I Set up an out of town overnight with a 8 year well reviewed provider but nothing current for 8 months, website pics were epic offered Gfe Pse. The cost was upper level.
The problem is she is at least 40lbs heavier than her pics, gave me her life story more than once, didn't deliver as advertised, really wasn't what I expected or worth the price all things being equal, was polite and nice, honestly would have had a better time with my x- wife. But a deal is a deal, I was out of town I tried to make the best of it, It was fair at best.
I have not written a review because she has asked me to lie about her appearance and overall service to help her out, she is actually in a bad financial way due to to her issues, I will not write an inaccurate review, If I tell the truth I'll probably hurt her but help my fellow hobbyist, should I write the review or forget it took place.
I find alot of ladies have financial issues,know a few who are in this industry due to that very fact.Now I could see a dilemma if you were the cause of her 40lb. surge or you stole all her money,(doubt either is the case here)so... are you not responsible to your ter brotherhood? All that is required ..is for good men to do nothing and then we would have no need for reviews just sayin....
Go do some of your own homework and know how the system works.
I'm a little amazed, but actually not surprised, that you would even ask such a question. However, you're not the first to face this issue. Their is an old saying, "there is honor amongst thieves", and perhaps this applies here as well. If you can't write a realistic review, then just don't write any. Nothing worse in this environment than to lie about this sort of thing. Not only do you set your fellow hobbyists up for a loss, but you also sacrifice your own credibility not to mention make her out a liar as well. There is no upside to doing what she asked.
It's an over exaggeration but there is some truth in it. Guys have been black listed for writing honest reviews.
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=197190&boardID=2&page=1#197190
Providers with integrity can have you removed off a blacklist if you're put on it by a girl that just has it out for you. Talk to your regular(s) or ATF and have it removed if this happens to you. This is akin to crying rape and honest girls have no tolerance for it either.
Don't allow this fear to keep you from writing honest reviews. If you have this fear keep in mind that you do not have to share your TER IDs with the ladies. Yes, it's nice for us to know them but it's not a requirement.
On the flip side, Hobbyist with integrity can come to your defense if a review is not representative of the time spent with the provider. Unfortunately, most of the guys I see don't write reviews and not active members of TER so the reviews are written by a sterotype of active members not necessary represented of a true random sample. And it's within this sterotype that good reviews are traded for free or reduce fees for services rendered. In no way does the "best" provider have the "best" scores. Do your part and when you write a review, try to score appearance on your first impression and performance on how you felt when you left. And even under the best of circumstances realize that "reviews" are subjective. If you feel bad about writing a review, then don't....just an opinion.
If what you say is true. What's to stop a guy who actually earned a blacklist from using the ladies from clear him? Maybe he was a true gentlemen to some ladies, but then on a session turns out to be a real ass. All of a sudden he gets a blacklist. He then says well hell I know Meagan and Hanna and those girls will just clear me of this. So you get an email with his crying wolf that she is just after him because of this or that. I would hope enough research would be done to ascertain the validity of such a claim. Maybe the guys was nice when he started the hobby, but he may have changed. Isn't that why you ladies like to have references within the last few months? There are always ways to abuse the system.
In circumstances like you described; I would proceed with caution....And you are so-o-o right...there are always ways to abuse the system. this is not exclusive of TER....Abuse is alive and well in every system.
and never review within 2 week of seeing someone.
ONly you can decide whether to write the review or not. Just be sure to be truthful if you decide to write a review.
The problem is she is at least 40lbs heavier than her pics, gave me her life story more than once, didn't deliver as advertised, really wasn't what I expected or worth the price all things being equal, was polite and nice, honestly would have had a better time with my x- wife. But a deal is a deal, I was out of town I tried to make the best of it, It was fair at best.
I have not written a review because she has asked me to lie about her appearance and overall service to help her out, she is actually in a bad financial way due to to her issues, I will not write an inaccurate review, If I tell the truth I'll probably hurt her but help my fellow hobbyist, should I write the review or forget it took place.
Wait a couple weeks And do your review
TER is used as a knowledge base of information designed to inform the hobbyist and providers to make knowledgeable informed decisions.
It is our duty to protect each other from scams and low life people that are in the business to cause harm. If we hold back a review because that person gave a sad story, well sorry. That’s part of the scam. These people need to be “Weeded OUT” and move on, we are a good group of people here in ATL that watches each other backs. The earlier you write it, the better the chance someone else want get effected by her.
I’m so sorry that you had such a bad experience, but let’s protect the good for all.
I think you should write a review, and ask yourself why you went through with the date. As a TER VIP member you are in the know about B&S, misleading ads, photos, etc., so why would you not assert your right to walk away? You felt sorry for her, too horny to let the 40+ lb heifer get away? un-real.
These ladies need to be held accountable, but so does the fool who lays down the envelope.
40 lbs does not come over night. That takes effort. That also means the last few months of reviews are all from guys feeling sorry for her, or showing pity, or... etc....
Or they are from guys that are blind. In any case, none of that helps her biz or the legitimacy of the posted reviews (and in turn, their intended purpose in the selection process).
Write an honest review and help the rest of the community with honesty. If she's a good provider, she will get back in the gym and drop the pounds. If not, she should consider a career change.
Also, this is not an attack on BBWs, or women of size. There are types for everyone. As long as you get an accurate representation going in, it's your call as to who you want to see. Personally, I would have turned around and walked.
You will not get credit for it, and they are easier to challenge by the ladies, but if you write generic enough you can protect your identity. I do not think things feature is being taken away with change
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