Hey everybody, I was recently NC/NS'd by a well established, very well liked provider. I've actually met her before and I like her quite a lot, which is probably why I'm writing about this experience and why I've never written about a couple of previous NC/NS experiences I've had in the past.
We've been in contact by email, and I sent her a note Monday to set up a meeting. On Wednesday afternoon she agreed to meeting up and offered me a time to meet this weekend. I responded that that time was perfect and ... poof. Nothing since. No contact at all.
I don't believe in outing people for this kind of behavior, because it's impossible to know what kind of situation might have cropped up, but it's still a nasty thing to do to just break off contact completely. Even if she wrote back to say that she was cancelling our appointment to see someone else, I think I'd feel better than I do right now. I guess I'm just writing to blow off some steam and maybe to influence someone out there that coldly breaking off contact is just a cruel thing to do. If your life is out of control and you need to string somebody along once in a while just to feel like you have a little power, then maybe get some therapy instead.
I guess you believe that whoever the lady is, that she will first figure out that you are talking about her, and secondly, that she will read your prose and suddenly a magic light will come on for her and she will quickly say to herself, "omg what a horrible thing I have done and I will surely never do that again". LOL
I never have understood posts like this... they are just a waste of bandwidth, and actually the typical logic for it that seems to always be mentioned is something like, "gee, I don't mention any names because that wouldn't be respectful". And, yet, the very act that you describe was disrespectful to you. It will be disrespectful to other guys on the board who might otherwise know to avoid this lady if only you had the courage to say what you mean and mean what you say. And, it's disrespectul to all the other ladies who don't play these disrespectul games with their clients.
I believe the OP stated that writing this helps him get it off his chest. At times these boards serve as therapy to those who use them. We express our feelings about something and it's over.
At other times, some obsess over some wrong that has occured to them and never get over it.
Why should she be given 'special treatment' over and above anyone else?
A NC/NS is the same thing whether it be from a rookie BP lady or a Top 10 Veteran Atlanta lady with 100s of reviews.
.....she still stood you up for an appointment without any reasonable explanation immediately before or after your agreed upon time for the appointment.
Furthermore , she has done this to you in the past more than once.....so it certainly sounds like she is taking advantage of you.
This is yet one more reason Atlanta needs a NC/NS board for Hobbyists AND Providers.
First off, sorry that happened to you hurricane. The same thing has happened to me several times, and it sucks.
So man up, grow a pair, and put her name here on this board for all to see. I'm sure all the hobbyists here will immediately stop calling this lady. Her business will suffer, and all the other gals here will recognize that they can not afford to indulge in this behavior. Things will improve for everybody. You will be our hero.
Of course it may turn out a bit differently. It might be that 6 or 7 hobbyists will tell you thanks for the good info, then three of them will still go see this gal. Meanwhile, two dozen of her previous clients will post on here that they have seen her 16 times and she is as reliable as a John Deere tractor, and if she NSNC'd you there probably is a good reason, or maybe something wrong with you. And five to ten other providers will chime in about what an asshole you are while they all put you on a DNS list.
I once suggested on another forum about the need to establish a NSNC list. The thread got maybe 5 replies, and two of them were negative.
To me a NSNC is a minor inconvenience. Nothing more. The hobby is just for fun, my existence does not depend on it. So if something happens and I don't wind up dead or in jail, it's all good.
Whether there is a perfectly legitimate reason this provider NCNSed hurricane or not......she still should've conducted herself in a professional manner before or after she NCNSed hurricane but she didn't. Her unprofessional demeanor needs to be called out. A hobbyist should be expected to do the same if her were to cancel. Communication is a two-way street.
Whatever the circumstances, there isn't anyone on this board or in the hobby that doesn't have a cute little smart phone and knows how to use it. If you have an appointment whether you are a client or provider, you ought to respect the other person's time enough to give them a headsup that you're keeping it or something's come up.
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