Don't let the negative hobbyist comments bother you. You have to talk to the ladies, on the phone if they choose. Your voice and the personality it conveys will open a lot doors if you follow up with good behaviour and the screening info they ask for, that's still important. This approach worked with me. I impressed a lot providers by reading and learning the "etiquette" pages of their websites. Don't be cryptic and be genuin. Try not to mention your a newbie until you make initial contact. There are peditors an LE on both sides Good luck.