on either side of this hobby....I want your opinion.
If you are a provider, how would you feel if your husband/wife was cheating?
If you're a client, how would you feel if your significant other was cheating?
Since this hobby is mostly funded by attached people, I'm wondering what your true thoughts are.
First as wife I will give my man everything that ...he can be happy in are sex ..second is I will tell him honey lets find nice girl you like and nice man I like and bring them home.....so open relationship is best thing ...but not everybody do that ...love love xoxox Chanel my opinion lover ....but everybody is different
I was married for 16 years.
What I was not getting in my marriage I got outside my marriage.
Good thing cause who would have known when the ticking time bomb (me) would have gone off.
Now I am very happily NOT married; single, active dating and having LOTS of fun.
So what I learned from this experience is...
If I so neglect my significant other that I am either not aware of their emotional and sexual needs or if I am aware of their needs and I do not take care of them...thereby perhaps disrespecting my partner by dismissing my partners needs...shame on me...and I should expect my partner to either seek to have their needs met elsewhere by someone else or perhaps they will melt down from within; they will likely waste away a little bit each day as they sacrifice themselves to accommodate me.
It is my responsibility to know my partners needs, sexual and in every other way. If I take care of those needs I believe it would be highly unlikely, but yes still possible, that my partner would stray.
Some may find this very SELFLESS...and it is....however I have learned that you cannot "outgive" the right partner
Loved I am happy single too 
i would not be happy, but would also ask myself...why??? If i was doing everything i could and she still cheated, well, then shes a cheater and nothing will stop that...
Personally i had an affair that nearly ruined my marriage. When 2 of my friends up in DC found out, they nearly killed me...especially when they found out i was really just looking for that physical thrill. They turned me on to this 'hobby', telling me they'd both been doing it for the past couple of years...their marriages hit a physical rut, they turned to the hobby...AND actually saved $$$ and headaches over other friends of theirs who also had affairs (and did actually lose everything)...and personally I now feel like Charlie in Willy Wonka's factory - sooooo many gorgeous providers out there...and now I too have my own little secret among my friends down here
I would be mad IF my SO lied but if he did and was honest I would be good with it. I really dont want to share my personal cock with anyone so it would be best if he just was honest IF he did fool around. I only consider it cheating if he lied though.
I can say I would rather he go with a professional rather than to pick up a bar slut.
Hugs and kisses
TL
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And I would be surprised if I found out my spouse was cheating, but would probably be relieved -- after all I am cheating on her, and that would make me feel "less guilty" and more willing to be more open with her. So does that sound like I am saying that I wish she was cheating????
Their are far worse things a SO can do than have sex with a provider....just an observation
Don't take this the wrong way but - what's her number? 
Posted By: gentle0man
And I would be surprised if I found out my spouse was cheating, but would probably be relieved -- after all I am cheating on her, and that would make me feel "less guilty" and more willing to be more open with her. So does that sound like I am saying that I wish she was cheating????
Set him on fire while he slept. Seriously, no one wants me as a significant other, I'm a crazy jealous bitch lol.
Xoxo
Misty
And so freaking lovable all at the same time!
Hugs and kisses
TL
Well darlin' any man that would cheat on you deserves to be burned cause he is crazy and probably a future threat to humanity.
f it starts and ends with I Do then you are sadly mistaken. Everyone’e marriage is a different experience and married folks hobby for different reasons and the motive is not cheating. Married people hobby for other reasons mostly they are finding what they looking for and the circumstances doesn’t allow them to walk away.
In essence, if you are looking boiler plate answer, there isn’t one. It is called living and life.
with no single answer to match.
I think this is such an individual thing that it really comes down to the individual and his or her values.
Serena x
please would love to see you next time you cross the pond.
Posted By: SerenaVincente
with no single answer to match.
I think this is such an individual thing that it really comes down to the individual and his or her values.
Serena x
uritanical, rational, irrational, logical, illogical, situational (e)
Agree with situational but values doesn’t have a single meaning. It changes between social systems and within the social systems
How would I feel if my wife was a hooker?
If I knew about it and icared about her then I would deal with it and
Enjoy the benefits. Lol. But if she was doing this behind my back I would be pissed. Being open is much better. I always have wondered how many girls get busted by their SO and how it goes down.
We have from so many people on here....hobbyists and providers alike. What about Jokerman's? What is your wisdom?
No justification, either.
If I found out she was cheating, I'd leave her. If she found out I am cheating, I would still leave. But it wouldn't hurt me at all to find out she's cheating.
Channal, im on your side. Pick out a guy and I will pick out a lady and lets have fun
