I can agree with this. I'll also add the following:
What will never play well with me is the "Do as I say, not as I do" thinking. It's hypocrisy at its finest, not to mention that it easily leads to authority figures building their own little personal fiefdoms.
Posted By: Claudius42310
is counterproductive and unhelpful. there are folks who need a free for all, folks who need civility and a small number of folks who are comfortable going either way.
it is good to know where you are comfortable and very wise to not turn a preference for a particular style into a requirement: either here or there but not both..... it reminds me of the dysfunctional polticians of both parties in DC. it also reminds me of "you're either with me or against me" illogic of cult leaders.
i'll digress a little on "artificial division" thinking since it is a pet peeve of mine. i'm certainly not saying azvictoria is doing the following. one can use false dilemma actively as a means of control or fall into it passively by honest mistake.
false dilemma and black-white thinking are tools that are used by folks who want to have power over others. the way it works unfortunately both gentlefolk and rougherfolk try to use that fallacious thinking in order to get the masses in line.
i've been on the internet since it was invented. (i even remember FidoNet and ARPAnet.) discussion groups have always had this tension between gentlefolk and rougherfolk. it always turns into a struggle. all that has been ever needed was a clear set of rules or posting guidelines and moderators willing to enforce them consistently but loosely enough so that the life isn't squeezed out of the board.
lacking that, all too commonly an in-group anmong the gentles or the roughs tries to squeeze the other side out. the false dilemma gets deployed as a weapon to drive "other" folks off the board. the result is that you are left with a board that is so homogenous that there is nothing to say and so nothing is said.
the situationin TER is interestingly different in that there are two separate boards that have different paradigms in ascendancy. it will be interesting to see how that plays.
what will never play well with me is us versus them thinking.