“Having wealth is one of the most disappointing things. It’s overrated. It’s not as good as average sex.  Average sex is better than being a billionaire.”  Ted Turner

Honestly, I always thought, age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! Bullshit and brilliance only come with age and experience!   And, I've always connected better with older people anyway...another reason why I like this board...!!

Corey Edwards
PS: Victoria -- Glad to see you're still round...!! Go Girl...!!!

and some men and women will actually quit having sex because their not.

For a lady who sells her time it's going under the knife, working out to extremes or accepting yourself the way you are. It is hard to realize no matter what your body type or age there is attention for every type. Variety is the spice of life but flavor and aroma changes with each and every one of us.

For a woman and wife it is very hard to deal with these changes without someone stoking their ego. Making them feel they are wanted just the way they are. After all the man is dealing with change himself. Having sex in certain positions easy to do before is no longer comfortable for you or your wife or partner.  Strength declines for all of us as well as flexibility. It is work and takes so much more energy.

Kisses Haley

I can use all of your advice that I can get.  My wife is a great woman, friend, caregiver, etc.  She used to be a great lover (5 stars).  She is older than I am but that has not made a difference until the last couple of years.  Most people assume she is much younger than I am.

She has a health problem that has limited us to the mish position for many years.  But with great foreplay, I was not complaining. Three years ago, her problem deteriorated so that even the mish position is painful.  She can only lay on her back and says foreplay is too much effort.  She is also feeling the effects of aging as Victoria described.  She does not want to be intimate in any way.  If I initiate a romantic encounter I almost feel like I am doing "spouse rape."

I have written at length about my health problems What I haven't said is that I am a people person.  I love being around groups of people and interacting with them.  I have done this in my professional life, fraternal groups, local politics, etc.  My illness has curtailed my activities in any groups of people.  As a result, I CRAVE physical intimacy.  Not rock and stomp sex, just hugging, cuddling, feeling and touching.  Sex would be nice but not required.  Also since ALS has robbed me of my voice, it is much easier to carry on an adult conversation with one person than a group.  Because of this craving, I returned to hobbling about a year ago after a 20 year layoff.

Hobbling has been good to me; I was fortunate to meet a lady who talked me thru a lot of my problems.  She has become my best friend.  And I like to say that she is my wife's best friend also because she has coached me how to resume normal relations with my wife in a number of areas----but not this one..  (You would know her because she is a frequent poster on the boards.

I hope you ladies can give me some advice on how to handle this intimacy problem.

Thanks in advance.

You raise lots of interesting subjects.  You make me want to check in more often.

I hope to discover your inner beauty when you visit Chicago.