Well I take that to be adressed to me and to others.  Some drama will always be there and YES, you have a very valid and usefull point about screening.

Drama is what it is and it will always be here and other parts of our lives. I just hate to see people attack others because they have a different opinion.  

Guess I just take it too personally as I seem to always be into some drama as I again guess I bring it on to myself, DARN. Yes , I take things too personal as my good friend tells me and then I JUMP to conclusions and lash out.

As someone below said, get rid of the things that make you unhappy and do the things that make you happy!  Yep, good thoughts. It just iis not that easy for me. I just have a very hard time saying no at times, then it builds up and I crash.

OK, Phil, I will not ask anyone to behave and get along anymore. LOL

Maybe I just missed my dancing partener.   (grin)

Personally, if I never experienced drama again, it would be too soon...

Little Phil...you are the man of the hour and I totally agree with everything your said or going to say....

...and I know it happened long ago but I'm truly sorry that happened to you.

If this helps at all, I'm sure it's has come around to her two fold. It always does..

Many of you may know that I moderate several TER boards and I'd have to say that this one is the most adverse to drama of any of them.  Yesterday's thread on certain types of reviews was pretty benign and yet a few people were concerned about the return of drama.  To be clear (unless DL did stuff I didn't see), the only posts pulled were deleted by the users themselves.  There were some differences of opinion, and in the end all parties seem to have resolved their differences.

I personally love drama in small doses.  I feel that it brings out more of the individuals true personalities and gives additional info beyond what can be found in reviews.  In that regard, it's a screening tool (for both parties).  Some people jump into the fray, others are peace-keepers and still others avoid it.  I suppose I've just given you a glimpse into my soul (so to speak, since I don't really have one).

So, within the boundaries of some modicum of civility, why do you want so badly to avoid drama?  I really am curious.

But honestly, my post wasn't directed at anyone in particular.

    Drama Queen  

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGnfKnfY6EM

Once by a trusted, well reviewed provider. I lurk mostly and post only when I think it can help the community as a whole. After 20 years hobbying, and falling victim to fake ads, rip-off's and having trusted the wrong people unknowing how seedy and vicious the nature, I try and help when I can. I guess my lesson was not to get caught in the cross hairs. When you get in the middle of someone else's storm, you might get blown away too.  I did, and nearly lost my family for good.

On the flip side, I enjoy a little drama when it's not hurtful. I think the review thread played out beautifully. It could have gone the other way, but glad to see it didn't.

drama is stressful to me and I try to gently let go of those that create it.  It is nothing more than jealousy.  And all jealousy is a fear that you don't have value.  Peace and Love everyone!  Madison

Gee, we talk about pussy (my favorite subject), fuckin, suckin, lickin, fetishes, greek isles, swallowing or spittin it out, rimming, spanking, shaved or natural, and other perversions.  How can you talk about all those wonderful pleasures and not have a dose of drama injected into it?

Just my thoughts.

GT

I don’t think there is ever, nor ever has been a period of time that this board was without some degree of drama.  I agree with LP in that we seem to keep down the frequency of blow-ups better than most other boards.  That is why when we do have a humdinger, it is so notable.  But to hope that we don’t have drama or conflict is just not a realistic expectation.  There may be more, but here are four reasons that come to mind right off -

1.  I know there are many here who have been around a lot longer than I, just as there are those newer to this forum than I.  The more tenured posters often lament the good ole days of TER, whereas the newer posters are often just trying to fit in.  This, in of itself, makes for some interesting posting dynamics.

2.  Prior to the days of Facebook and Twitter and perhaps still true – it took thick skin and a bit of hutzpah to post on a public board.  I think we have generally become more anesthetized from our civilian posting / texting.  But, perhaps our skins remain a bit thin given the illicit nature of our topics.  As such, even though all of us realize (or at least we should) that we only speak for ourselves and our opinions – it is often hard to be tolerant of a differing opinion.  And how dare the mods allow someone to post an opinion differing from mine – TER guidelines be damned, they’re wrong and should be banned / moderated.

