Here's a suggestion:

1. See a woman that you'd like to know better.
2. Walk up to woman and introduce yourself.
3. Ask her out on a date.
4. If she says "no", then repeat steps 1 -3.
5. If she says "yes", then profit.

I noticed 2 things on 3/23. The first is that there were 69 posted photos on TER on 3/23. I went back 6 months and that is the highest total for any single day. Secondly, P411 had 98 individual provider logins on 3/23. Just going back 2 days, there were 24 on 3/22 and 4 on 3/21. It's quite possible the TER photo section could expand greatly and, if so, TER could sort them by state for a daily lookup. P411 should continue to be a viable option for finding providers, since they are based out of Canada.  
And I had one more thought, I"m no lawyer but it seems to me advertising escort or massage services can be worded to avoid sexual references and therefore should be perfectly legal. Escorting or massage therapy for money is not illegal, providing sexual services for money is illegal.  A strict editing policy should allow most sites to continue a normal operation.

A simple text or email saying hey man whats new can keep you updated

From the gentlemen's side, new reviews, new talent. There's the newbie board. Women are always introducing themselves. Don't forget to check out a ladies link(s). That usually will lead you to other talent out there.