Bad News.

My last night in LA, I was robbed. It was about 2-3 hours before my plane was to leave. I had just visited with my last client and phoned my driver to tell him to come to the room so I could go to the airport. This was someone I didn't know too well, but I trusted him because he seemed on the up-and-up. He had helped me earlier that weekend and introduced me to some friends, one of whom had rented the room we were at. I was awake when he arrived at the room but kind of fading. I told him not to let me fall asleep ... it was time to go to the airport. I vaguely remember him trying to wake me, him trying to have sex with me, then I woke up at 6:08 am (plane was @6:05) to find my money ($600+) gone, my phone gone, my digital camera, my luggage, my daughter's computer --all gone. I called the front desk, hysterical. The police came, took a report. I was so disoriented I could only remember his first name. I called my cell phone after they left and got the guy's number off of my voice mail, called it and got his name. Went to the police dept and they found him in the dmv database. I made a positive id on him and the detectives went to his house. Well, the one detail I left out of the story I told the cops was my occupation. He was more than happy to inform them of it and claiming he was innocent and that there were others in the room... My credibility was shot to hell next to his clean record... especially when they ran my background check and found ... guess what? He showed them his empty trunk and they came back to the station and told me that it was an "occupational hazard" and that I should be glad that I wasn't hurt or killed.

So ... here is a further installment in the on-going saga "life of a provider" ... We can be robbed, raped, framed, even killed ... and the police do not jump to our rescue. Even then, the courts are jaded against us, and this just fuels the a$$holes who victimize us. Somehow its okay to hurt a whore.  We're not really people anyway ...

I am sorry to use offensive language. Please pardon my bitterness. But the men who are so happy to obtain service from us are nowhere to be found when we need help it seems. Not to mention that most of us would never have begun this line of work were it not for the men who entice us, lure us, some even force us into doing it. Men make the rules and we are punished because of them. And when something happens to us, everyone just figures we somehow brought it on ourselves.

By the way, those of you who would like to get in touch with me, please call my other phone 770 873 5319

Rhiannon

Sorry to hear about that, that really sucks bad! I have been robbed before, I know how it feels.  Just remember this. . .

It's only today, tommorow will be better.

Kisses,
Monica

Wow everything is about man, man, man. Who pays your bills man. You are full of yourself. People get robbed all the time it has nothing to do with man. I guessed You must have been hurt by some dude really bad huh?

I feel for anyones loss in these situations.  Don't feel like it's something that has to happen because of "who you are" and "what you do".  Bad things happen to all kinds of people everyday, regardless of race, gender or occupation.

I always try to look at things that I can do to reduce the possibility of bad things happening and depend on myself as much as possible since no one will look out for you better than yourself.

I'll jump down from my soap box since I'm sure anything that sounds like a lecture is the last thing you need right now.

Good luck in the future.

So sorry to hear about your problems. I am glad that you are ok.
I travel a little for my work and hotels and being on the road isn't what it's all cracked to be.


Mo414

that is messed up and whoever said so what to her getting robbed is rude. I agree that it a misfortune for anyone to get  robbed and could be tramatizing. It is already hard enough to trust people especially in this business
Question Fox was this guy from the Bahamas, if he was I have info on him

A bit of an insensitive response don't you think.  She's just venting and deservidly so

....and I wonder how many guys get robbed and stiffed by the very providers that they  so willingly and unsuspectingly patronize?

For stsrters, the cops gave you some BS. They cannot simply brush off a crime based on someone's background. You can take them to court for not investigating a crime, the only problem is it is very lengthy and consumes time and money.

Being cautious is the operative word. When someone acts friendly and you don't know them, be alert, cautious and keep the distance. This goes for man, woman and a dog! From the looks of it, the Cab Driver should not have access to anything personal, especially free access to your room, it is open invitation. Of course you didn't know what he is going to do or what his intentions were!

So the best thing to do is keep your distance at all times unless someone gives you several reasons to trust them.

I have travelled from Argentina to Japan and everywhere in between. My rule always have been keep you gurad up, keep the distance, don't tell anything about yourself they don't need to know, until you know for sure they are on the up and up.

I am not criticizing or pontificating. Just sharing some thoughts so you and others amy want to use it.