3.  Some will talk about how comfortable they are embracing confrontation.  But IMO – most really do not like conflict.  But if they perceive themselves having their personal opinions attacked – like any cornered animal, they come out fairly ferociously.  

4. And if we are being completely honest – the very arrangement we make with the ladies has some degree of conflicting interests to it.  After all – does any hobbyist disagree that this is supposed to be about fun?  Some providers would disagree, and from their perspective – they would be correct.  For them – while they may enjoy their work, it is still how they either make a living of subsidize their living.

When you add up all those dynamics, I don’t see how we can avoid some drama.  But big difference in drama created by differences of opinion vs personal agenda.  And deciding which type it is, LP – is why I do not envy you or any moderator.

PS - Another thing that often creates drama is guys that write freakin epistles in the guise of posts.  Geesh, sure am glad I am not one of those guys.  

I stay out of the drama and prefer to see it as the TER version of afternoon soap operas.  I think anyone having any other perspective may be a little too vested in the Board.  TER is about fantasies (realized or left as fantasy) and letting the writings and rants be more impactful than just words in a screen is letting too much reality into their fantasy.  

I am very sympathetic to those (providers and hobbiests) who have been harmed but it seems the best way to handle it is maintain a proper distance from the rants while enjoying the human comedy as it plays out.

Z

What is real drama anyway?

Anytime 2 or more people are thrown together their is bound to
be some type of conflict...not a bad thing I would hate to be in a place where everyone
thought the same thoughts.

She doesn't advertise anymore.  If I called her out, and she figures out who i am she might start harassing me again. She nearly ruined my life, and forced me to cash in a 401k to pay Attorney's fees.  After my wife talked to her, she went out and hired the best Attorney my money could buy.  The worst part of all is having your wife confront you with all your hobbying.  Talk about feeling defeated and ashamed. She left nothing out, right down to my TER handle with reviews. It took a long time to recover. We're still in marriage counseling today.

Nothing and no one is perfect...and we ALL have our opinions.......

Wow,
That must be some story.
Did you have some sort of relationship or was she
a random extortionist?

Seems to me differing opinions isn't drama. The drama comes when people are attacked for their different opinion. When the posts start attacking personally and making assumptions about the poster instead of dealing with the opinion. Using that definition I am completely opposed to drama. I am not opposed to different opinions and allowing them to be expressed.

someone mean spirited that intentionally says something to discredit, hurt, slander.  Not constructive in nature.  An opinion not worthy of mentioning.

maybe we should ask FFP is any one else is pulling them?

Turns out, I didn't know the real her until I tried to put some distance between us and see others.  She became increasingly controlling, and jealous. The real kicker was the fact that she had a man in her life that I knew nothing about. He called me with threats and stories of how they would sit around and laugh about how pathetic and naive I was and how sad for me to be paying to spend time with her.  It was very hurtful. I would have done anything for her.  Live and learn. I don't hobby much anymore, but still enjoy being here and seeing everybody else enjoying. I guess I'm living vicariously through my fellow mates.

Have a good weekend ladies and gents. I've got to take the wife to a movie.

Pmking

Is the grave.. What is drama? Drama is Life happening and it is what it is.. It doesnt bother me at all.. UNLESS Im pulled into something not of my making which does tend to happen iaround these parts LOL...

So I have no problems with it. I either laff or roll my eyes and then promptly fuggeddaboud it we're in a highly excitable drama filled lifestyle full of sensuality and yes damn it.. Feelings too! So what do you expect?  Sometimes the drama is soooo funny that I wish I could eat just to pop some corn, sit back and enjoy life happening to us all

tyvm,P.T.

Well said!

I thought MOH was the female  equivalent to BRO.

But I finally figured it out  (it did not take all day).

But, sniffle, but - that's not what you said to me.  Oh wait, you are talking about drama and conflict

it's all good

nah, I've scaled waaaaaaayy back on that

I guess I must laugh a lot. (and it would seem, mostly "out loud") lol