I have a pretty good relationship with my ATF. See her every 3-4 weeks, even though she's about 500 miles away. In between we keep in touch by text, usually talk once a week. To be honest, I am flattered to have that close of a friendship. But some times I'll send her a message and it'll be a couple of days before I hear from her. Or, she'll just disappear for days at a time. I know it's work. But here's the question:
How many me's does a lady have? How many on-going multiple business friendships do you have to juggle...not to mention "Civvie" friendships? It just dawned on me that every one else she sees are not one-time only clients...that there has to be gentlemen who are just as friendly with her--maybe even more so--than I am. Every lady wants and needs good, consistent clients, and must maintain some level of contact to keep them coming back. But..... How stressful is it for you trying to keep us happy OUT of the bedroom...much less IN the bedroom?
Well, most of us , aren't paid to keep you happy outside of the bedroom.
I would not consider it stressful if I were asked to keep someone happy
outside of the room . But can they afford it? Why else would we feel we should so this?
it's a business. WTF?
And yes, it is hard to juggle your own personal time with friends who do need your extra attention. Yesterday I shut all my phones off and sat naked under a tree. I felt a little selfish but just needed that chill time.
One phone call a week isn't a problem to me and can be a friendly chat. I have a few older Gentlemen I talk to every other day because their alone. I'm making the call and try to time it so it doesn't interfere with other things that might be pressing.
I'm glad your understanding about her schedule because there are times when e-mail, checking references, making calls to talk with new people you hope to see and then seeing those who have booked can be tough for a busy lady or one that travels never mind if she might have a family.
Kisses Haley
How many me's? you asked. Could be any number, from 1 to whatever. You are not conscentrating on the right part. An ATF does not HAVE to keep you happy outside the bedroom. Some do not hear from thier ATF between dates and still keep them as a regular. So then talking and texting are not something she HAS to do. YOU sir have a relationship with her 'outside the bedroom'. Obviously she likes you. Enjoy that, who knows you just may be the only one she does that with but remember she isnt you girlfriend. She has her own life and she has a business to run. She is your friend and friends dont always get right back to you. If you are as bad as me I jump when I get that email lol. And I respond as fast as possible. But then I am only dealing with her. I think if it becomes stressfuk to her you will be the first to know.
I know she has to juggle multiple clients. She owes me nothing off the clock.
But you are right...a text is the highlight of my otherwise crappy day. I always try to let her lead, even initiate this....cause it could very easily get out of hand. What is new here is that I've rarely seen a provider for multiple dates. Obviously, this is a special situation, and I should treat it as such.
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Dont ever become a nuisance and eat up her time. just be a friend and see he rwhen you can. And always treat her with the respect that obviously you have in the past. May the chemistry live long and prosper.