Hey, a lot of guys have the same problems. My advice is to get as much exercise as you can and make sure you're well hydrated before a session. Take a Vitamin V an hour and a half before you meet and relax.

I've tried viagra, levitra and cialis....all with varying degrees of success. My doc put my on the daily cialis a year or so ago. It worked great for the first few monthes, but not so much here recently.

I knew things would go downhill after turning 50, just didnt' realize it would go so bad so quick. Again, not sure if it's being out of shape, the meds ( bp or cholestral ), performance anxiety, guilt or what. The strange thing is, I can still get it up (usually) for my SO of 30 years. I travel for a living, so when in the hotel....watching a little soft core porn, I get really hard. I don't think it's guilt, I've been hobbying over 12 years and it used to work good...LOL.

It's just gotten really frustrating and expensive trying to prove to myself that I still have it. I mean one of the ladies was my absolute dream girl. Beautiful, sexy, great personality, helluva body..... the whole 9 yards and I completely choked.

have a dickens of a time getting up and getting off. But I'm not ready to quit yet. One provider told me I was over-thinking the issue. Take the advice given by the previous poster. At the very least you can enjoy the company of a beautiful lady.

The ladies I have seen here (over 30 of them) can testify for me.  I had diabetes, weighed 260 lbs, had high BP, high cholesterol.  I Fought the insurance company for over a year until they finally gave in and allowed bariatric surgery.  It will have been 3 years this december since the surgery .  I have lost 100 lbs and my diabetes has been cured!  I no longer have high cholesterol or high BP, take testosterone and am having the time of my life.  These girls are my personal therapists, aren't you ladies!!

Well, darn. I knew I wasn't alone, but I didn't realize I had THIS much company!! Hell, I'm 60, overweight, diabetes, asthma, heart condition, etc. etc. The ED drugs don't help, so I stopped taking them. However, that has NOT stopped me from hobbying. I thoroughly enjoy the company of beautiful, sexy women (especially if they are naked, or nekkid,  and with me!) It's the intimacy I desire and I love DATY. Either they are faking it, or they enjoy my efforts.

I have also had the bariatric surgery and it's beginning to work a bit. My hopes are that I will one day be off most of my meds and be able to enjoy "real" sex again. But if not, then so be it. I still love the ladies.

Jim

You can DO it!

Dude, You are being waaaaay to hard on yourself.  I know, because I've been there...done that.
Here's the deal, and how you can fix it. (I'm not a doctor, but I've stayed in a Holiday Inn Express

Problems:
1. It's mostly in your head.  If you you can get hard wood from soft porn, the plumbing is working; it's an electrical problem.  If you can usually bang the Wife, but not the young willing hardbody, there is obviously some guilt/anxiety issues there.
2. There are some plumbing issues, that makes it easier for the crap that is in our heads to affect our performance. If you are over 50, overweight, hign BP/on meds, high cholesterol/on meds, and stressed from work/life, guess what?  There will be some rust in the pipes. High Anxiety, Low Testosterone, and a touch of rust related ED, are your probable problems. (It was for me)  Gotta fix that.  

Solutions:
1. Yeah, yeah, yeah, "Work out, eat better, stay hydrated".  Definitley do those things and you will feel better and perform better.  But fuck that...takes too long to see results.  Get started with that today.  In the mean time, Better living through chemistry!
2. You need meds and confidence.  Go to you doctor and get checked out.  
* Get checked your testosterone level checked, if you are over 50 it will be low.  Get doc to give you testosterone shots. It will increase your sex-drive, and help you to lose fat and gain muscle tone.  If your doctor won't/cant help, go to another doctor or an anti-aging clinic.
* Get the doc to prescribe an Anti-anxiety med like xxx to address "occasional situational anxiety attacks",  ummm like fear of flying maybe. Low dose, don't need much or often.
* Get the ED meds that worked for you, but just do the "one shot" stuff like V or C.  The everyday stuff loses it's punch, and does not give you the "magic bullet" psycho/physical boost that you get popping the magic pill as part of your personal hobby ritual/foreplay.
3. Now that you have the magic fix.  Get excited about the adventure and  forget the past.  Go visit some cute little, well reviewed, value priced, escort that you are not thinking about impressing, and just BE the guy in the soft porn movie and just DO it.  She's just happy that you are there, and you will be too!

I'm really not a doctor.  You need to make sure that you are healthy enough for this shit. Definitely get checked out by a real doctor.  Everybody is different, but someone recommended this ritual to me when I had problems exactly like you.  Now I'm over 50, lost 40 lbs, add muscle, rock hard cock, and fucking like a rock star!!!

Good Luck, and best regards,

An ATL Relic (who's fucking like a Rock Star!)

p.s. Yes, I'm a pussy using an alias.  Bite me.  You would not buy my porno's if you new my secrets.  

Don't give up, be persistent.  I resumed hobbying just a little over a year ago.  I have no problem getting a very hard erection watching porn but if I have to stand up during sex no good.  Worse, I was after Greek, because I can't get that at home, and you have to be very hard for greek.  I saw every type of provider, really tight and young, older and more experienced, Asian, black, white, even a porn star, all VERY attractive women, and still had trouble getting hard enough.  I always went into a date knowing that there was only a 20-30% chance of success.  But I did not quit.

I recently lost 30lbs, because I knew I didn't have this problem at a lower weight.  That didn't seem to make a huge difference, but it could be that it was ultimately a contributing factor to regaining a useful erection.  Then I recently went on vacation, and I swear I have no reason to know that this helped but I got a mild sun burn, I haven't been out in the sun for quite awhile; also, there was 2weeks of much less frequent masturbating.  Next date I had some serious Greek, in fact I would have to say that it was the best job, on my part, that I have ever done.  I even fucked up my knee doing it.  So not only was I able to maintain a butt-fuckin hard erection for 30min, but I was able to do that while tearing up my meniscus.  It was epic porno anal, and perhaps it was solar powered.

So, in summary lose some weight, stop jerkin off, get a mild sun burn, and you absolutely can't quit; because even if the hard-on was a fluke I came to play and had my best day.  I've had other dates where something still worked out even if it was not ideal, and have had other days that were lucky.  I also, consider that the provider was very nice and accommodating, and that is important because when the physical is questionable, mental speed bumps are disasterous to the erection.  But you have to play to win, and as Charlie Sheen will tell you winning is everything!