The definition of a sex addict is that you want the same level of sexual activity  that you  had when you married her & she doesn't ever want any.

A sex addict: I can't be a judge but my guess would be like any  addiction if it is ruling your life then you might consider options. It sounds like you were not letting it Rule your life nor was it an issue with you.

Maybe some therapy with both of you present may bring to light "everyone's" short comings. It may also provide some firm footing should legal action become an issue. It will at least form a foundation of who is contributing what to the relationship.

Good luck and hang in there. Many of us have been there and there is life around the corner.

Sophia is right, a sex addict will have sex with anyone at anytime without control or safety. I do not see that you have a problem with being a sex addict.

It is very difficult to control. When I was younger I was told that I was a sex addict. Fortunately for me I remained safe(A long story.) It is something that consumes every fiber of your being. All you think about. You live eat and breathe sex. It is something you must do more than twice a day. It completely consumes you.

Your need and desires are very normal. Take it from a reforming sex addict, you are not one. I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Faith will always prevail.

Hugs and Kisses Monette

Interesting that your alias has an email (things that make you say, "Hmmmmm, ...")

Great post, regardless of your screen name, at first I was going to ask Jeeves (http://www.ask.com/) to pack your bags for your guilt trip, but I found your post very interesting and had to reply!

You know my man, we here have all tasted the fruit; and, there will be no turning back for you, regardless of what your wife says or does!  The secret is out.  This is Elf's Quest and you've found one of the golden keys.  So, fear not in_trouble_now, you had been in trouble long before being busted.  You have spoken to your ATF, and your ATF knows all!  Those little nibbles on your ear;  That firm yet gentle grip just as you're about to pop!  BTW, how are those ATF(s) able to reach around like that?  Most of our local girls (you know who you are) have gone through this, many times--especially with their regulars CLIENTS!  

Too bad our country is so hung-up on sex, but we are and we need someone to blame and you're the likely candidate in_trouble_now.  


VERY TYPICAL

Wife:  "Well Missy!  How do you know my husband and what is my man doing with your number?"

Missy:  "Well, I don't really know your husband!  I'm actually a jeweler.  Your husband was looking for a presents for your birthday.  Yeah, that's the ticket!"


BETTER
Wife:  "Well Missy!  Why do you think my husband has to come to you?

Missy:  "Well, I don't think its you.  It's just a guy thing.  I have lots of clients just like your husband!"


WHAT WE LIKE
Wife:  "Well Missy!  Tell me what you do to my husband that makes him visit you all the time?"

Missy:  "Well first, go out and get you a couple of wigs and skimpy outfits because men love variety.  Next, when your giving your man head.  Make sure you use a lot of spit.  Throw in a few slurps too.  Men just love that!  Also, the next time your making love just as your man is popping, put a nice squeeze and milk him dry.  I can recommend some great books that you can read to learn how . . . "


Joey





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