Every woman's lady parts are different. Some have "innies" others have "outies". Some ladies have a clit that rivals some men's penis' and others have micro-clits. The most important thing is that everyone's clit likes to be coaxed to orgasm differently.

Some guys are very "Cliterate" and have learned well from the women and providers (snickers) in their lives. Guys what is your most memorable moment on the way to learning how to DATY properly?

Ladies what/who is the best (no real names of course) that you have ever had?

Let's DATY

Alexandria Fox

-- Modified on 12/19/2015 8:08:18 AM

I learned pretty early on that I can't make a woman cum from vaginal penetration alone - I'd say less than 50% of the time.  But if we combine that with penetration and clit stimulation (with a vibrator or a hand) that number goes way up.  And I usually try to get a lady off orally before the main event, so she definitely has at least one O on her scorecard.  I'm not successful every time, but usually the lady appreciates it and it gets the juices flowing - which is a nice benefit.  So I am an avid student of the Clitoral Arts. I'm always practicing and learning.  And being a cunninglinguist is a good thing to have in the old sexual toolbox.  Tool box.  Teehee.

While we are in Clit 101 class, I have a clit related question for the ladies.  I find that many women after I've given them a clitoral orgasm (opposed to vaginal) become very sensitive (and don't want to be stimulated there again for a while).  Which is interesting for me personally as when I cum I become very sensitive for a bit as well.  I imagine they are somewhat related as our parts are essentially the same when we are all embryos before we start our specific sexual development.

So my questions are:
When you cum through clit stimulation alone do you get sensitive?
If so, how long is the refractory period?  In other words when could you cum again from clit stimulation alone?  
Is your refractory period (if you have them) different for clitoral and vaginal orgasms?

Yes all are different, it's usually not hard to find what the lady enjoys if you just focus on her needs.

Worst event, I met a lady who HATED daty, but would not tell me.  So the more I tried tricks to coax her the more she froze up.  Finally she said "are you done yet?"  Man what an ego crusher.  Whole session was just bad

Craziest, I must have hit the spot perfect and she liked HARD daty.  Her thighs snapped down under my arms and she grabbed my ears and pulled me in deep.  First time I daty with a squirter.  She was a great session.

I remember my first standing face rider.  When you have to lay, and she stands over you in total control of where, how, and how much, you learn how to read her needs.   I rarely meet standing face riders, but they are always amazing sessions.  I don't know if she is still around, haven't seen her post in years.  She liked it when you moved.  So she would ride the tongue, then hard rub her clit on nose or chin the come back.  I might have to see if my email for her is still valid.  She was always a great fantasy date.

A wonderful woman in Chicago, who travelled from Tampa, once told me the secret is to practice on a thin slice of kiwi.  Learn to fold and unfold the piece of fruit.  Teach your tongue to feel the seeds, practice moving the flesh away from the core, try to tease the core away or invert the flesh from it.   Practice on different slices to learn how women are different.  Brilliant trick but you look dumb as hell doing it.

For me it should be called Appetiser At The Y, because if you treat the woman well and really get her motor purring, you will be given an amazing feast

The parts are the same--before the fetus starts producing testosterone that is! A penis is nothing more than a giant clit that is multifunctional.

I am VERY sensitive after cumming and I would say the refractory period to be around 5 minutes or so. I do however like penetration immediately after clitoral stimulation because I am able to get multiple orgams in that way (I'm greedy...I know).

With vaginal orgasms there is no refractory period. I suppose because the crus and other more extensive clitoral parts are protected from direct stimulation.

because so few understand what you related in your Post ....Yes, Yes, OHHHHHYESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS  . OMG, the sensitivity can be excruciating and so few actually realize it,  speaking just for me, I am sooooooooooooooooooooo sensitive that it can be nearly painful and there is no short recovery  (and please use the razor I offer you) .   Your second question,  I really do not want the second round of Clitoral stimulation though there are exceptions.  I am mult, multi, multi, multiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii orgasmic any way and honestly my best orgasms are a series of heightening, growing waves from penetration and yes they are different in intensity and release from Clitoral though they can totally, totally  exhaust me and I require a wind down period of varying lengths, with the best position (which I favor) being CG.

"i aime à avaler tout",suzee

Thank you Alex for the helpful and informative post.
I figured there wasn't refractory for vaginal orgasms, but wanted to ask anyway.
I wish I had a 5 minute recharge time.  I couldn't do that even when I was eighteen.  LOL
I guess us girls and boys are different in that regard.
*And all the girls say "thank god!"*

ummm...I think I need to load some porn and rub one out after the great visual you just gave me. JESUS WOMAN! But I totally get what you're saying. The sensitivity after a great clitoral orgasm is off the charts and I love a good and deep pussy pounding immediately after cumming.

I think the worst thing a guy can do is the side to side motion which grinds the facial hair scruff into my most sensitive parts. Fellas, those are exposed and highly sensitive areas! Imagine a boot brush being rubbed on the head of your erect penis...you get the idea.

