and I've had some very nice chats with them.

I say if it helps break the ice, that's a good thing.

Apparently, I have both a voice and face for radio.  LOL.  So maybe email is best for me.  Actually, my face is OK, but I'm bald so most women burn rubber getting away.  I've learned that if I'm wearing a hat when I'm introduced to a woman, I take it off right away in order to save us both a lot of time and embarrassment.  I actually had one woman literally turn and walk away from me in mid-sentence when I took my hat off!

But back to your question, I've seen women before without first speaking with them on the phone, but it's always a bit of a risk.  Sometimes 30-seconds on the phone is all you need to be turned off.  I've had that happen more than once, particularly before TER and reviews.  My two pet peeves are a really annoying voice, or if she talks like she's dumb as a bag of rocks.  Whether it's true, or just immaturity, you can tell pretty quickly.

On the other hand, I saw a 27-year old twice last year that was both intelligent and well-spoken and I enjoyed our time together immensely.

For me a conversation can make or break getting together with someone. Any local people that I plan to meet with it's always set up over the phone although an introductory e-mail is encouraged with dates they are interested in and something about themselves.

You learn so much with that first conversation how do others feel ?

ladies : at what point do you actually want to talk with a gentlemen before the date and what info must they already have given at that point.

Gentlemen : What type of conversation schedule works best for you ? Would you / have you met with a lady you never spoke with till you arrived at her incall or she called for directions to yours ?

Kisses Haley

The prrof is in the verbs....

For me, if she can hold a sense of humor and and just be herself, it helps exponentially. Many can be terse after speaking to the quirky ones over and over...know what I mean?

The proof is in the verbs....

For me, if she can hold a sense of humor and and just be herself, it helps exponentially. Many can be terse after speaking to the quirky ones over and over...know what I mean?

Re: The proof is in the verbs....

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experiences I have ever had.  Everything was arranged by email.  Text messaging for the location and then the room #.  Even where to park and the best way to get to the elevator.  Just jumped into each other arms from the start and it was so damned hot.  It started out as a zipless fuck / PSE but turned into a torrid GFE.

I typically hate talking to people on the telephone.  I prefer to have either email correspondance or face to face.  Email allows me to think twice before I send, face to face allows me to gauge the impact of my words based on your facial and physical reactions.  With the phone I have neither of those and am lost.

prior to our meeting to try and get a feel for who/what I am.

Gets a bit strange that the first time you hear a voice is when I ask which hotel.  Usually a very quick exchange and doesnt help much in getting over the gitters.  Plus you better triple check to make sure you got the right number, not a good time to realize you got a bad number in the cell.

I did meet one lady that had a 'phone date'  a week before the event.  What an eye opener.  It was general conversation.  Nothing really about the date.  Just 2 friends chatting.  Made all the difference in the world.  I would say there was a conversion from nervousness to excitement.  Actually enhanced the date itself.  We pretty much established the chemistry right there.  

I wish they all did that.  

All my appointments are set up by email, I only use my burn phone to call and tell them I'm on my way or I am there. There really isn't anything to discuss. Any questions are answered at my website.

To me it is wonderful sitting and talking once I arrive where we can get to know each other, figure out what makes each other tick...it adds to the excitement, for me.

Whatever she is comfortable with. I have had phone convo's and texts and email. Doesn't matter to me.  Although I do prefer to look in her eyes when getting to know each other a little better.

I've never had a phone conversation before the first meeting. Only the, Hi I'm here, from the parking lot or whatever.
I have always been able to communicate by PM though which worked well for getting a sense of personality, discussing wardrobe and just getting to know each other.

I have always talked to the provider before making a first date. A UTR provider I will see next week sent emails back and forth for a couple of days before we talked on the phone for over an hour. After talking to her I find she has a sense of humor and is not ghetto. I went with Missmelissa for a time and her ghetto speech is a turn off for me. I was burnt once by her and now I will not go near an uneducated woman. It is my money and I want to spend it on some one I can enjoy.

I have had a number of dates with women who specifically requested a prior phone conversation and have always found that those chats contribute to the growing anticipation and excitement of actually meeting. I have other dates where we got to know each other through emails. One way or the other, prior communication is important to me. I do not want to see a provider who has no interest in getting to know a little about me as a prelude to our time together.

know a little bit about the guy. It is part of their screening process. I have no problem with this but sometimes being able to get some private time away from family to use the hobby phone can be challanging. Email is much better in that regard.

It just works for me, if a provider wants to talk on the phone before we meet that's ok with me. I can't remember when the last time I called a provider as a first contact point.  I have a date set for next week while I'm away on a business trip.   Did it all with emails, easy peasy!!  I can't stand leaving voice messages with providers.

Being an email only provider I do require a short phone chat before meeting.
I only speak with a gent on the phone after he has provided his references and they have been checked I will call him to finalize appointment details.Usually this is the day of or day before the appointment.
I like to be able to speak on the phone before meeting if it is only for 5 or 10min I usually ask the gents I see when is a good time to call them works for me!

I prefer email only until the day of our meeting.  Then I ask for a brief phone call right before our meeting.  
Of course, I want to get to know the gent's I'm seeing, BUT in person, not over email OR the phone beforehand.  

I'm sorry but the tire kickers, time wasters, and wanker's have spoiled the use of the phone for me.

I use email for all communication up until the day before when I will call to confirm the appointment. This let's the client get a feel for my voice, energy level, etc. Also they then have a phone number that they know I will call from when on my way to their appointment. If my clients feels the need to chat once before that time, I will do so. With first time clients, I don't entertain multiple phone calls before the meeting because everything and anything they need to know is already on my website. Email is an easier, cleaner way to set up the arrangement.

S