I think you raised some interesting questions (below), even if you asked them rhetorically.  You said:

"I saw a young man in his very early twenties who had never been with a woman before. That was way back when and this man now late thirties still sees mostly working girls. Did I do him a disservice by seeing him to begin with. Did that change his approach to communicating with other women about sex and relationships. I saw him for over 5 years at least twice a month."

I've always felt young men should be out in the real world dating women and learning the lessons of life that can only be learned in that environment.  Frankly, I think they need to develop those social skills and the only way to get them is to get out there and take your lumps dating.  

As we all know, the P4P isn't reality, and that's the whole point.  It's a wonderful fantasy woven by women with special skills who take pleasure in giving others pleasure.  If that's reality, then I want to move there!  But sadly, the real world doesn't work that way and young men need to learn how to interact and have social and sexual relations with regular women, rather than just take the easy way out and pay someone.  In the long run, they're much better off for it.

Now, that doesn't mean they can't see a provider now and then as a special treat, but when you make a steady diet of it, you're trying to escape reality.  When you're in your 20's and 30's the world is full of single women to date- unlike when you're much older like the gents on this board.  So, I personally think young guys do themselves a disservice when they rely on P4P for companionship.

I realize there are some men that will never get to experience the pleasure of a woman's company any other way, and there's nothing wrong with that.  I'm just saying you risk becoming socially stunted if you're in your 20's and you've never learned how to interact with women that you aren't paying to be nice to you.

I saw them because they had seen ladies I was familier with and had reviews. I got great reviews from them. I pass when I'm contacted by someone under 35 with no refs. One of them only sees ladies that are significantly older than his age. It is easier when I know they have seen someone before in or close to my age bracket.

I guess it's up to each lady to decide but go with your instincts. I'll admit the first time I felt kinda weird about it.

You are absolutely beautiful, Victoria, who could blame the young thang,lol?

xoxo,

Steph

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I am guilty ...I just saw a 71 yr old and  a 55 yr old  now a 25 yr old want to come see me but am dragging my feet  as he is a newbie  and  has a facebook acc....and will show ID  and pay rate yet I find myself  dragging my feet ......why is that?

... otherwise you'd never be able to drag me out of Krista Starr's in call *evil grin*

For me I dont care for the young ones.  I saw a girl once that was 22 and I was having all kinds of problems.  I am with Lobo, be older than my daughter.

And I dont fault anyone that likes the young ladies.  That is just my world and we all like different things.

but know how you feel victoria. It does feel strange seeing someone younger than your son and I have actually felt guilty a few times.

I saw a young man in his very early twenties who had never been with a woman before. That was way back when and this man now late thirties still sees mostly working girls. Did I do him a disservice by seeing him to begin with. Did that change his approach to communicating with other women about sex and relationships. I saw him for over 5 years at least twice a month.

I think for you victoria, making sure this young man is really who he says he is before you meet him. Facebook doesn't do that. Don't meet him if you are to uncomfortable because neither of you can benefit from such a meeting. Your a beautiful lady and he has a fantasy for seeing an older lady. Also he might have sexual problems that young girls don't understand. Nervous tension can ruin a good time for a young man's head. Performance anxiety is ageless

Kisses Haley

you test the waters, speak with him over the phone, be sure that he does not sound like he has mental issues,is educated but more important, MATURE. I met someone in  05  off RS2K. He was polite, a perfect gentleman, saw me every time I visited, I thought he was about 30 . Guess what? I was wrong. He was 27
but because he was very mature, I met him. The fact that he is on FB, well, that is a turn off to me. Maybe you can encourage him to join here. FB has minors on it and it would kinda creep me out to meet someone who uses FB has his reference. These guys have to start somewhere and he may not have the skills he wants in the room so this is an opportunity to be Mrs Robinson. But only you will know for sure if you give him a chance and at least talk to him on the phone. Who knows , you might be surprised at his maturity. Maybe his Father told him to do this too.


Good luck in whatever you choose its going to be the right answer because you know better what works for you.

Angela

I don't see young gentlemen. There are a number of reasons as to why and would offend some if I went into detail but the main one is that they don't have the maturity and respect for an older woman that I feel is necessary to be one of my clients. An older gentlemen I will see in a heartbeat.

Don't feel bad...we all have had that dilemma at one time or another.

Is it just his age that has you dragging your feet? You mention that he is a newbie. Maybe that is something that has you wondering if you want to see him. 25 is young but not all that young. Have you seen guys this young in the past? I assume you did when you were young but I mean in the last few years when you were more than a little older than that. Is it your "spidey" senses going off about just this one young man?
It's not ageism if that's not what you are really concerned about.

Just an aside. The Facebook thing is neutral. It's not something that should be "for" him nor "against" him.
Just some thoughts. But bottom line, figure out exactly what it is that has you dragging your feet.

well to be honest I had already  had a good day and maybe  I was not hungry enough .....by that I mean did not need to put myself through the what ifs.....I too have had many younger clients as young as 21 but my preference these days seems to lean toward a more mature man ...I do not want to always be that older woman experience where they think we have some special super powers .....or secrets to teach them

I'm sure they are sweet respectful kids but I have nothing in common with them and I get the creeps when my sons friends take off their shirts..so that just doesn't work for me..what if god forbid they turned out to be one of his friends..nope none for me thanks.

Re: You don't have super powers? THat's not what I heard eom

its all an illusion.... all smoke and mirrors....  but lets keep that secret S/L  so happy to see you here with us posting

...You do have super powers. ...and you do have something to teach them. Simply by being more mature and having experience you have much worth sharing. Simply by being with you he will learn. I think I know what you mean though. I have often stated that if you have to explain the Beatles it's not worth it. I have seen ladies in their 20's though and found that sometimes I didn't have to explain the Beatles. Now that was fun.
But you do have to be in the mood for that. When with a more mature person there is a lot of understanding without it being said ie you don't have to explain references to things that would be beyond a young persons age and experience.

I do wish that age restrictions like this were lifted b/c there are a lot of amazing ladies I will never get to see....but I do understand.  Things go so much better when the people involved have something in common, and that's tough when there's a 20-year age gap.  I can attest to this in my own personal experiences with older women - there have been some amazing moments, but there have also been some really awkward moments.

Luckily for me, I am moving closer to that magic age of 35.  Hopefully, there won't be a movement to suddenly push that up to 40!

Then I guess you answered your own question. Younger is not your preference but on a hungry day maybe you would consider. At least that is what I think it means?

yes hungry or horny .....I am bumping it up  to 33  tomorow morning and will see if he knows anything aboout the beatles lol

said "Gentlemen over 40 only"

I'm dreading the day when they start putting upper limits on.