I am fairly particular too.

I'm looking for someone who will not insult a lady's intelligence...and has some of his own.

accustomed to dealing with, but Atlanta has some of the classiest, most sophisticated ladies anywhere. However, I won't recommend anyone because the tone of your post is somewhat condescending and gives the impression that you feel they just came down out of the North Georgia hills and are visiting the big city for the first time. Good luck with that dinner date.

As she'd be high on my list, were I to offer recommendations.

How should he have made inquiries about Atlanta without sounding like a Yankee carpetbagger?

not sure this would have worked but what if:
" I will be in Atlanta for my first time enrolling my daughter in college.  I would love to meet a beautiful lady from the south, that I have heard so much about.  I would prefer to see a lady at least 25 yo, to minimize risk of inadvertedly encountering someone my daughter may go to college with.  I would love to treat a bright, witty, charming and of course beautiful woman to a nice meal and hopefully some personal quiet time later.  In terms of other preference, at age fifty I have learned that true joy and beauty are found with chemistry and interpersonal connections rather than numbers, forms and hair color preferences.  Besides at 50, after getting kids thru high school and into college, I am no Adonis anymore either.

 I really know little about Atlanta, so would seek guidance on restaurant and accommodations.  I am assuming outcall is preferred, but again would defer to local area practices.  Please send me a pm, and I will arrange all appropriate screening."

Not to stir up drama, but how long before the mangina and or give me a break crowd voiced up if he had asked like that?  Was it the act in public line that set teeth on edge here? Or the lack of prior research or indicating preferences?  It seems like the request was almost right, perhaps it was the Emory reference as I am clueless where that is.  I have seen several of us write much harsher things than this,( including myself) so my curiosity is up a bit and willing to poke beehive once.