Hi! I was just wondering why men get attitudes when they are having difficulties getting things up. I do my best to be fun and kind during my session but every now and then i get the occasional difficult client. This has happened to me recently and  I was just wondering how it is the providers fault that the client has a technical difficulty? Inquiring minds want to know!

I do not know why a guy would cop an attitude,damn,you are very pretty and damn sexy, maybe he was uncomfortable or nervous, anyway, I would not talk about it with him, just go about your actions, maybe just BJ till it is up, or finished(grin). HEY, can I come back to see if you can get me up. WooWeee, oppps, sorry "T", coun't help myself.(grin)

Many things contribute the lack of hardness, action before, stress, fatigue, but usually it is nerves, maybe just a little aprehensive.  Hell sometimes I really worry about it as I would really be shook if I could not get it up, I would feel that the lady would think I did not find her attractive and sexy.

Hell, you are a HOTTTT girl and do not think for one moment that you are not, it certainly was not because you are not beautifull and sexy.  Your reviews speak for you!

My thoughts are to not talk about it with him.!.

Sorry to hear you have had guys with "attitude problems" May I offer an explanation? It may be that the guy is really insecure and that he is at the time of your meeting....nervous. Hey it is natural to be nervous of a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time...new place...etc, etc. BUT it is HIS problem.... not that you should make fun or belittle the guy,just try to make him feel relaxed, But his attitude needs...adjustment.

Never be surprised by anything and expect nothing. This will keep your mind sharp and your instincts sharper.

I have had very few instances where this has happened..
Now sometimes .. they just dont wanna share the juice.. but I have never ever had anyone get an attitude reguardless of the circumstances..
You must be seeing some seedy guys or something
sorry bout the attitudes .. 99% of the guys in Atlanta are not like that .. promise..
hugs deanna

There is actual psychology behind it.  As males, we are told by society that we are supposed to be virile and always ready for action.  Society, especially western society, teaches us that our manhood is defined by size, performance, variety of partners (and how good they look) and quantity of times.  To fail is to threaten what we are supposed to be.  I forgot what it affects more, the id, ego or super-ego.  I read about this awhile back.  Anyway, when the guys get an attitude about having the technical difficulties what they are doing is displacing their insecurites (about not being the societally defined man) and their frustration (about not being able to accomplish the "manly" task set forth) onto you.  They do that because the alternative is to realize that they are getting older and losing their virility...i.e. their manhood.  Think of it as an emasculating moment in their lives.  So instead, as most men are also taught to be prime Alpha material (aggressive, confident etc...etc...) their conclusion is that it isn't them that it must be you.  Which of course is wrong but they, at that moment, don't honestly know better because of the trauma that technical difficulty is causing them.  Which, I don't know if women understand...  But it is a VERY traumatic event on the sub-concious level if not the concious level (some men deny and bottle up the trauma but it shows up later in other aspects of their lives).  That is all I can think of off the top of my head from when I took Sex and Society at Ga State like two years ago.  Hope it helps!


Your friendly neighborhood,
    WillOrWil

I don't think it's your fault. You failed to mention a few critical observations or symptoms.
#1 Is he diabetic?
#2 Has he had prostate surgery?
#3 Does he take Viagra or one of the derivatives?
#4 Does he have any psychoses?
#5 Did he get a partial erection?
#6 Did you try a porn movie?
#7 Did you observe him when you met him? Did he appear
  to be nervous or apprehensive?
#8 Did he appear to be under the influence of alcohol or drugs?

It's almost like taking a case history, but a courtesan, and I'm not suggesting that you are not, should try to allay the fears of the client and put him at ease.
You providers have to be a nurse, a doctor, a friend, and many other things. That's what makes you a professional.
If you didn't care, you would not have posted this question. I would say that you are one hell of a good provider!!

Katrina, you are just down right beautiful!!!  I would be nervous that I would pop to quickly.....I hope that you would accomadate a multi-popper like myself....hehe....Poontainer

There will be times when a client may have that problem, it has happened to everyone at one time or another...Sometimes u may not click with the client and that could be one reason....Just find other ways to have fun during the session!!!

Terri

It could be just plain embarassement.  If the client is not up to par at that time then the defensive mode kicks in.  He feels like he is wasting his time and money.  It does not always mean the provider is at fault at all.  It's just a bad day for him.  He just feels lost and embarassed.  

