I've had 10 "dates" since discovering TER a year ago. Eight of those dates have been a great time  & 3 out
of those 8 have been beyond my wildest dreams. Those 3 women are interesting, intelligent, very sexy, passionate,
funny, kind & accommodating. It was a great ride.
I'm also sad because I've noticed (at 71) a rapid decrease in my libido. It is decreasing faster than my bank account.
There are soooo many beautiful women I would love to meet, my brain go & my body says no. Such is life.

If you have helped the local economy for five decades, perhaps now you are "paying the price"...?

If you haven’t seen him/her lately. Besides the obvious ED drugs there maybe other remedies.  

Good luck.

I have found that if my cock is hard, my libido is there. Was having trouble and doubled my Cialis to 40 mgs. and all is wonderful.See your Doc

Hard to say which I would rather have.

 
I just hope that they disappear at the same time, then a meteor falls on me.

I am completely with you about the libido and the bank account disappearing at the same time, but unless it's a VERY small meteor landing on me, I would hate to see that poor 18 year old hottie who was my last piece of ass getting crushed by that meteor along with me. I would prefer to simply drop dead of my own accord after both my libido and my money is gone, but hopefully by the time that happens in the year 2050 or so, there will be a cure for that little libido problem that I expect to have by then.

Anyone who monitors this board knows that everyone is different.  Accept that.  If someone says he is having transcendental sex at age 90 you know he's a bullshitter, but if he's got enough $$$ he might get a babe to give him a HJ and if he can do it at that age, more power to him.  What works for me might not be good for anyone else but we all have to work it out.  Prostate cancer and old age have changed my capacities, but I find with an activist partner (not always easy to find!) with great mutual chemistry I can have memorable encounters, not as often but whenever I need it, and with convincing appreciation for our mutual endeavors.  Do what you can for as long as you can, and when you can't  do it at your peak anymore find a way.  It's there!  I'm 84 and my ATF, a sprightly young babe in her mid-40s, says, "my oldest regular is older than you but he's not as strong."  On such comments hang masculine self-image!

I was once at a spinning class and was the only one there. The young hot spinning instructor said we'll do the class with just me. Before we started she asked me what my goals were. I said 'To have sex regularly at 80!' She gave me a high five. I should have asked her out for a coffee and made a move but didn't.  

Lots of exercise and good genes are keeping me going.

The sexual chemistry that happens between two bodies is incredible. In fact, I have a massage scheduled for the weeks I do not have dates.

If I don't get regular physical touch, things change in me.

I have left dates with gentlemen who had a touch that showed they cared and desired my body and soul. The cuddling, carressing, and even light touches on the hands, kissing, and hugs do many things that I think we don't give enough credit to.

Having my legs up in the air getting "banged hard" without feeling hands on my body doesn't do what holding does.

I used to have sex simply to get a "long, passionate hug".

On that note, as I said above, some can't perform, and get upset that  they feel they can't please or be pleased. But there is something that lights up in me that sends me skipping through my day, feeling happy and healed.

Getting a massage is great, especially a sensual massage. In an environment where you are attracted, and feel wanted, I believe the power of touch is even greater.

I wouldn't get too down on it, though I can understand not being able to do the things you used to do can be extremely upsetting. However, I have a philosophy that most of what sex is about is the touching and care that causes the most healing.

I attached an article. More and more articles and studies on the power of physical touch are coming out - maybe road rage would end if people got a nice, long, sensual hug on a regular basis, and especially from someone they actually chose to hug them... like a nice hot escort or sensual massage provider.  🤔🤔🤔

Xoxo,

C

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TheNudeOpera's view is just like mine has always been from the male perspective.  I also enjoy sex but more high contact including some Tantra positions (even though I have no interest in the spiritual side).   Caring, caressing, quality touch is far more meaningful and fulfilling to me than the usual.  Realize I am odd and find my type easier to find compatibility in Canada than the U.S. especially from Eastern Europeans that in general seem so much more natural sensual than most other nationalities.  French Canadians also often more my type.   Another site with extensive info lovetouch. info.

and my most gratifying experiences BCD begin with touches.  
All over touches. Locating, massaging, and stimulating as many nerve endings as we can find.  
Feather touches, light and hard compression, stroking, all of it. Both hands. All over.
The anticipation is only heightened and the feeling of being cared for and safe and appreciated  
and sensually awakened is what I crave. Some women have that skill. It's an intuition.  
They're rare and need to be cherished. And they know who they are.