But, know what's a nice surprise ? I realize providers are business people, but it's always nice to get a surprise pm or email from a provider that you've seen or are interested in. Maybe it's considered a waste of time and frowned upon for being too aggressive. Not sure, just know every time I log in and see I have a message.....it's fun. Usually though, it's another horny SOB like me comparing notes.
Have a good week, everybody.

You are so right. It does make you feel good when you get a PM from a provider. I think that is just good marketing on there part and I love getting them.

Especially in the morning......It's a great way for your day to get started.

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to get mail.  nice to be thought about even is a quasi business setting.

Agree wholeheatedly!...And, as @bracket1 said, this is good marketing strategy.  The few times I have received surprise e-mails from any provider have always resulted in me churning her butter in the evening!

that in all the time I've been doing this, I have never received an email or text from a provider thanking me for seeing her, saying she had a good time, or anything like that. I've never received a text or email out of the blue just to say hi.

I had the carpets in my home shampooed recently, and they sent me a thank-you note. The shampooing only cost $150, a tenth of what I spend on an escort for a single session.

You know damn well I'd Facetime your Twitter if you Google my Yahoo, just sayin....

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I always text and email my clients to let them know I made it home safe and that I had to good time and hope to see them again just feels like the polite thing to do

There was an agency girl that showed up on seeking arrangement that I have been seeing for a couple of months.  Super sweet and always sends really sweet messages after every time we meet.  The third or fourth time we met we had a really amazing greek session.  I got a text from her about an hour after she left that said " thank you baby for fucking me in the ass, that felt absolutely amazing". Easily the best text message I have ever received in my life.

I would say maybe 10% of the independents I have seen have followed up with a nice message thanking me for our meeting.  Certainly a very nice touch.  Greatly increases the probability of a repeat visit if I was on the fence.  

Our fine ladies are entrepreneurs running their own business. Awesome customer service goes a long way and a simple follow-up to thank somebody goes along way.

I don't participate in the open discussions here, probably ever that I recall. But this subject inspired me to say I've never understood why more providers don't do the simple thing of reaching out to a client afterward (or even a few days later as a surprise!) with some simple encouragement to return. It could be a thank you, something you recall from the visit, something naughty, or whatever comes to mind that you think might work. For whatever it's worth, that's my two cents...

I can think no reason to ever follow-up someone spending time with me without at least a "Thank You" unless of of course you did not want to remember the event.   MaybeI have just been fortunate that I can only recall one such occasion.......Suzee

I agree with the comments here.  It's a topic near and dear to my heart.  A simple "thank you" or "miss you" or "I had a great time, hope to see you again" can make all the difference in the world.  As far as repeat business.  And just making your day a bit better.

Because:
It's good customer service
It's a nice thing to do
Some of us are hopeless flirts (and/or romantics) and shamelessly fall for that sucker stuff

And all the smart ladies know - if we have you in our head it's the first step to having you in our bed.

I have about a thousand PAGES of PM's in my inbox, at least half from providers. A LOT of them just to say hi, to say they either liked or hated something I said in a board post, or just to shoot the shit.

If no woman in all of the time you have been doing this has ever just dropped you a line, maybe you just aren't that interesting? just sayin... lol

"Hey you!!!" yourself beautiful!
I would ask how you are doing, but from your recent pics I can tell you are very well.  Very well indeed.  

As for myself, I'm faring well except for this debilitating condition called "employment."  It's almost a full time job I tell you.  It's terrible - people asking me to do things for them constantly.  And I hardly have time for anything fun anymore.  

Oh, my VIP expired so I don't have pm's at the moment, but I hope to get that corrected in the near future.

Not that I hope any ladies would send me a message saying "hi!", or telling me a joke, or to just whisper sweet nothings in my ear.

Heaven forbid...  

Because you know I really hate that.

e

Maybe I am just boring. When we're texting or emailing before the meeting, there's all sorts of chatter. Afterwards, there's nothing. I'm talking about communication with regulars as well as new providers.

It's a rare day that I don't get a PM, a text or an email from at least one of my hooker friends. Most days I get several.

Maybe it's because with all my other many faults, at least I am not boring. lol

BTW just a suggestion, when talking to a hooker there are other subjects much more interesting to her than sex. Not that sex isn't a great topic of conversation, but keep in mind hookers sell sex for a living, talking about nothing other than sex means you are basically asking her to "work for free". I it would be like expecting your accountant to "chit chat" with you, but the only conversation to be about the tax code and how it affects you. lol

When I'm with someone, we don't talk about sex very much. We talk about all sorts of things.  I'm a good conversationalist, and can have my humorous moments, and I can also get the providers to talk about themselves.

I don't know that you're a typical monger for others to compare themselves to. If we all did, we'd feel like monks.

You've been here for four years that I know of and by your own admission not a single lady has contacted you after a session just to "say hey" or for any other reason. Have you at least had any "non appointment" related private conversations with women that you have met here on the boards?  