Just my .02cents.  ( it's .03cents now as the intrest rates or on the rise)

Mj

There are no rules in the game. People are mostly unpredictable. One must always be prepared for the exceptions. Human nature is quirky. If you can't get past that, this is not the right game for you. My .02

Even though it "could" have something to do with your looks (not being his type), your technique, your attitude, the environment, or that the 2 of you just didn't "click", I don't feel it proper to "get an attitude" with a lady.

In explaining, everyone's techniques are not the same, and I feel each guy might enjoy different techniques differently. I've had some ladies that tried their best to get me off, but couldn't due to any number of reasons. I know they tried hard, and expressed that understanding to them, WITHOUT an attitude. (Sometimes the easiest way to  get me real hot is to let me work on getting you hot!!) Do you smoke or have pets in the room? If so, you may be used to an odor the guy was finding offensive.

If none of these reasons seem to apply, it could be (as others have mentioned) just stress.

Bottom line - No attitude should emerge unless you were complaining about his lack of hardness. (I've not had that particular problem, but I can only assume that insensitive comments would only add to his pressure to perform.)

He has posted a review, saying she is a rip-off.  And saying that the 3 reviews before him were fakes!  I take offence to that statement,  It was not a fake.  I was not going to say he sent a PM to me about her, I answered and told him of reasons that things may have not clicked, but now to say we faked them because he did not have a good session, get a life! We do not know why they did not click, after all, we do not know anything about his actions or reasons they did not click. He gave all the reasons she did not do for him, a little , NO real harsh review, but it will not hurt her as 3 good and she will get more good ones I am sure. All the posts above give many reasons, but to say she is a rip-oof, is not true, at least not with me.  In fact, I believe she can have it removed as it is not real.

I don't recall ever seeing a more brutal and undeserved review on TER.  The guy clearly has a problem of some kind, and most prospective clients will see it that way and ignore his ranting accusations.

I don't think TER is likely to remove it though, since the session did occur.  YMMV also applies to clients, I guess.

But how could one not have a pleasant time with this lovely gal:

I don't think it matters if TER removes it or not, three glowing reviews more than make up for this one attack. Jimmy, we might disagree on the AH issue, but I'm certainly with you on this one. As a matter of fact I think she just went to the top of my to do list. Got to admit, she is hott! BTW. Going to the boards first shows some brains too.  Nice to have her side of the story out there for all of us to see. Kudos

Thank you Deanna for your encouragement to her. I will have to agree. My advice is to take it in stride. The entire issue with a difficult client  etc.... I just try to remember that everyone can have a bad day or a bad moment. Just do your best to be accomodating and make the  best of the situation. If it isn't happening then don't stress it. I think I would probably try to be accomodating and if worse went to worse then try to re-schedule the appointment. I do agree with Deanna that once your clienteel has been established you will see fewer of these incidents and you will also tolerate it better.(~Of course thi is always easier to say when it isn't happening to me~) I  am so sorry for the difficulties. If I can ever help please p/m me.....  kisses  Candace

Jimmy, don't dignify the dude's b/s with this. You cannot be with her on all her dates and this guy is a loser because he can't even string a coherent story together. I say to Katrina, take your lumps from this bozo and move on. Jimmy you are a rescuer and the ladies love you.

Did not know I did that??  Certainly did not mean to dignify the jerks review. She is sweet, young,and lovely, but as you see, mature in her thoughts and actions.  That slam to her will only give her more respect and business from real guys.

Good show, Katrina, you have all our support and respect. Remember, head high and just be yourself.  Jimmy

You have sh.......t heads in this world. Ignoring their antics is the best remedy. Why are we talking about this guy anyway. Those of us who visited Katrina know ,she is great and fun loving person.

go get treatment for ED instead of taking it out you.

Tell him Fork out $25 for Viagra.

I just saw your picture that someone posted ...

It had  NOTHING  to do with your looks ... Just Not Possible ...

You'll see he has promlems most of the time. I would put no weight to any of his reviews if I were doing my research of a provider.Yoyr pice are GREAT and the credible reviewers have allready told the story.  Welcome to Atlanta TER.