A thread on another forum got me to wondering about this again. I have never received a thank-you text or email from a provider, or just a text or email saying she had fun/a good time/appreciated the money.

This really makes me wonder about myself.

How about the other 65+ guys here. Do you get thank-you notes?

Are you one of those people who doesn't trust anyone under 65?  

and over 65 is somehow worse than under 65. Not a legitimate concern, I suppose.  

I get messages from a couple gals I see-and some I don't hear from.   Depends upon the gal-nothing to do with your age!

I have one gal in particular that is a facebook friend-we are in contact frequently .  I am also facebook friends with her husband and am on linked in with him !  (He knows the deal-but we never discuss the business I have with his wife)!

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I'm not quite 65, but providers seem to enjoy my company and I've never been turned down when I ask for a 2nd etc date.  But very few have sent me any kind of "thank you" on their own.  When I send them a thank-you, they always reciprocate, but I can count on one hand the times a provider has thanked me first.  Some just don't do that kind of thing.  

For example, I've seen a provider about once a month for a few years, and I know she enjoys our dates based on how she acts when I'm with her and her very positive response when I schedule a date, but she never sent me a thank-you text or email until recently when she sent me a very sweet thank-you text while I was driving home.  

Also, I know providers who are very careful about sending unsolicited communications to their clients, in order to respect their privacy.

but at times she beats me to the punch.

 
I think it is a nice touch.

I've texted girls or their agencies and gotten replies but not one has ever initiated a thank you.

Don't worry about it. It doesn't mean anything about you.

GaGambler had me feeling like a leper.

If I send a text thanking her, I'll get a reciprocal thank-you. If I send a joking text or such when it's been awhile, I'll get a friendly reply, although I don't do that without cause.

I thought it might be the age of providers I see, which is 25-33+ years old. I guess not.

I have a really good relationship with my current favorite, and have had a lot of fun (and perceived the lady did, too) with one-time providers.

I find it interesting that most don't seem to send thank-you's. I send every customer an email when he orders, thanking him for the order, letting him know when it will ship and when he can expect it to arrive. If the item is expensive, which they usually are, I'll call to let him know that it will be sent signature required, and to see if he needs it shipped somewhere else. Finally, after he's received the item, I email to make sure he's happy with it. A thank-you text seems like a minor effort by comparison.

Maybe you sample size isn't large enough.

Here's a idea, go out and fuck a hundred different hookers between now and the end of the year and then report back how many send you any kind of a thank you or other message after seeing them. I will do the same and we can compare notes. lol

MrFisher has sent texts first, NoGreenBorderedEnvelope said very few, and Erik_S has received none.  

I'll work on the sample size, though.

That's a great suggestion, mrfisher!

I've seen a few of the chicks Don has reviewed - some of them numerous times -  and I agree....they are not going to be flirty or say thank you after you leave. But I agree with Gambler, if you see a bunch more, a certain percentage will express their appreciation.  

There are a few ladies, I haven't even seen, and we chit chat occasionally about things other than biz.

Bottom line, it depends on the chick.

if you are going to finance this expedition. count me in.

I get Christmas cards from my bank.  

I'd say my rate of getting a spontaneous email from a provider is about 15%.  

Pretty much 100% of the locals verbally hint at return engagements.

The other day a provider complimented me twice on my "nice penis."

All of these things have deep personal meaning to me because they obviously have nothing to do with good business promotion.

If it is someone I haven't seen very often and don't know his 'situation at home' I won't do a followup. If I know it is ok to send a thank you via text or email, I often will. If it's someone I see all the time, I may or may not - just depends on an urge to say how much I like having him, 'cause I would be happy telling them everyday that I like to have them..  

But trying to be on the right side of caution, sending an unexpected text or email to a guy thanking him for a good time might end him up in trouble with his wife/girlfriend.
So, unless I know for sure it's ok...I'll wait and see if I get a follow-up from the stud. And then say how much I appreciated his visit.    
So I guess the 65+ guys have it all down pat - it just depends on the girl.

I had one thanking me, thought the sex was really good.  Another indicated i made it to her favorite list and would try to make time for me whenever i called, assuming i give her enough lead time. I consider myself just average and try ti be considerate if then

I have received a thank you message from several ladies.  Never a word about appreciating the money and I would not want her to.

