I have a question because I have been contemplating on this issue for a while. I have been hobbying for a while. I have had good experience as well as very depressing experience beyond the norm. I been wondering about how does a person knows that they need a break or even retire from the hobby? I am asking as very sincere
Thanks in advance

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Joe,

I'm sorry to hear that and you know I wish you the best.

A bit of wisdom that my dad left me...  He said "In life you should either do something because you enjoy it or because you make good money doing it.  Hopefully, both."

Since you and I are on the client side of the equation we're clearly not making any money doing it.  Damn.  Life is so unfair.    Because I sure enjoy doing it.  Man do I.  Mmmm.  What was the question again?  Oh - that's the point.  I enjoy it.

So the answer to your question "when do I take a break?" is...  when it stops being fun of course.  Hobbying - particularly, is all about disposable income being wasted (brilliantly I might add) to relieve stress, make a connection,  play in fantasyland, and just get your freak on.  If it isn't fun anymore - take a break.

Although I can't imagine retiring altogether (maybe if my dick stops working god forbid lol) I have taken a few breaks over my hobby career to take a rest and/or get some perspective.  One was over a particularly scary incident where a girl went BSC on me (think "Fatal Attraction"), and several others were after girls I was particularly fond of moved on, retired, said "au revoir", whatever...  And my heart was broken because I missed them dearly.  Because sometimes you can fall in love.  Or - at least hobby love.  And it can take a while to get over that.  

The bad news is you can get your heart broken.
The good news is you can sometimes find something really amazing out there in the first place.

Like my man Tennyson said (he has this way with words you know)...

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Life is too fucking short to be engaged in any activity that doesn't elevate you or bring you joy in some way; especially when said activity not only costs you time but money as well.

I too am currently contemplating taking a break from the hobby due to time constraints involving family and my other outside interests and hobbies.  

There's nothing wrong with taking a break or a time out in order to focus on other things and also reassess your motivations for hobbying.

The Buddha says that attatchment is the root of all suffering. Not that I fully agree but detatching from entities that impede upon your happiness is very healthy and may even provide the clarity you seek.

Good luck Joe!

then you know the answer.  Shut down your hobby email log off Ter and take a look
at the world sans hobby.  You will know when its time to come back.

Sorry to hear that the hobby got you down.  For the $$$ its supposed to be fun.

Bigjoe2002,

I regret you are considering a break from the hobby due to possible disappointment with a session.

You are a well known and respected Gent among this community and I would suggest to try a couple new ladies and avoid any of the prior bad ones. This is one option verses taking a complete break. A couple ladies I know  have spoken well of you, so I say just roll the dice, and don't think twice.

I have taken a forced break from the hobby since feb. 2016 due to a home project and some expensive dental work. This break has been painful to me as I miss some of my favorite ladies.  
One of my fav's did offer to meet me for lunch just to catch up, and I found that to be a nice .
I can't wait to get back in the game !!!!

Like Michael Jackson said : " Don't Stop til You get Enough "

Cheers,
punter4

I met an incredible lady (civilian) who is wilder then i am and down for anything.

I had an opportunity to go bang a cute 26 year old with a buddy today but rather save for my lady

I think you should simply consider a hiatus, joe.  

Back when I was a teenager, I asked a wise elderly family friend: 'Mr. Lloyd, when do you get too old to have sex?'
"Well, since I'm only 86 years old, I can honesty say I don't know the answer to that. You'll find out that as you age you'll get satisfaction in a variety of ways, and not always with the same woman."  
Ya see, Mr Lloyd had been married to the same woman since they were both 15... but that didn't stop him until his heart simply gave out a few years later.

Sounds like you're in the doldrums, joe. So take some time away from the hobby. Maybe take the Summer off. Sure, continue to gather your funds, but do something else like hiking or sight seeing or whatever you do to stay active and fit. Come Fall, look back into things here.

Last time I thought about a hobby hiatus, an ATF who is long gone from TER emailed out of the blue. We ended up having a good time in a variety of ways, but it got the old juices flowing again. I hope the same happens for you.

Best wishes,
ga_kosh

when it stops being fun and more positive than negative! (Without considering money and time issues)
Keeping it transnational only will make any one survive the longest - but most likely every one of us will get emotional about a lady or two sooner or later (IMHO). That's when it start to take a emotional toll or take to real happiness and may be a new life with this special one; however, the chance of the former is very high. Then comes the issue of how much can you take (or hope) before you quit the lady or the hobby. The former action does not change anything except pushes the can forward. The later is a sure shot way I guess.

I suspect, unfortunately, even if it ends up with a matrimony or a serious relationship, quitting hobby is only temporary in its technical sense. Once we tasted the cookies and we know there are cookies in the jar - most all will dip in again. There may be exceptions ...

Whatever you decide please do not expect much from it.

GG  

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By "taking a break from the hobby" we mean during our refractory period - correct?

Or the time it takes to go hit the ATM again?

Right guys?  Guys?

Because a REAL break from the hobby would be..

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I want to say thank you for your help, advice and support. I had been contemplating about this issue for a while. There were certain events or occurance that had happened to me the last several weeks, and those events had shaken me up and bothered me...

Great reply & I second the above

IMO, if you are sincerely questioning whether to take a break, probably means you need one. I have always found my 'civilian' like takes an uptick when I take a break. Might be I'm just more aware of possibilities, might be I put more effort into them.  

Try taking 30 days off and see how you feel. If you want to dive back in, by all means go for it! But good advice above to be honest with yourself about what you are looking for.  

Good luck!