've already had one pop.  My tongue can go longer than another apendage of mine, so I've got better history of providing O's with my tongue. But that's just me, if you're packing a thick foot long and can go all night and still stay hard, more power to you.  All in all, turning a sexy lady on, well that's a great thing, and has generally resulted in enthusiastic returns to me. Not every lady is into it, BTW, but for those who have been, the results have been great and memorable.

And there isn't a shaved one on a dynamite sexy tight toned body at home to nuzzle into and taste, so I want to enjoy as much of a lovely body as I can while I'm with a lady who has one.  Having her body extra lubed and sexually energized, priceless.  And the rush of sensing her tasting herself on my lips when DFK follows an O from DATY, that brings an extra sense of erotica into the session.

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DATY is one of my favorite kinds of fun.  I can stay there the whole time.  I'm told I'm the best at it but then I expect most guys are told that.  Sometimes I can get my tongue up on the G spot, create a little vaccuum there and just move my tongue slightly.  It feels good to me and it drives my girl insane.  Same with her clit, just get your tongue on it and slowly let is grasp.  Stay there, go slow, be patient and enjoy the writhing and moaning.  

"Licking the Alphabet"....you can give credit to Sam Kinison for that.

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I have always enjoyed it. I have been told I'm good at it by both providers and civvies but it's a subjective thing. There are probably as many that didn't like my technique and just didn't say anything. I believe it's part of the entire experience. I wouldn't want to see a provider and only have intercourse. I go for GFE because I want more than just intercourse.

You say you don't know what to do. Your SO's attitude is obviously part of the reason but could it be there is some fear of not being very good at it and that is why your not into it? The best way to find out is to ask a lady who likes it and practice what she tells you. I can think of few things more enjoyable and invigorating than having a women squirming and writhing around on the bed, floor, whatever because she is enjoying what you are doing. It a powerful thing.

I know there are women that don't like it. But I know one recently that said she didn't like it but had never allowed it so really didn't know. She tried it and said it was so intense and felt so much better than she had ever imagined. She is now a fan of DATY. ( Her experience wasn't with me so I'm not bragging just relating what she said.)
You won't know until you experience it with a lady that enjoys it and is willing to show and tell what to do and how to do it.  You are missing out on a lot of pleasure for both of you.

I have always loved eating pussy.  The whole idea turns me on.  I love the taste of it, the feel of the labia and clitoris in my mouth, the juices flowing, the moaning and the eventual release.  I get really excited when I go down on a woman.  Also, I don't always have intercourse when I see a provider.  Sometimes it's just giving and receiving oral.  For me, that is a blast.

I would rather eat and wonderfully clean, fresh pussy than anything in the world. Seriously!!

But for me it isn't just the pussy but the entire region. First, it's the view. I love looking at beautiful vaginas. They are a masterful creation of softness, color, texture and yes even strength.

There is a soft indentation where the tendon between the hip and thigh bone is taut and meets up with the ab’s  and the buttocks. I love to gently kiss and lick there.

I love to take just the tip of my tongue and start to separate the different folds of the ladies lips, gently encouraging them to engorge with blood so that their sensitivity increases. I like to take each soft petal and suck it in and out of my mouth, flicking gently with my tongue.

I like to explore and allow the ladies reactions to me show me what she likes and how she wants it. Some enjoy it soft and slow for a long build up, others like me to get a bit more assertive with my tongue directly on the clit. Some ladies like to have the area just above the clit licked and sucked vigorously.

Then there is the taste. The sweet juices that start to flow as she reaches arousal are intoxicating, like some sweet honey mead from ancient times. It is guttural, primal. It drives me nuts!!

So that is some of "what I get out of daty". I will tell you that words cannot do justice. When I know a woman has enjoyed me being between her legs, I AM KING for that brief time. Nothing else has ever come close to turning me on like eating pussy does.

Now, does anyone like their salad tossed?

Good Hunting!

Yep, I do believe that says it right there.
The soft indentation where the tendon between the hip and the thigh bone. One of my favorite spots. It's often very sensitive.

I don't remember when I got hooked on it but I absolutley love going down on a woman.  There is nothing about it that is not fun exciting and rewarding.  When she comes, I feel like the luckiest guy on earth to experience her orgasm.

So, Mikey.  Try it, you'll like it.

Love it when the juices start flowing, legs shakin, and then she blows. You do it right she'll love you forever. Most ladies I know will tell you a man that can eat pussy RIGHT is worth his weight in gold.

a) I don't get to eat much clean and fresh snatch.
b) I'm REALLY good at it and can do it a LOONG time.
c) Making a pro turn to jelly is its own reward. I know I'm not Brad Pitt so making a beautiful woman cum fiercely and uncontrollably is pretty hot to me. I don't go by what they say, I feel her clit that stiffens beneath my tongue, I go by the copious amounts of cream flowing from their pussies and the fact their face contorts like mine when I come. You can't fake the retard face.
d) If you can get a pro off, she'll normally work on you just as hard and may be willing to do some things she might not otherwise entertain.

You don't know what you're missing out on...but be mindful, just because you are going down on her doesn't make her love it. You have to seriously commit to gratifying her and it requires reading her body and giving her what she wants.