The guy tells you he suffers from ED ( I figure you'd rather be told up front ) ?  Do you take it as a challenge ? Do you wish he'd  hurry up and get off and leave, knowing you're not going to get much out of the session ?

I'm asking for a friend......LOL.

And it not a challenge either.  It is nice of them to share that personal info and helps me have a better understanding of how I may go about making them as happy and comfortable as I possibly can,however I rarely experience a launch failure.  Mission impossible becomes mission  accomplished.  Rewarding for all!!

Trust me, I've had plenty of climaxes without being fully erect.

He doesn't like me because his little guy isn't standing up to greet me.

For some reason I think that before I think ED. But I think that's from ignorance on my part.

So when a guy tells me he has ED or that he can't orgasm a certain way, it is nothing but helpful.

I definitely take it as a challenge to find his other buttons.

The last thing I do is wish he would leave. Unless he didn't tell me, although I would first ask am I doing it how he likes it (Whatever "it" is) before thinking that.

I'm sure your friend will still have plenty of ladies willing to show him a good time.

-Nina
 

I can't imagine any guy having a problem when he was with you.  You are uniquely inspirational.  And you have a wonderful, warm encouraging way about you.

Uh... not that I'd know anything about that kind of stuff.  But my uh... friend does.

You know - my friend...  the one who occasionally suffers from that uh...  problem.

We are clear that it's my friend's problem and not mine?

Good.

Because you're just being silly if you think I have any problems.  Ever.

Nope, not me.  *starts whistling nervously*

General comments about the OP's topic :  Actually this is really interesting stuff.  

Most folks would say "just take a pill!".  I've tried the ones that are available and they all give me bone crushing migraines and make me feel like my eyes are going to pop out of my head and make me want to die.  Which isn't really conducive to sexytime.

And I only occasionally have a problem anyway and it's impossible to predict when it will happen.  And I don't like the idea of taking medication all the time to prevent a problem that likely won't happen.

The mind is a fascinating thing.  But it can also be your worst enemy when it turns on itself.  I learned a long time ago that if the little guy isn't with the program then focusing on that problem just makes it worse.  If I use my tongue, or fingers, or she has a toy we can use and I focus on her enjoying herself without my cock being in the mix...  then this interesting thing begins to happen...  It's like he wakes up and wants to join in the party too.  He says "Ok, I'm ready to play now.  Hey guys?  GUYS?!!"  LOL.  It's like sometimes he is shy about being the star, but he's just fine with playing a supporting role.

And when you get out of that mindset of "I have to please my girl.  NOW!  And I can only use my cock to do it" it opens you up to all kinds of things.  I happen to like just laying with a lady, kissing and looking into her eyes, whispering dirty things to each other and masturbating each other.  When I focus on the way I touch her and her response to that touch - that's hot.  And it usually gets my head in the game.  Well, both heads in the game actually.  

Porn has taught us so many misleading things.  Like guys always have to be great cocksmen or they're worthless in bed.  That's silly.  There are so many ways to please a woman's body and mind.  And knowing that you have many more things in your sex toolbox than just your cock can make you a better, more connected, more versatile lover.  Most women take a good twenty minutes or more of stimulation to cum.  And I know a lot of us guys can't last that long with our cocks anyway.  So mixing things up is always a good idea.

And I take comfort in the fact that when a girl goes down on me I have never failed to get hard.  It is the magic spell for my cock.  So the absolute worst case scenario is we kiss and make out (which I love to do), I play with her body using my mouth, hands, and toys (which I love to do), and then she gives me a nice blowjob (which I love better than anything else in the world, lol).  So does that sound so awful?  Hell, it sounds pretty fucking (pun intended) fantastic to me.

Sometimes working through worst case scenarios can help you get out of that high anxiety mode.  Because anxiety is the great boner killer.  Just remember to not be a one trick (heh) pony, focus on something else for a while, and then I bet something interesting will pop up to talk about.

And if all else fails, just ask her to give you a blowjob.

You know you want to anyway.

-- Modified on 9/18/2015 11:13:11 AM

I asked if it bothered providers. I asked if they considered it a challenge or since there wasn't probably going to much in it for them, if they were just ready to get it over with .

I'm sorry, what didn't you understand.  

While I can climax without being fully erect, I don't really need or want a prostrate massage.

Understand now ?

Oh look... after just reading that - it appears I have no ED problems at all.

Not one bit.

Wow.

Thanks Tori.

Thanks

You're welcome.  Good topic.

Not for me.  For my friend.

But I'll just keep it handy in case it ever comes up.

Or doesn't come up - as the case may be.

Yes, let me know so I know what toys or techniques to bring out. No, it doesn't matter that you can't fuck me. It's your session. If you WANT to please me, I can teach you some tantra moves or employ a toy or simply lack back for a good licking