I know I am not "typical" and I am not asking you to put your numbers up against mine, but if no woman has found you interesting enough to start up a "non business" conversation with you after four years of posting and booking sessions, you might want to work on your conversational skills some. lol

I will definitely work on it.
My debauchery is at an all time low.
Shame on me.

Lol

GaGambler, I've had a fair number PM me with comments about board posts. There's a couple I had pretty regular conversations with, including two or three everyone would remember/know.

Check out my post on the Over 60 board. Looks like there's a whole bunch of us.

As for conversational skills, I do think I'm a good conversationalist, and can hold my own with pretty much anyone. For a time, when I was working as a lobbyist, being chatty was a job requirement.

I only see one who has NEVER gotten a "thank you" text/email. Fish doesn't count because he doesn't give them a chance to thank him first,   so Erik is the only guy batting .000 along with you.

You know I am only busting your chops over this. I don't get a lot of "thank you" notes after a session on a percentage basis, and quite frankly I never gave it a second thought. It really doesn't mean anything as a "thank you" is simply good customer relations on the part of the lady, there is no reason to read anything more into it.

more than two guys is a bunch. We die off so quickly.

I have a theory as to why so many women have sent you notes. Their fear is that you're such an animal that you're going to want to start charging them to have sex, so they're trying to head that off by adding additional customer service perks.

and the reason "so many" women have sent me notes is because I have seen "so many" women. My percentage of women who have sent me notes after a session is actually rather low, but unlike you apparently my percentage is much higher than ZERO.  

Actually I am hardly a "freak in the sheets" I am rather vanilla, but I do have a VERY healthy sex drive.

So I am only a bodyrub girl but I wanted to chime in on this discussion. I say this because I can only respond to why I don't and not why other women don't.  

I don't send messages after a session because most of the hobbist that I see have a SO and messaging them at the wrong time could cause a problem. And sense I tend to have a number of clients it's sometime hard to remember the ones that don't and the ones that do. So usually I don't say anything unless I'm messaged first.  

That's just how I see it.  Better safe than sorry.

I believe it would be safe here. I can see not sending a text but a pm here is always welcome (at least to me). I would think most guys use an "hobby" email account if not a burner phone.

Just my opinion.

Which brings up a good point.  Of all the reasons to not communicate with a gent - safety is the best.  If a provider doesn't know her client is open to (and enjoys) such unsolicited texting/emailing it's best not to attempt it.

For me such stuff falls into three categories:

1) Immediately after a rendezvous - I think a quick thank you note is always good form.  As well as good customer service.  But I do understand providers not wanting to send ANY unsolicited responses.  Ever. Period.  (Ok I probably didn't need to write "period" then use the period punctuation mark which is redundant and more of a spoken inflection, but roll with me here as I'm trying to make a point...)

I had a regular who said "send me a text so I know that you got home safely" after our dates.  She was sweet that way.  And smart.  You see - when I did, she always responded that she had a nice time.  It was an open door for a bit of post snu-snu pillowtalk by text.  Often times suggesting things we could try during our next date.  One of the many reasons she was a favorite of mine.  Sweet, smart, and kinky.  Check, check, and checkeroo!

2) Responding to posts (or events on the boards) - for gents that have pm capability (I highly recommend it) I think ladies saying "that was interesting" or "that thing you mentioned in your post - tell me more about it."  Getting to know someone through pm is a great way to break the ice and is the "safest" of all the methods of communication.  So it should be low stress for all those involved.

(On an ironic note - I don't have pm right now, but that will be corrected shortly.)

3) Just randomly checking in.  I think this is a wonderful marketing tool for ladies that know how to work it.  Some examples of texts/emails I personally like:

"Miss you" - short, sweet.  Maybe a bit sappy but so am I.
   
"I remember you telling me about the thing, I tried the thing, and you were right, it's awesome!" - can be any"thing."  These exchanges build intimacy and trust.  Also schmoozing a client a bit is never a bad idea.  Within reason of course.  And some of us guys actually know a thing or two if you give us a chance.  Some of us anyway...

"I was out of town and just got back and had a great time.  I was just thinking about you" - has a personal touch and also conveys important information (that she is back to her normal business hours and she would like to see you again).

"I had such a nice time with you last time we were together, thank you again" - I don't know of any guy on the planet that would object to such a message.  I know this will be a shocker - but us men have egos.  And we sometimes like them stroked.  Among other things.   This is our fantasy world - remember ladies?  So make it a fantasy worth living in.

Use all of the above sparingly ladies and please don't spam us gents.  A little interest goes a long way.  But I think you will find some good rapport often moves things along in a positive direction.  Mutually beneficial if you know what I mean.  Wink, wink, nudge, nudge.

I haven't had a long winded post in a quite a long time, boy do I feel better now.  And as usual - all of this advice comes at absolutely no cost to you.

And worth every penny.

e

All this and that about such and such is way too complicated

You mean when she said "who you thing you are going to please with that?" I said "ME "   I should not expect a welcome back long text and phone call?  Geezzz, I'm hurt so deeply.  LOL LOL

lol i tank all clients old n new n i check on them...some of us r caring i individuals