Don leant me his Centurion Card for the purposes of this little experiment. I am sure there is plenty of room on it for you too. lol

NO!  
I am the one who is grateful and I don't send any notes.  I guess my reviews (when positive) count.

I'm like mrfisher, I like to send a quick email after the session letting her know how much I enjoyed our time together. I've also had a few send a text or email even before I did. One even gave me a nice card as I was leaving.

The simple answer is that true atfs generally always send a thank you. With everyone else, almost never.  

But there's a more complicated answer. This is strictly in my area, and strictly how the hobby has played out for me. I'm not generalizing for all areas, nor all experiences. Back in the day, the majority of ladies I contacted used a different business model. They bent over backwards when you made contact. They often sent provocative pics prior to the first session. Many sent pics throughout the year. They confirmed sessions prior to your departure. The actual sessions really felt like being with a girlfriend. When the session was over, I often hurried home because ladies would send their clever thank you, naked in bed just after I left.  

That business model has changed for me. Now, when making contact, many ladies don't respond at all. Of the ones who set up sessions, my last three new ladies flaked. Even when there is a session, there's a fulfill your duty aura in the room, instead of a let's have a relaxed good time. Instead of being with a girl friend, it feels like you're with a sex worker. In those situations there's no chance for a thank you. From my perspective, service has gone way down hill. That's why I rarely try to see new ladies anymore. I think about this from time to time, but when my few remaining regs from the old days retire, this hobby may end for me. It's not worth the exorbitant rates when the business model has gone the other way. Maybe I just had a run of good luck in the old days, and it's catching up to me, but gems are hard to find these days.

I have always found it to be a professional courtesy to follow up with an email, or phone text to say, "thank you!"
Sometimes I keep in touch & will send a sexy photo to hopefully bring a smile to their face.  IDK, but from what I hear I am a rare breed & they don't make them, like me anymore.  lol Smile 4 me!  

A simple thank you only takes a few seconds to type.  We have never met, but "thank you for this post!"  

If you have a business relationship with a provider, then I wouldn't expect much of a "thank you" from a provider. Seems that the personal touch in business has diminished significantly in the last few years and I've been in sales/customer service/retail ops for decades. I still strive for the personal touch with my customers and that has lead to significantly increased sales opportunities -- but not with all of them. Some appreciate the personal touch and some are just too busy/harried/underpaid-and-overworked.

I have a more personal relationship with two providers and we are in communication on a fairly regular basis. They know they can text or email me anytime (no SO worries for me) and, even though we are 250-400 miles apart, we stay in regular communication.

I texted one of them last week on her birthday to say "hi." She said she had a big grin knowing that I remembered her birthday and checked in to see how she was doing. Communication is a two-way street, and the simple act of saying "thank you" or remembering someone can go a long way to making their day.

We'd all like to feel a little more appreciated, right?

I always thank them, especially my ATF,  by text within a few minutes knowing they will usually have the time to read it.  

Upon leaving I prefer a warm "thank you" kiss rather than a text. We all don't carry 2 or burner phones.  Think about it.

I have received an unsolicited "thank you" perhaps once in several hundred encounters.

In contrast, I ALWAYS send a thank you. If it was really good, I text on the way home and follow up with an email when I have a real keyboard to work with.

I'm 62, they're usually 25-ish. Right, I pay them, but I still feel gratitude.

And good manners has paid off many times!

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I was with my favorite the other day, and she mentioned what good friends we've become, and it's true. We each know a lot about each other, which gives us more substantial things to talk and laugh about, and we get along great, despite the 34 year age gap.

She's never sent me a thank you, although we do exchange a fair number of texts.

I remembered today that there was a provider who texted me to thank me. She's the least attractive of any that I've seen, which I think makes a difference in the way she treats customers

I usually send a thank you email when I return home / hotel. In most cases, the provider responds with a similar note.

With a few ATF's, they sometimes beat me to the punch and send the thank you before I even get home which is sometimes a 2-hr. drive.

are not the type to say thank you after you leave?

..has more to do with it than age I would think. Most professionals would not contact a client unsolicited.  I usually send a polite note afterword.  If I get a response I figure I am welcome back.  I wouldn't over think this. Jim

I think you're right about that. As I recall, the only providers who ever contacted me unsolicited were ladies I'd seen several times, with whom I'd gotten friendly, and that was only via an email account that they knew was safe.

