Ladies, I have a question about doing BJ's or HJ's: How long is too long?  I'm an "old guy" who usually can't get it up without some meds, but these mostly deaden the sensations.  So, in a year of hobbying, with probably four dozen encounters in that time, I can still count on one hand the times I've actually come with a BJ or HJ.  These have usually been with Asian ladies who worked it and worked it, close to ten minutes or more, it seems.

I get embarrassed with American ladies, and usually tell them to stop after five minutes, as it seems like they're tiring and I don't want to put them out.  I feel like I probably could come if they kept working at it, but it becomes awkward, when they're working so hard and, it seems, most other guys they've been with seem to come in a minute or two.

Any thoughts?  I guess the guys can chime in here, too.

Thanks.

Just curious if you've tried them. I always carry them and many gents enjoy something they haven't in a long time!  
If the lady wears the condom, then you don't have to and for many of you; that is very helpful for you.  

I think it's your time and there are lots of inventive ways to have fun.  

Just a thought....I wish you lots of luck.

our ladies just wish every client was as considerate as you are..

Do you usually cum after five minutes?   I wouldn't even have you all revved up let alone ready to cum in just five minutes.

My suggestion is to find a lady who enjoys older guys and knows how to take her time and provide you a nice time - for alot longer than five minutes.

If you ever get to my neck of the woods, I'll be more than happy to give you a long slow bj.

I can never come in five minutes.  That was the point of the question: Am I expecting too much to have a lady work on me for ten-plus minutes?  The ones I've been with--except for some Asians--seem like they get frustrated when I haven't come in five minutes, so I just say "Let's move on to something else."  But, I wish they'd keep working.

Thanks for the offer, Naomi!  If I'm ever in Cleveland, I'll let you know.  

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It depends on how big you are for BJ...I can't say how long it would take as I have not met you but if a lady is done (or appears annoyed ) after 5 minutes I would be very disappointed. I will go until I I start to get sore...not too sore but I give it my all.

I will ask if there is anything special I can do. I think if I give it my best shot and communicate to you that I am okay and enjoying whatever we are doing, it will allow you to relax and possibly not let stress get in the way.

If you are constantly worried about how she feels, and I can see why, it will have a negative effect on you. It's all about finding a lady that has some patience. Maybe you can discretely mention that in your communication with her.

I agree with Kelly and the other gals. As people age, their needs change. This is true for men as well as women.

Don't worry, you're definitely not alone. Most of my clients are 55+ (I love older men) and the majority of them have the exact same issue.

You should definitely spend some time in search of a provider who is experienced with mature men. Look at her ratings, of course, but also read her reviews. Of course YMMV, but most men will be very explicit when detailing their hobbytime.

I'd also recommend sticking with older, more experienced providers. It goes without saying that the more years she's been in the business, the more men she's come to know.

And when you do find that special lady, explain your situation and your past experiences, but then relax and let her do what she does best. Remember, she's a professional! I'd recommend you begin the evening with dinner out, flirt a bit during that time, smootch like teenagers in the car. Then when you get back to your place, spend a goodly amount of time kissing, stroking her hair, cuddling - long before any clothes come off.

When things move to the bedroom, take things slow. Engage in some mutual massage, complete with massage oil and aromatherapy, candlelight, soft music, etc. Take things slow. Just sit back, relax, and don't worry about the end result. If it feels good, just bask in the glow of her company. Don't concentrate on the end result. Just let things happen naturally.

If things go reasonably well (even if you don't achieve your ultimate goal), then visit with the same lady a few more times. When people learn what each other enjoy, things improve over time. In my experience, the second date is always better than the first.

Oh, and go to your local naughty toy store and ask the clerk for topical cream that will increase your sensitivity. I use Rocket Balm. But it doesn't work for everyone. Better yet, ask your lady friends to bring their best stuff. You are surely not the first gent they've seen whose Mr. Happy is reluctant to give up the goods.

If you're ever in Asheville NC, look me up.

....I love to give so I'll keep going and going like the energizer bunny lol. I've gone almost an hr before the gent stopped me (didn't cum but he enjoyed me trying ^_^). I'm a "do it with no hands" type mostly (find it more fun) but by suggestion I'll throw hj in.  5 mins seems only like a warm-up to me lol.

Some just seem to love it, and can't get enough of it.  One gal I see loves to bring me to the brink, then back down, then start all over again.  Sort of like a tantric session, though I don't think she even knows what the word means.

Other gals may not love it, but do a decent job.  They will usually go about 10-15 minutes, and hasten things with a combo HJ while they continue the BJ.

Dear Fallon:
I know that during sex when women get excited they tend to disseminate their juices. With that said, I am wondering when you are wearing your Female Condom do your sensual amigos still feel you warmth as easily if you were not wearing a female condom? Also would you stellar record of satisfaction be the same as when you didn't use the FC?  Just curious of your experiences. Also what are the best brands on the market and would they also make polyurethane FC's as well?

The female condoms are terrific! I keep them on hand too. In fact its reading Fallons post that made me order some
Hugs and kisses
TL

The one comment I get and I feel it to is, "I feel more body heat" once inside using an FC2.  
I would say yes, juices still flow; and you have to lube the FC2 inside and out or you could get a distracting, slogging, sucking kind of sound going on if the FC2 is not "in place" if that makes sense....

They like you not to cum soon and will slowly work it. In my experience the journey is better than the destination. Once you reach the destination there is not much to enjoy so enjoy the ride. I have a provider who will make come close and then hold back for about 45 minutes to an hour. I can assure you that the whole session is so awesome ---- you are in a kind of pleasure trance.

I have never understood this need to cum quickly