I asked this question awhile back on the Carolina board. Now, Im curious as to what a more mature audience feels about them.
Let me explain: I have a bullet that I LOVE to use! I always leave it in plain sight on my night table when I'm with my gents. If the gent sees it and asks about it, I explain it and will use it if they seem interested.
Recently, I was with a gent. I noticed him looking at it, so I explained what it was. He didnt seem very receptive, so I left it alone. Afterwards, he said he was VERY happy I didnt use it because he would have been insulted. That he felt it was a "replacement" rather than an "enhancement".
Since I MOSTLY see gents over 50 it got me wondering.
My experience has been that the majority of my "older" gents have NO clue what it is or how its used. Alot of them are very happy to let me show them what this bullet does. Some either never ask or dont seem to be interested.
So, Im curious. How do YOU feel about them? Are you insulted if the lady brings a toy or do you like that she does? Do you care either way?
Thanks guys for your input!!! HUGS!!
I am over 50...I am over 60...let's leave it there...a toy to me is a total enhancement...for us mature gents (wink wink) the lady's pleasure is paramount...so I love her enjoyment of me, her toys and our mutual bliss. Who the fuck cares from where it comes?? Too bad this gent was threatened by it. How could anyone be threatened by joy????
I think toys can definitely add to the fun for both parties. I would never take it as an insult if a gal wanted to add a toy to the mix. The whole idea is for both of us to have fun. Actually I would enjoy helping you to use any toy you like.
I'm an older guy who doesn't know what it is. Please enlighten me.
A bullet is a small bullet shaped vibrator. Mine has 5 diff speeds from slow to mind-blowing ULTRA fast!
I probably would be curious about what a bullet is and how you use it. ( I'm not sure about what it is, etc.) I might even want to watch you use it. It's a turn on watching a lady get off. But after that I'd not want it to be part of the activities for the rest of the session. I can see the insult side of it like your client stated. But, I wouldn't necessarily think that if a provider asked about using a toy in a session with me. A young provider used a vibrator on her clit while we were engaged in K9 during a session once. I didn't mind and it went away when we moved to other activities. Don't know if it's due to my age or not. Someone would need to do some research on that by taking a survey and comparing answers by age groups. I just consider toys a solitary activity.
Thanks! The way she used hers is exactly how I use mine. A bullet is just a small vibrator. I appreciate you answering honestly!!!
I would Love to meet a Lady with a bullet on the night stand. I always bring a pocket rocket with me an if the Lady seems receptive we include in our activities. Total enhancement for me.
Whatever adds pleasure to either or both partners is welcomed. I've always been a little 'twisted' and like exploring new things. I'd only be upset if the battery ran out before we were both satisfied.
whether with a vibrator, dildo or by hand.
A few times a gal has put a vibrator up against her clit while I was inside her, and I didn't really enjoy the vibration up against my cock. I tended to make me lose my focus.
On the other hand, when a gal rubs her clit while I am in her, especailly during doggy, I just love it.
I guess that I have much to learn and experience. I have never seen a woman masturbate herself to an orgasm ( except in a porn flick). Maybe I've been too timid to ask but I can only imagine how exciting that must be as an erotic experience in its own right as well as a prelude to sex. Something new to look forward to .....
I have actually bought a lady a special toy. And got to see it used. It was HOT. I dont think it detracted at all, she was a lot more sensitive to the rest of the activities. I wont turn my nose up anymore.
I like to watch how a girl pleases herself so I can than mimic and learn how to really please her.
I don't mind if a lady wants to me to use some toys on herself to enhance her pleasure. Particularly if she wants to use a vibrator to help her cross the finish line when we're in a position that I can't reach her clit (like doggie style).
But I feel the same as as MrFisher in terms of not particularly liking the sensation that gets transferred to me, plus, like he said, it can cause you to lose focus. I have no doubt that sort of vibration works on a clit, but it isn't really pleasurable (or even comfortable) on a penis.
One time a GF used a big plug-in type vibrator on herself to show me how much pressure she can take when masturbates. The sensation that was transmitted to me while I was insider her was almost painful. It made me cum quickly, but it wasn't enjoyable.
The only toy I've ever had used on me were some anal beads one of my more adventurous GFs showed up with one night. It was a fun novelty, but not something I wanted to do on a regular basis.
So I guess the bottom line is I'm not much of a toy guy either.
I love to watch a lady get herself off - it is a beautiful thing to observe - - - but - - - - I prefer that she use her fingers. I think the vibrator is overkill. If she needs that - - - she has likely used it to excess over a long period of time and has lost a considerable degree of the natural erotic sensitivity that SHOULD be in her clit.
BTW, I am over 50 and very aware of what a "bullet" is and how it is used as well as many other kinds of toys.
Even better than watching her use her fingers - - is watching (and feeling her) as she lays on top of me and rubs her kitty against my leg or rides against my pubic area to get off (no penetration). The scissor position that is sometimes part of girl/girl action can be great too if she and I happen to have the right complementary body geometry. All of these activities can be VERY erotic but if she is too used to a vibrator it won't work cause she won't be be getting enough sensation that way to get off.
No mere male can compete with the intensity of sensation provided by a vibrator.
I TRULY appreciate all the honest responses!! I think toys, like everything, are a matter of personal preference. I started out thinking maybe it was a generational thing, but obviously not!
I guess I will continue to leave mine out, for those that are interested, but I will NOT assume that everyone likes them! Thanks to you all for taking the time to answer my question and for giving me different perspectives on the subject! I LOVE learning new things and I find differing opinions and the reasons for them fascinating! HUGS!!!!
... for starting this interesting thread. It certainly gave me, and possibly others, something to think about. 
an open minded adult who enjoys both giving and receiving pleasure.