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Dumb ?,  eom?  Means what?

You are the best Lexi

No note but thank you comes with privledges your are granted, example 1st visit from T she wore a quite sun dress and her grace and attitude wowed me. Even to the point I slow to start and T noticed this and though it was my first time.
well great time. Donation plus 25.  Next visit asked to do more. Was allowed. Donation plus tip 25. With each visit more allowed. Dont worry about thank note or text. Action is the best thank you.

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It's a legacy of the previous version of this forum where you had to click on the subject line to see the body of the text.  But since the message was so short it fit in the subject line and the EOM was to tell you not to bother to click further because there was no body of text.  It was a click saver.  It's not really useful now.  I'll have to get out of the habit myself.

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I can put it on your credit card...

...  send a 'thank you for sharing yourself with me' text after I return home and slip into my bubble bath.  
 There is a lot to be said about showing ones appreciation  and extending the smiles we shared with a simple thank you .

I feel as though If I dont Ive been very rude to someone who has hosted my company, paid me well, and has tried to provide for my pleasure, as well.  

I do not feel that our time together is impersonal just because I am paid and feel that respect is mutually inclusive in our engagement, which means that a thank you e-mail is needed. IF someone is terribly behaved within the meeting, then I would not send one. However, that would be reserved for someone who had zero respect and who attempted to harm me.  

All this said, I have often wondered if the courtesy of a thank you note was more age related within the escort community, myself. Some of us do practice it, however, but not sure how common it actually is.

Occasionally, if I have been particularly good, my wife says something nice. (But I am not as charming as my friend Mr. Fisher)..

When I get a thank you from the man I have seen, it's just another perk for me. I know I've deserved my pay and have made him happy.  

Happiness is everyone being satisfied. I'm old school..an old broad with old fashioned etiquette, I guess.

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Recently I saw a girl who somehow didn't seem like the one I'd texted. Something about her tone. Nothing wrong with it, I was just a little curious. After our encounter I texted a request for a P411 Okay and I got back a response that I finally realized was boilerplate. It was *very* friendly and I know she was trying to enhance the mood and encourage me to come back, but, sheesh.

Sending and receiving "thank you" notes depends a lot on the lady (and on the gentleman).  When I give my "gift" before a service, it is always inside a "Thank you" card.  If I have been emailing to texting the lady, I usually follow with an email or text.  Often this is reciprocated.  The spontaneous notes I get from providers are often ladies I have seen multiple times...ones who I believe, feel "safe" in encounters with me (although I try to make ALL the ladies I see feel safe in my presence).  Often the note writers also tend to be the more mature providers.  I have seen providers from 18 to 58.  The ones that are 40+ are more often the ones who will contact me outside of the immediate period before or after an appointment.  I realize this is sometimes to drum up more business for late, but sometimes it is just to keep in touch.  I have become friends with some of them outside of the hobby, both in the not so real world of Facebook, and also in the real world of civvie life.

I always send the providers a thank you message via text if I had good time. They almost always send me a response thanking me too. I also have received thank you note but this is rare. But I have established a regular relationship with a lot of them( I have been lobbying for 6 years) and I've seen a few regularly. Some have sent me hello messages just to chat. A few would send me "hey there" message if they are in the area.

Please and, "Thank you"

 
Never gets old!

 
So, nice to see you, "thank you"

 

Every time I spanked his ass, I demanded a "thank you"

 

Every time I yanked his hair I demand a "thank you"

 

For every lick screams, "thank you"

 

For every stroke,  "fuck yes, thank you"

 
For every moan, it's a "thank you"

 

The sweet kiss goodbye, "thank you"

 
Enjoyed your company email, "thank you"!

 
Thank you, never gets old.

I always send a thank you, but rarely contact my clients. I cannot keep straight who has privacy and who does not. Many clients do not want any kind of "trail". Snoopy wives, unsecure work emails, etc. I have had friendly notes returned with "please do not contact me, my wife sees my phone".

That's a good point.

I always text a thank you after a session when I get home or am on the road home.   I believe the return rate is 100%.  They correctly assume that the time frame is safe.  I've never gotten a text out of the blue from a previously seen provider.