I have question of protocol and would like some input. Recently I had a provider come to my place for outcall. She left a small bag which I discovered and called on it. The lady said she had not noticed that it was missing but said she would come by to pick it up. Well I asked her to call me first before coming by. I did not want her to miss me in case I was out and about. Needless to say the other day she dropped by unannounced to pick up her belongings. Needless to say this threw me a little. But, it got me to thinking about running into providers in public generally. This world is not as large as we think.  Any suggestions or comments are appreciated.

She wasn't a provider, but she left a pari of earrings so I'd give her a call back.  Unfortunately, the woman I had been dating that worked for an airline and had been transferred to NY, got sent back to LA.

You guessed it, she was the one who found the earrings and I was busted.  When I later spoke with other women about this, they told me that lots of girls do that to get guys they're interested in to call them back.  It's possible this escort was doing the same sort of thing.

But as others have said, it was really uncool for her to show up unannounced.

I wouldn't trust her anymore. There's another reason for not having out calls to your home.
Put her on your Do Not See anymore list and hope she doesn't drop by to ask why.

As far as running into them in public. Don't do anything. You don't know them. They don't know you. You never know who they might be with. A friendly stranger nod would probably be ok but no more than that.

I believe most providers, myself included value your privacy as much as we do ours. We would never drop in on someone but we would call and find a time convenient for you.
I'm curious as to how the unannounced visit played out. Did she get her bag and leave....was there conversation? Did you mention your concerns?

This was a stupid move on her part and something many ladies who offer incall worry about. Someone coming to your place unannounced is never appropriate. Had this been a man going to a ladies place she would be screaming and giving names for safety sake.

It is never a good idea to entertain a lady in your home the first time you see her. I hope you learned something from this situation and will go elsewhere the next time.

If you ever see a lady outside somewhere that you have seen before move on with no acknowledgement at all. She may look alone but may not be.

Kisses Haley

I have twice seen a provider out and about.  One didnt see me and was shopping and I didnt bother her at all.

Another spotted me at the fair.  She was with a gentleman and the look was more fear like when we locked eyes.  I simply nodded lightly to acknowledge her but no one was the wiser. She wrote me the next day and thanked me.  Even if she was alone I should not approach her.  I believe that the ladys have a real life and should be free of the fantasy world to live it as they see fit.  And I appreciate the same in return.

That was not a good move on her part to come to your house unexpected especially when you told her to call first.Just like another reply said she does not know who lives with you or who might be visiting your home the day she decides to pop up unannounced to your home.Talking about not being discreet!
As far as seeing a provider in public while I am not a gent I have  had this experience with seeing a gent in public who I had seen before in the hobby.

It was kind of funny I was at the shelter to adopt my dog and this guy keeps looking at me so I am wondering who he is?
As I walk closer I realize who it was I was with a person who is not in this hobby and knows nothing about it or even that I am a provider.I was very nervous as I did not know if the guy who I saw would say anything he walked by and very lowly said my provider name and kept going.
Later he sent me a pm and we had a laugh about it he is a cool guy who would never say anything inappropriate but it sure startled the hell out of me when I first saw him.
Some guys who see providers in public will not say anything right there might send a pm or email later or not mention it at all.Then there are some who will want to walk over and strike up a conversation or start yelling her provider name not cool!

I also have seen 2 providers in public that I had seen and they knew me . One had 2 little children with her. She looked at me and I her and she smiled I just smiled as I walked past her. I was coming out of the casino one night and saw the other one and she was with a guy . I just winked at her and walked on by. She actualy said hi to me. Of course I have seen her many times and we are like friends . She knows I have no attachments to anyone so no worries. Probably just told the guy I was a friend. i was fine with it.

home so she asks your SO (who answered the door), could she come in and get her little bag she left there.  Dahh?????

I know the general rule of "no public recognition," but sometimes exceptions can work out.  Recently, I attended a concert with a friend of a friend (strictly platonic) at which I knew a favorite provider would also be attending with a well-heeled customer.  I spotted her right away  -- second row center  -- from my center orchestra seat about half way back.  At the end, she stood up, turned around, spotted me and gave me a friendly but discreet wave and a nice smile that her escort didn't see.  I responded in kind and it was OK.  I was glad that my partner that evening was also very attractive and my provider friend could see that.  And I was also pleased that she was confident enough with herself, me, and her "date" that she could wave openly to a friend.