I have met you, you are great person. I am really, really sorry this happened to you especially knowing your situation.

Put it behind you and move on, that is all anyone do!

I'm sorry that you were robbed.  I think you need to take responsibility for your part in this deal.  You went to LA, invited someone you didn't know to your room, and you decided to go into this profession.

This does not give anybody the right to do bad things to you but if you put yourself in harms way, bad things usually happen.  

Your message should be "If you play with fire, sometimes you get burnt"

For starters, I'm no fan of police officers or their laziness.  However, I can assure you that you do not have a case against the police.  First, they generally have immunity from civil actions that involve judgment calls.  Second, you did not witness the driver take your things--you were asleep.  While I think it is clear he was the guy who robbed you, the police and prosecutors will only pursue a case they believe they can win.  Unfortunately, you are correct in that part of their consideration is that they know that if your profession is put before the jury they might not convict the guy.  However, although your profession would likely turn a jury against you, multiple people coming in and out of a room without a witness to the crime will normally create reasonable doubt regardless of your profession.  I'm just glad you are OK, this guy was obviously a creep who could have done much worse.  Hang in there, believe it or not there are a lot more good people in this world than bad.

Rhiannon,
First, I am so sorry this happened to you. And wish there were something I could do about it.

Secondly, to those who say she brought it on herself, chose this line of work, what did she expect, etc. what bullshit. No one deserves to be robbed, beat up, raped or anything else. I don't care who they are, what they do or in what town they happen to be in. Being robbed takes away more from you than just the loss of money, personal items and such. It takes away some of your strength, shows you that you too are vulnerable and no one is exempt from bad things happening. Losing some of what's inside a person far exceeds losing replacable items.

It sickens me to read about this terrible event, but it makes me even sicker to read posts from guys who say she brought it on herself. Always have to blame someone don't we? What about the fact that the person stole something that wasn't theirs? Does he have the right to take something, just 'because she's an escort.' HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's like saying I was robbed 'because' I'm white, or have brown hair, or whatever.

These ladies go out of their way to bring us some fun and pleasure. They themselves get some pleasure, (hopefully sometimes at least) and at the end of the day have some cash to spend. Trying to improve your life or situation, and make something of yourself takes guts. Them taking risks that they know are there, but shouldn't ever have to face takes guts. And you guys post; saying things as if she's a child and 'should know better.'

Do us all a favor and go piss on an electric fence. Meanwhile the rest of us here offer our support to you Rhiannon. Keep your chin up sweetie. Yes, bad things happen to good people for no reason sometimes. But my grandma used to say, "The wind won't blow up the same dog's ass all the time." Hang in there hun.

Jimbo

I thank all of you for your comments.

This is definatly not a normal situation for me. First of all, I am from LA and I know LA pretty well. This guy was not a hobbiest. He was not a driver for an agency. He was someone I met while I was in Santa Monica and I had no idea he was going to be a crazy f*##@. But yes, I made a mistake. I had gotten to LA and due to a series of events the appointments I had scheduled before I left did not happen... my profile was unavailable for a few days and those fews days ended up costing me because the hotel I had in Santa Monica WAS an upscale place. I DO screen my clients very well. But this one slipped through because he wasn't a client.  He was someone I thought was a decent person and trusted enough to hang out with and his friend was even more cool than he was. I don't think his friend will be happy that the police will be questioning him about me getting robbed in his room, considering he wasn't there when it happened but his girlfriends is gonna flip when she finds out. He liked me and I doubt he will like what his friend did to me. And it seemed to me like this guy wasn't really a bad person. I think that he just decided when I fell asleep to take advantage of the situation, I doubt it was in his mind the whole time.

Yes, I know I was stupid. Yes, I know I am lucky it wasn't worse. But what I was trying to do by posting this is let others out there know that in this lifestyle, no matter how careful we are, there are risks. All of us try to be selective and cautious about who is near us but every one of us has made poor judgement calls to some degree. And when a situation arises such as this one where I had lost a lot of money due to not getting the appointments I expected and didn't cover the expenses so that I  took a chance on someone who appeared to be a nice person trying to help me out. I paid the price.

So my next trip to LA will be much different.

By the way, they are still going to go after the guy who did it. There was a camera, and they are looking at the tapes. He will get charged, I do believe.

