throw him in a jacuzzi with 100 water jets and something to drink....that'll get him going again...!! Wink

I suspect he has not been with a beautiful lady frequently. You might ask how quick he cums when he masturbates. You might tell him the next time he sees you you will not have sex with him and you are going out. With most men it is the anticipation that is triggering the excitement. And for those of us who seem to be one pop guys I am amazed that some ladies can coax a second pop. For those ladies we seem to share something a little deeper.

I am curious if he is married and how often he has sex with his wife? I am sure like a marriage the excitement will where off and things will be normal in time.

For some of us, edging can be very exciting, communication is key to getting to the edge will out spilling the load. Training the mind and body actually can lead to better sex. When he is about to cum tell him to think about something that does not arouse him like his wife. I must admit some providers skills are so good I too am finished in a moment. One provider I know likes to get her men off in the first 5-10 minutes so they can enjoy their time together with out performance anxiety. There are many aspects to the problem.

Don't let the mind prevent you from an experience of a lifetime.

I wonder if you ladies realize the excitement that builds in us gents in anticipation of an upcoming date.  I have always gotten excited before a date but not to the extent that I do now.  I think the problem is that since I am retired I don't have the usual distractions to take my mind off the upcoming date.  When I knock on your door, my adrenaline has been pumping like mad for some time.  Although I'm not as bad as your gent is.  I tend to pop as soon as I make my first penetration and it doesn't matter what position we are in.

Your question has made me think as to what I can do to help myself.  I am a great believer in self-hypnosis.  I am going to start listening to a relaxation tape; I will listen to it several times the day before the date and at least once before I knock on your door.

I bet if I serf the Internet, I will find a tape that addresses this problem.

I just remembered what helped when I was younger.  My premature ejaculation was a signal that I was not getting it often enough.  In such cases, I tried to schedule another date within the next two days.  If I had sex within that time frame, I hadn't had time to build up a head of steam.  Then I had to work to to pop,

It's called "How To Make Love All Night, and Drive A Woman Wild" by Barbara Keesling Ph.D.

It's one of a number of books teaching the same technique, but this one is an easy read and I know it works because I used the techniques with good results.  I used it to be able to have multiple orgasms naturally, but as I got older, I lost the ability to do that, and my refractory period got longer.  This solves both problems.

Basically, you strengthen the PC muscle over the course of about a month, then you learn to judge your arousal level in order to squeeze the PC muscle just at the right time in order to prevent ejaculation.  You still have an orgasm, but it's "dry", similar to what they teach in tantra.  The advantage to a guy like your client is he'll also learn how to control all aspects of his arousal, not just the moment before orgasm.

Another poster mentioned he might not have much experience with women, or maybe it's been many years since he had an active sex life, and that's certainly a possibility.  In either case, he can be helped by the simple techniques in this book.  It will be even easier for him to learn if he has the understanding and cooperation of a sympathetic partner such as you.  If you let him know that's it's OK to "practice" on you, in a couple months he'll be a totally different and much happier guy.

It works to slow me down, or did when coming too quickly was a problem.  It also increases arousal.

That he has someone like you who is caring and concerned to help him with this issue.

before getting on ed pills I had a similar problem what worked for me was schedule a shorter first date with a lunch either with or without the lady and then schedule a second more full filling date. This would all depend on his refractory time, for me an hour to an hour and a half away would be more then enough. I was never so bad that I couldn't cum twice in a day. Eventually my fav started to come with me OTC and we had fun times together as well as two sessions. Spending more time together without sex got me comfortable and able to perform more normally. In all cases the more I did it in a given day the more control I gained.

The additional time was not great...  like 15 w/o to 30 with.  Truely this must be mental...  I have "sort of" the opposite problem.  I have brain & spinal cord injury, obiviously partial...  but if I lose focus, I'll lose the erection.  Any distraction (Tv, too much music, outside noises, bills to be paid, an arguement)...  slips into my mind & it's gone (temporarily).  I can lose it when I focus on giving to my partner.  A small dose of V, can keep things going for me IF I keep my focus.  

I wonder if you try a social meeting...  he should know that nothing is going to happen until the end.  Condition him to being with an attractive & sexy woman without immediate sex.  Maybe some meetings without sex allowed.  Other times if there willbe sex, you should dress covered but so you can undress easily if you know what I'm getting at.  Maybe have distractions like bright lights, TV...  

There are some medications that can help but I don't know how he would get his doctor to prescribe them...  in private...

can call a provider for clients...  nurses don't get hasrrassed by the DOM (Dirty Ole Man)...  hell they are just horny, not their fault they lived to be old.   I am descended from one elderly gent who had a child approaching 90 years old (third wife).