From the clit master herself,

Alexandria Fox

Thank you for the compliment, and the excellent post!

I know exactly how you feel.
I mean the sensitivity part - not the multi-orgasmic part (I wish lol).
Sometimes I have to tell a girl to stop for a minute after I cum and I feel so bad when she looks at me with the "what did I do wrong daddy?" eyes.
I'm such a mean, selfish old man.  

I was diving in with enthusiasm, totally ignorant of the geography of Venus, and my GF tenderly took my hand, pulled it up to her face, took my index finger, and gently caressed my finger with her tongue, using a flickering side to side motion, explaining this is the method that would work for her. Wow! I never knew that! So I followed her instruction and learned what worked for her, and got much better with practice. Other than being bsc, she was an incredible lover.

"I think the worst thing a guy can do is the side to side motion which grinds the facial hair scruff into my most sensitive parts. Fellas, those are exposed and highly sensitive areas! Imagine a boot brush being rubbed on the head of your erect penis...you get the idea."

You are so RIGHTTTTTTTTTTTTT!......the problem is (and don't get me wrong here boys) some do not have the  "IMAGINE" part down as well as they do the DOING part,......  I am LMAO at the vision of you rubbniitout but honestly sweetie, it is true and I can just not put into words    (and I am fairly articulate)  how sensitive I am.  
..."i aime à avaler tout", suzee

I am sensitive to that...no pun intended and I do understand though, being a little selfish or a lot selfish I guess, since I have so many orgasms, I sure hate to being stopped right in the middle of getting oooooonnnnneee mooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooore...."i aime à avaler tout", suzee

Nice lesson and I like her methodology! Would you say that you now know your way around better?

Curious minds,

Alexandria Fox

You ladies are all wonderful and enjoyable and DATY is one of the best things I enjoy about the hobby, especially since I can't get DATY at home. Sensitivity, clitoris size, g-spot stimulation, its all good but varies significantly (probably like us clients). But, especially when we are with you the first time, positive feedback, especially verbal is what we need. The one thing I've learned is that if something seems to be working, keep doing it.

One other thing; I almost always shave my face right before a session. I'm not particularly hairy, but I do not want to cause your thighs and sensitive parts to get beard burn. The one time recently that it had been 4 hours since I had shaved, I was asked to slow it down because of slight stubble from my chin! Also, most ladies like my mustache, which is thick enough to be soft. But, the same is true in reciprocal. I have had significant lip and chin irritation (sometimes lasting for days) from pubic stubble.  I do plan to spend a fair amount of time down there, would appreciate it if it were properly and recently shaved. Either that or go full bush, which is nice and soft and altogether different and nice in its own way.

Being a southern gentleman, I usually try to follow the "Ladies First" rule, especially the first time we are together. Usually makes the rest of the session much better.

Finally, in between sessions, I do exercises to keep my mouth open and my tongue out and stroking for at least 30 minutes at a time. Helps me be prepared in case it takes a while for my partner to get going, which sometimes happens.

As Jeff Foxworthy says, ladies are like a diesel engine. Sometimes they are hard to crank up, but once you do, they can keep running forever. That's the part I love about all of you.

This topic got my attention (normally I don't post on here!), but giving oral to a girl's clit is so sexy, I couldn't resist.

Every man should please his woman (whether a permament part of his life or a nice fantasy get away with a provider) by bringing her clit much needed love making with his mouth.  

I find focusing on her clit with my mouth brings me as much pleasure as actual penetration. It mentally pleases me knowing I am pleasing her. Her beautiful lady parts, taste, smell, wetness, seeing her entire naked body, her moans, her orgasm, all beautiful.  

Any guy that refuses to go down on a girl should be dumped. It would be hypocritical for a guy to get a blow job if he won't give love to a woman's clitoris.  

Totally agree as others stated, guys her clit is the equivalent to our penis (a penis is literally a clitoris exposed to lots of testosterone and with the uretha running right through it) make sure you are clean shaven, and start slow on their clit until they warm up...and some are too sensative to touch a few minutes after orgasm. Communication is key.

Final tip, sometimes I let the woman set the rythym. I keep my mouth and tongue out, and let her rub her clit on my tongue. I also find women love having their clits sucked on, some even more than licking itself.

Happy clit love making all!

It's never too late for an old Dawg to learn new tricks.  And as I like to consider myself a southern gentleman like candleman, I whole heartedly second his comments.  As I no longer frequent the Atlanta area since retiring, I would encourage some nice ladies to venture westward to find some grateful adventurers.

Whatever my lady wants.....I do my best to give...In the words of the Temptations from D' Town....'Ain't too proud to beg'.

Oh yes!  I learned more from an educational DVD by Nina Hartly (famous adult actress) giving daty instructions.   In the video she is wearing provocative clothing, posing as a professor. She had a large puppet-- a vagina puppet-- to point out and discuss the geography of Venus. Then, naturally, she had an actress come out, sit on a sex swing, legs spread, and a talented actor demonstrated the session's lesson.  

But, it was actual practice that enabled me to learn the nuances of daty.