By the way, things are much different in ATL where I live. I mean I am very careful and have trans and accomodations.


 
and I am not saying that my problems are because of men. I LOVE MEN! I wouldn't do this if I didn't! All I am saying is that the way society in general looks at us ladies of the night, it is we who are "evil, criminal, and immoral." And yet we couldn't do this without the guys. And gee, there's a lot more hobbiests than providers out there, huh? I love what I do. I will not stop because someone says it is wrong or illegal or dangerous. But this forum is supposed to be informational. I think there is a slight danger in glamorizing this and glossing over the ugly parts.

Yes this could happen to anyone, anywhere, anytime. But what I was mad about was the statement about it being an "occupational hazard" as if I should have expected it almost. That and the idea that they were mad at me and I lost credibility in their eyes due to the  fact that I didn't tell them right away I was a provider. As if I was going to walk into a police station and say "Hi I'm a hooker, and last night I was robbed"

And in a way it is good that the friend rented the room. At least it ties them to the event and is undisputable.

Rhiannon

my only comment to wanttofuckallday: the first part of your name explains it all... WANT TO

I do not know this lady and my heart does go out to her...I am truly sorry for your loss...I am terrified of traveling for some of the same reasons...

I do not think this is her fault at all but she does need to take her share of the responsibilities for it...In this business we have to choose our friends carefully...The police were wrong and if I am correct there can be more done in her favor...

What I do have a problem with and I am not ashamed to admit it is the male bashing...

I love men and I love my profession...I chose to do this...NO man put me in a situation...No one but me made this decision...To be honest I got started almost as a joke...

Let me share something personal that happened to me a few weeks ago...I didn't want to post on this but I feel a need to bring a good light to the men in this hobby...

I was arrested out of town a few weeks ago...Someone had told them I was selling drugs...ANYONE that knows me knows how foolish that is...They were furious when there was nothing to find...The only got me for solicitation...Anyone care to guess who came to get me out of jail...

One of my clients that is now a friend...They never took my cell phone from me...They allowed me to have it in the holding cell...I could not ask my family to travel for me so I spoke to the gents that see me and some gave support and some advice and they all spoke to one another to help me out...

So instead of always hearing bad stuff about the men some of them or at least the ones I deal with are GREAT...I have met wonderful people in this hobby (ladies and gents alike)

So Rhiannon, while I can sympathize with you, I urge you to take a look around and try to see the good things in a bad situation...

Remember if it doesn't kill us it makes us stronger...
xoxo
Heidi

First let me say how sorry I am that this happened.  Second, I was set up and robbed by a provider and friends a few years ago.  It was a scary and intimidating experience that I would not wish on anyone.  I am just glad you are safe.  
Lastly, it sounds like you were experiencing disorientation at the time.  Is it possible he drugged you in some way?

Heidi,

Very well said! I especially agree with your saying "If it doesn't kill us, it only makes us stronger". We should all remember it.

OMG

People, please. I am not bashing men. I love men. Just as many women have screwed me over as men, in fact, probably more. What I was  making a point about was not men, but

SOCIETY's DOUBLE STANDARD towards us LADIES. It is US who are bad, US who get punished, US who get publicly "stoned" because of what we do. But this is not one-sided. When men stop wanting to see us, we will be out of work. So it is the men who fuel the fire but it is us who get burned by it.

and yes I know there are providers who steal from clients.  But look at this. A provider who steals from a client is more likely to be busted and do jail time than a client who steals from a provider. Wonder why? And the provider usually will have the second  charge of prostitution added on top of the theft charge.

Hey, I know you are smart and intelligent because I have met you. What is going on with you.

I am assuming it is the stress may be. Am I right?

I'm not sure what you mean by this.

Am I acting out of character?
Are you questioning why I could have been so careless when you know I know better? I know I know better. But what happened was I let my guard down because of a series of events that made me get desperate about the money I wasn't making. I ended up meeting the wrong individual and trusting him because my head wasn't clear from the stress of my trip not going the way I expected.

I am okay now though. I have put it into the banks of my memory book and will no doubt find its way into my writing.

Are you less concerned now?

OK. That does make me feel better.

It happens to all of us occassionally.

Take care and see you soon