Ok, so here's my issue.  I've got a touch of ED.  Sometimes it's plenty hard, sometimes it starts out hard and quickly turns into a semi.  This is most often the moment I switch from BBBJ to CFS, the condom doesn't just reduce sensitivity it knocks the wind out of my sails.  Or if I switch positions middle of session, but am already over heated, then I'm liable to lose it.

Normally, I combat this potential issue by not masturbating for a week and carbing up on game day. I try to go for the difficult stuff first, and front load the session.

Unfortunately, I have gone an entire session, where if the provider is diligent I stay hard enough, but I don't cum.  Some of this is mental, the condom and the clock are always on my mind.

This time however, I plan to fuck 5 times in 6 days.  Taking a week off from nutting is obviously not an option.   Viagra and Cialis are not options, as a trip to the doctor and a prescription will alert my wife . . . we don't fuck at all, so what would I possibly need this for?  So, I'm looking for suggestions and/or tips, for those that have or have had this issue.

1. How to get it up?
2. How to keep it up?
3. Any thoughts on the condom, should it be tight, or loose?  What brand?
4. Any sex tricks that might improve the situation?
5. Any particular foods?  Just stuff that works, or you are convinced in personal experience made a difference (and I don't do seafood, at all).
6. Anything else?

Providers, when you have a dude come in with some ED and you need another 25% out of him, do you have any go to methods that get it done?

Thanks in Advanc

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acking pertinent data - age, fitness level - I'm making some pretty big assumptions here, but here goes!

I really think the tendency for men to have these kinds of issues correlates pretty well with the woeful lack of fitness and tendency to be overweight in modern America; it definitely significantly affect sexual performance. My advice - again, assuming things here based on common tendency - is to simply lose some weight and get in shape. It will work wonders.

I had allowed myself to get pretty heavy (230lbs at 6'1") up until I was 41, wound up pre-diabetic by 42, AND wound up needing cardiac bypass surgery the same year (the medical term for this is "fucked up"). As I recovered, I prioritized fitness and diet, and 5 years later (I'm 47) I perform better sexually than I did 6-7 years ago.

I make sure to get in an hour of exercise daily (about half cardio, half strength-training), and mix in days of hiking, cycling and so on when I can. (I played basketball every morning at the Y for awhile, but I've gotten away from that... need to get back to it!) I do a (mostly) gluten-free and dairy-free diet, and just generally eat clean and healthy. I think anyone should be able to devote an hour daily to simply using their body (less oppressive than calling it fitness). I see my rotation of fave girls about 3-4 hours a week as well, so that's exercise, too.

Performance-wise, I can reliably pop twice in an hour (and a few years ago I sometimes had difficulty popping once, as you describe), as well as in "stressful fucking environments" like a strip club VIP room. Good times!

My 2 cents

Get thee to a doctor and discuss this issue with him. He/she might find a medical reason. This should be your first stop.  Good luck!

Totally agree, my fitness sucks, and needs to be better.

More facts, since people keep asking: I'm 6'2, 270lbs, 40 years old with a resting hear rate of 57bpm, and blood pressure is great.  Doctor says my heart is very strong and efficient, my carotid arteries have been ultrasounded and they are as clear as any 20 year old's, amazingly even my cholesterol is only on the high side of normal.  My blood glucose test does need some attention, however.  BTW, once every couple of weeks I wake up a very hard one, so it does work, just not that well on command.

All that said, I'm fat, and currently not at a good level of fitness.  I will say this problem started 40lbs ago, and is only getting worse.  Although, I have dropped weight before and cardio trained and did not get significant erectile performance gains.

I have every intention of dropping weight and working out, soon.  However, I will be doing all this fucking next week, and even a juice cleanse is not going to get me to fighting weight  At this point I am just looking to get "taped up" so I can get back in the game coach!

to set up an appointment with urologist. ED is caused by many things. Sometimes it is you blood sugar level, cholesterol, etc. If it is diabetes, then simply going on diabetes medication will solve the problem.

You can also go to GP and get a complete blood work done. Tell the doc your ED issue so they can as for complete blood test.  

I am talking from my own experience. I wen to the urologist, did a blood test and then he referred me to a GP to get a complete physical.

Amateur advise is only going to make it worse.

it was more mental in my case....sometimes just being generally nervous with a new person...sometimes it was too much time going by between a BJ and applying a wrapper and not being revved up.  So i learned how to immerse myself into the situation.  Thankful it wasnt ED -- but i do attribute it to getting a little older.

In terms of how to get it up/keep it up:  immerse yourself in the moment (as you get older its more mental stimuli than physical) .... only see people that are your prototype until you can find 'the force mentality' to keep it up if you want to experiment with other people that arent your go-to types.  Also if you have a 'hot spot' -- tell your partner to focus on that (place you like to be kissed...licked...etc -- whatever revs you up).  Also if you have a position that really rocks your boat -- make those your go to areas.

In terms of brand: tighter!  Trojan bareskin or almost anything from lifestyles seem to have more sensation (they also make condoms that are lubed on both sides -- that may help too)

Foodwise --- eat light if you know you're going to partake -- dont have a heavy stomach

(ps: go see a doctor too if you think its more than mental and its always happening)

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There have been times that it's felt like the lady was flogging a limp rag. I've tried everything from fantasizing about other sessions I've had, to asking her to tell me about her fantasies. But some days, the ending just wasn't happy.

One option for getting Cialis getting diagnosed with an enlarged prostate (BPH).  Cialis "for daily use" has been approved for treatment of BPH giving the S/O no reason to be alerted .  Also try the "Female Condom", more like BB in feeling.

and I am assuming this is a provider or providers that you will be seeing, why don't you ask her if she can get you a few little blue pills for your little fuck fest?

