ED, I can get hard jacking off but have problems when intercourse is involved! Also get hard in the middle of the night.  And, no I am not gay.  ED medicines do not help. What the hell is going on?  

see your doctor. He/she might refer you to a specialist.

We are all (?) over sixty and play around. That being said, you don't say much about the circumstances where ED occurs during intercourse. We are all a little different but...

It helps if you really like the lady. At our age, the game is very mental and "a warm hole" just doesn't do it.

Foreplay, foreplay... Do you like? Do you do? Time is your friend, allows you to fantasize and for the little head to catch up...

Everybody gets nigh woodies even at us decrepit old farts...

I am blessed to be 65 and for the most part no sign of ED (knock on wood). Exercise seems to help...

...if you have problems with intercourse, but not jacking off.  Your libido seems to be okay because you're getting hard when you're sleeping.

ED meds should have helped, unless you have a mental block about condoms.  Find a provider who uses female condoms.  They're the closest thing to bareback.

Jerking off is usually a stronger physical stimulus than even BJ's.    

They say (I don't independently know) that the younger generation brought up on online porn has trouble in the bedroom now because the porn/jerkoff stimulus is greater than actual sex so the young guys can't perform well.

I used to watch a lot of porn and would edge for hours when I got to a real woman everything worked except no orgasm. One day on youtube I noticed a discussion by gary wilson called your brain and porn. Everything he said made sense you are conditioned yourself thru the porn and edging to delay your orgasm (porn induced ed). The cure is quite simple. no porn,masterbation edging for 60-90 days if you are an old timer. As the  previous response indicated if you are young and brought up on internet porn it may take longer. You can probadly find garys speech on youtube and he has a book called your brain on porn. Also there is  a website dedicated to porn addiction. As for me after 60 days no problems at oragasm. I might mentioned that people state that they have orgasm issues with ed drugs which is not do to the drugs because all they do get you an erection its due this condition.

Yep, a number of meds have the potential to delay/inhibit arousal, maintaining an erection and preventing orgasm even if you're still able to maintain hardness.

I had an issue with gabapentin -- while I was fine with my original dose of 2 caps per evening, when my doc thought going to 3 caps a night would help me sleep more soundly through the evening, my ability to achieve an orgasm came (pun intended) to a screeching halt! Went back to 2 caps a night and things returned to normal.

My doc had never heard of this side effect with "such a mild dose increase," which just shows that everyone is a unique biome with their own set of potential interactions. Consult with you physician about meds and their potential to influence your penis' performance.

Hi!  All good and thoughtful responses to very real and somewhat common issue.  I would like to offer my services.  I have condoms in three sizes, as well as girl condoms but, the right human connection may be just the thing.   No stress, no drama.  Warmest hugs and naughty kisses...love and laughter...  
Kaylie  TER139738  

Totally agree about female condoms.
They're wonderful.  I wish more ladies offered them as an option.

The best way to perform well in bed with a lady is to practice.  By yourself.  Which every guy does, however many of us have a very specific way we masturbate.  Try and retrain how your brain and cock work together.

Two thoughts...

1) If you really do have a problem with condoms - masturbate with one.  Sounds strange I know but give it a try.  Not every single time, but enough where you are very confident you can use one during "game time."  Putting it on, getting used to how it feels, etc.  Once it becomes practiced behavior it helps alleviate the stress with a woman present.

2) If you always masturbate in one position, mix it up.  If you want to try some standing sex for example, then masturbate standing up.  Just like the guy who asked how to get to Carnegie Hall... "Practice, my boy, practice!"

ED meds give me terrible headaches so I don't typically use them.  But exercise, good diet, meditation, and practicing under simulated real world conditions help a great deal.  Use everything at your disposal - but be aware that there is much more than just drugs to help you.

I hope you find something that works well for you.

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