I am a fat, not just chubby, man with a big beard.  I am concerned that I will show up for a massage and that the provider will not want to work with me or they will worry about the table holding my weight.  Has anyone dealt with this, any advice, other than to lose weight?

I so agree with Ginger.  Being a provider & a personal assistant, I have heard and seen a lot of things from gentlemen. I feel if you let us know in advance, it's really not a problem at all. Things that are sensitive, not just the size thing either.  A lot of young ladies live in apartments that have stairs and some older men or men with disabilities can't walk the stairs.  I can't even tell you how many times I've had to go downstairs to help one of Liv's clients up her 18 stairs of hell. lol.
So shoot that young lady an email to see if she would like to spend time with you.  There are lots of wonderful ladies on this board, who I know personally, that feel "size of the body, doesn't matter".
Kisses
Kimberly

years ago when i worked in Stl.
A fat guy came over and broke my table.
since then , i've learned the bed is better and more comfy.

I had a gentleman break my bed frame. Now we did have fun in the process but he was kind enough to go to home depot & come back and fix it.  We laugh about it all the time. Riding him like a bull I was! Goodness that was fun!  One of my "ATF"s.
Being in the fetish field I like to know in advance so I have the right tricks & props ready to play.  Like my assistnat said, "I do love thrm, all shapes, color & sizes".  Im very versatile.  Shoot I'll put my doubles partner Chloe on blast.  She loves old & large fellas just as much as I do!
Lov u Chloe!!

Play well this year boys & girls!!
Liv
 N Syn

Thank you to all of the ladies that so graciously answered my question with thoughtfulness and respect.

is to be clean and respectful. A bed should the hold weight just fine. I do agree that you should be upfront and honest so you nor the lady will be in an uncomfortable situation. I am not concerned with a persons weight though as long as you are clean and respectful.
Hugs and kisses
TL