Actually I would suggest you try Cialis instead of Viagra, the effects are longer lasting, the side effects less severe, and it won't interfere with your ability to cum as much as Viagra.

Then when you get back home, lug your fat ass to the gym. lol (sorry, I have a reputation to uphold, I can't offer helpful advice with at least a small "zinger")

BTW you might try cutting the tabs in half, or even in thirds if all you really want is a bit of help in recovery time. The less you use the less it will interfere in your ability to cum. I sometimes take Cialis when I know I am going to go on a fuck fest. Of course my definition of a "fuck fest" is to see four or five women a day, and even at my "advanced age" of 55, about a third of a tab of Cialis will usually do the trick for me. To give you a point of reference, I rarely want to have sex more than twice a day without a "little help", but with just a touch of Cialis I double my appetite to about four times a day, and I am still able to finish most of the time. Sometimes I can't finish, but after going four of five times, not finishing is not really that big a deal.

Good Luck

It was all in my head! Some of it was nerves, well most of it. I was very intimidated by my first, Camilla Marie.Not her fault, just in my head. Although im not totally out of shape, at 225 Im not built the way I was when I was 20 yrs old. I

Yoga and TaiChi are awesome but take time to build up strength and stamina.  

Supplements, safe for Cardio pt.:
Arginine - 2g helps boost the Nitric Cycle needed for a workout or an erection.
Multi-Mineral - Zinc and Potassium are your naughty bits' friends, but Calcium Iron and Magnesium are also needed in a Beer and Burger world.
Multi-Vitamin - D, E are great, B12 is needed as we age as well. And we all know about C.

More importantly than supplemental pills are the foods that contain these things naturally - Greens and Fruits.

You're probably looking more short-term... so Cialis for daily use, especially with your SO. "There are two types of men in the world - those with Prostate problems, and those who will have prostate problems." - my MD Easy enough to explain to anyone.

Can't speak to the efficacy of Cialis, but if the makers can afford to run ads with 2 bath tubs (biggest WTF in advertising ever - IMO), they must be making a profit and helping folks out.  

2 more cents for ya, ga_kosh

Just like male baldness, most of us lose a bit as we get older, but some are bald at 30 and others have a full head of hair at 80.

ED is much the same, only part of it is genetics and the rest is lifestyle, diet, etc.

For what you are planing - honestly, you need to consider pharmaceutical assistance....  Of course, you could always use a cock ring which works pretty well if you can get it up but can't keep it up.  Some providers keep disposables on hand....  

Getting viagra without causing personal issues is easier than you think.  I have a similar situation. My Doctor is also my wife's Doctor.  Haven't had sex with her since 2010 and maybe a dozen times since the Clinton administration.....

1.  Make the appointment for some other purpose - not sleeping is good, allergies, athletes foot, incontinence ...  whatever.  

2.  Tell the Doctor that you are having issues and that you want to try Viagra - but you don't want to let your wife know because  (DRUM ROLL)  it's embarrassing.  You haven't told a lie here - you just haven't corrected any misapprehensions.... As long as it doesn't show up on the visit summary for insurance - you are OK.  Remember that Docs know that most guys are embarrassed about it and would rather chew off an arm than admit to ED to their SO even if their SO knows about it.... - take advantage of that.....  It's like taking advantage of the perception that guys will never ask for directions....

3.  Go to another pharmacy besides your regular one - a random high volume CVS/Walgreens is good - give them your office address as your home address in the unlikely event that they decide to send you something.

Pay cash.  Since there is no insurance - it won't show up anywhere unless you specifically authorize it.

In my case, my Doc gave me free samples and coupons

DHaller,

Or was it fitness and sex increases pleasure and life.  Either way and hard to separate.
Good post of your cum back ... (sorry could not help that).
So sounds like C. Esselstyn or D. Ornish work.  Which one did you follow?

The latest with Ornish method is showing visual DNA changes in 60 days!  Corresponding physiological changes compared.  Some "freaking shit"  considering my lifetime of understanding of something I thought could not be changed because "its in your genes".  Same recipe you probably made choices on back then with side effects of more astonishing positive discoveries.  So in brief, your reversals from back then has connection to the 2009 Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine.  I have noted below some primer links for the board on this matter:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/06/science/06nobel.html
http://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/medicine/laureates/2009/illpres.html

I have lost 28lbs, 3inches off my belt line, gained 5x the stamina (no longer lose my rhythm for completion) while I got 4 years older.  My blood work is clean (was not then).  All this with no drugs.  The only surprise for me was that my pants got longer.  I was not aware how much booty I carried back there.  I am more horny now because of more money, more action, and better memories.

BonneChance (good luck)  
PS (Post Sex): You should get a check up though.  This stuff above is check up from the neck up stuff

2 grams of Acetyl-L-Carnitine + 2 grams of GPLC Carnitine daily. May take a few days to take effect, but they are both amino acids and are also beneficial for heart function as well as for erections. The endothelial tissue receptors in the heart and penis are the same.  

Then of course the is a product called Wood-E which can be purchased OTC and probably contains a Viagra analog not declared on the label. IMO it works better than C or V. and your wife won't know.

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Eat watermelon.  Seriously.  It hydrates and contains amino acids that help with circulation.  I have no issues but find the enhancing effects very satisfying.  Tomatoes may help also.  Disclaimer:  I really like the fresh-fruit watermelon slushes at Quickly on Buford 3-4 times a week, so it may take consuming a little more than average to get the desired effect.