Hey everybody, I've never really posted here, but I had a weird experience with a provider (who I will not name) tonight and I was hoping to get some insight.  

I doubt I'll hear from her!

I wouldn't sweat it...this happens to everyone.  It is the nature of this business...maybe she was spooked, maybe she wasn't really there or even ready.  It could be that she had a favorite client contact her minutes before you rang the bell.

Then I will be able to tell you what happened.  

1. No. She has plenty of great reviews and this seemed to be her standard system.  

Thanks! If she got spooked, I'm perfectly ok with that. I'd like to think I'm sympathetic to what providers go through.  

Marnash is spot on ...hobby long enough and it happens to all of us.

Once she looked through the peep hole an noticed you were young she declined to see you. Some providers don't see guys under 40.

TER doesn't let you write reviews for ladies you don't get to see. It could have happened a lot.

I say try to contact her one time tomorrow and then give her 24 hours to get ahold of you with a reasonable explanation and then post her name.  Even if it is her first time doing this other guys have the right to know.  You don't know there could be 3 or 4 other guys out there who also decided to let it slide.  My experience sorta like this was I had a confirmed appointment with a well reviewed lady who I had seen previously.  After a more than 4 hour drive I was in the general area and tried to contact her with no luck.  After three more attempts I was just getting ready to leave when she pulled up to a stop light with a guy and stopped about twenty feet away from me.  I saw her very clearly and there was no mistaking who she was.  I grabbed my phone and called.  She raised her phone and looked at it before lowering it.  When they drove away it was awfully tempting to chase them down,  but number one I would never do that and number two maybe she had a good excuse.  I tried to contact her the next day and got no response.  The next day she called me and told me they had taken her mother to the hospital three hours before I saw her and she never left for over 12 hours.  I told her I saw her and was going to let other guys on TER know and she started cussing me out.  That didn't help her much.  After I posted two other guys PMed me saying she had done similar things to them.  If I had known that I wouldn't have scheduled with her.  Maybe I was lucky to see her the first time without being NCNS.  Sorry this is so long I got worked up again.

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ever drive to see a provider you've never seen before without talking to them on the phone... this way you get a feel if you click or not.  

agree, she could have said look I am sorry for wasting you time, but I am no longer comfortable with this or she could have led.  When a go straight up no shows with a girl he gets black balled pretty good so why is it acceptable for a girl to do this.  

Agreed. I'm going to take SK11's suggestion and give her another shot to text me back tomorrow, and then review or post her name.

you only have 4 reviews from 2003; did not that come up ? I know you said she checked your work reference ... see I know some providers that I have seen did read the recent reviews I wrote in recent times (of me seeing them) mostly to get to my expectations etc. I am assuming since this was a quickly done appointment, she might have been looking you up minutes before you rang the bell and reviews only from 2003 spooked her ...
I am just conjecturing and I am sympathetic to your trouble just my 2c.

...Since you didn't actually meet you can't review it. Had you actually seen her even if you left or she did whether a session took place or not you could review and report the situation. TER won't allow a review of a NoCallNoShow.

No,  I didn't give her my TER name, mostly because those reviews really are old. I did offer provider references, though. I have seen a few providers in the last few months and have had good experiences, but I was too lazy to review them and now I can't review them because it's been too long according to TER.  

Not responding is no excuse, spooked or not! I understand safety, but not rude behavior to let you drive to the complex then space out!

This is why you should see girls from agencies instead of indies.

I saw the ad for a lady I had seen several times, advertising in Chicago, where I was visiting.  I called and she could only see me at 11P.  My experiences with her had been mind-boggling, so I booked, even though it was late for my old age.

Dude, you spend way too much time letting her play you like mouse. If I were you, I would have rung the door bell may be three times, texted her once telling her I am going to my car and I am going to wait for her reply for 5 minutes and if i didn’t receive text five minutes, I would have found a nice little place to get a drink or called someone else or make an appointment for the next day.

That her friends and family were having her intervention at that exact time!  I have no doubt she would have been an absolute hot fuck.  

Have not heard that name(Kimberly) in a long, long time.  Wow.  Stopped me "dead in my tracks".  Don't want to get off the subject.  Thanks for reminding me.

You have been given many.  First, I hope the lady is okay. IMO, I would contact her(call, text, email) and, in the least threatening manner, ask her to please explain.  I might mention "outing her" as a way to get her to answer.  But I would probably not do so and chalk it up to, "it has happened to most all of us".  Drama almost guaranteed if you do reveal her name.

you had to knock, call, knock, call, knock.......open!
Bam!
what a girl!

Ladies think their time is more valuable than ours and think nothing of inconveniencing us. Hate to sound harsh, but it's true. It's happened to me on more ocaasions than I can remember. One in particular drove me nuts doing this kind of stuff, but she was so hot and the sex was off the charts so I put up with it for quite a while.

Dang! Now I know the proper technique! Earlier this month I was treated to a whole new kind of sucks...standing at the door knocking with no answer. But I guess I used the wrong approach. I went knock, knock, call, and leave. And became asshole of the century for leaving! Good times!

or at least was my experience.  once in and is was pedal to the metal
for the hour (s)  lol

Right. Then your info ends up where?

Last time I saw her she was on her knees in front of me giving me head and slowly raking her long fingernails up and down the inside of my thighs. Thought I was gonna lose my mind!

that "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned," or a crazy one who thinks she was scorned. I'd be careful "outting" her just because you don't know how she'll react.
 I had a problem with one a few years back who thought I screwed her over and she called some girls I knew quite well and told them a bunch of BS that she claimed I said about them. I think she perhaps called my work as well but I never could get confirmation of that fact. I should have known she was nuts when she told me she was Mary Magdelene in a previous life. LOL! Whenever I think of her I hear Patsy Cline in my head singing, "Crazy."

The lady's need to be accountable for their actions just as guys should be. But here's where the double standard comes into play: if a lady NCNSs a hobbyist , the hobbyist doesn't have much recourse , BUT if a lady is stood up by a guy , that guy can be potentially blacklisted......That's a double standard in my book.

left after 10 minutes, gone home and "rubbed one out", opened an amarone and celebrate that I saved $300.

I have some slightly autistic tendencies, including speaking in an overly precise monotone.  Occasionally girls bail at the last minute thinking I'm 5-0. I've found for me the best thing is to establish a relationship with an agency.  

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